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First Person Valentine's Day

10 Years Ago, I Had the Most Chaotic Valentine’s Day Plans Possible

Chicago, Winter 2015. I’m doing a cringe-worthy, cliche version of Living In Chicago In Your Early Twenties.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 12, 2025 3 Comments
LESBIAN MOVIES FOR EVERY VALENTINE'S DAY VIBE
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Lesbian Movies for Every Valentine’s Day Vibe

Whether you’re single, recently dumped, in love, or somewhere in between, we’ve got Valentine’s Day lesbian movie recs for you!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 11, 2025 4 Comments
A hand chopping down a tree with an ax, A black person voguing, and Two queer people dancing with balloons around them
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft Valentine's Day

What Do the Signs REALLY Want for Valentine’s Day?

No matter what zodiac sign(s) are your sweetie(s)’s, it’s probably a good idea to butter them up with what they really, really want for Valentine’s Day.

Nico February 6, 2024 5 Comments
a paper heart on a wall with words written on it: Note To Self, I love you!!
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I Don’t Care What Anyone Says, Valentine’s Day Is a Superior Holiday — And I’m Single

When I think about why Valentine’s Day is so important to me, I find it important to distinguish between self-care and radical self love. 

Em Win February 13, 2023 3 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft Valentine's Day

Your Zodiac Sign as a Creepy Vintage Valentine’s Day Card

Always. Always. Always compliment a Libra’s outfit. You don’t want to find out what happens if you forget.

Nico February 9, 2023 34 Comments
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9 Sensual Gifts You Can Get for Your Own Damn Self This Valentine’s Day

Whether you’re single or partnered, you’re allowed to get yourself the gift of a little Valentine’s Day treat.

Ro White February 9, 2023 4 Comments
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Crafts & DIY Projects Valentine's Day

How To Make Valentine’s Day Cards for Your Friends

We’ve been through shit, and sometimes we need to thank the people who got us through it.

Em Win February 7, 2023 3 Comments
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Playlist: Love Songs Gifted By Exes

I asked some of my friends whether they had any love songs that they still love today, originally given to them by exes.

Analyssa February 13, 2022 7 Comments
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Valentine's Day

Hot, Creative Ways to Spend Valentine’s Day With Yourself, Your Friends or Your Partner(s) That Don’t Involve Flowers or Chocolate

Let’s take Valentine’s Day by its fuzzy, pink horns and hold on for dear life.

Ro White February 11, 2022 5 Comments
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How To Surprise Your Partner for Valentine’s Day When You’ve Spent Every Day Together for Two Pandemic Years

It can maybe seem silly to “celebrate” Valentine’s Day — you’re together all the time! But that’s why it’s important to carve out some intentional time together and also shake things up from your daily routine.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 8, 2022 3 Comments
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Valentine’s Day Gifts For 10 Queer Archetypes

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 3, 2022 15 Comments
First Person Valentine's Day

Making Amends with Valentine’s Day

I hid behind instruments, computers, Whitney’s voice, Prince’s guitar. I sat in front of my computer surrounded by cassettes, illegally downloading songs, awkwardly whispering “I love you more than I know how to explain and I’m scared so here’s a mixtape I made you.”

shea wesley martin February 11, 2021 8 Comments
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Get Into These Valentine’s Day Sex Toy Picks (and Get Your Date Off Valentine’s Weekend)

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Guest February 6, 2021
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QUIZ: What Kind of Queer Valentine’s Date Are You?

And what kind of toy are you bringing? 👀

Guest February 2, 2021 11 Comments
Valentine's Day

What Sets A Lady On Fire: @notallgeminis Valentine’s Day Memes

A very special astrological meme valentine from @notallgeminis to Autostraddle. Find your sign, check your Venus and Mars, see what sets your heart aflame.

Courtney Perkins February 14, 2020 8 Comments
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11 Multifunction Couple’s Toys for Making Your Own Fun this Valentine’s Day

We grow closer to people by figuring things out together. The best bonding experience is both of you creating it yourselves, and this Valentine’s Day you can do just that with these multi-function, flexible toys.

Rachel January 23, 2020 5 Comments
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft Valentine's Day

Who Do You Love: @notallgeminis x Autostraddle Do Queer Valentine’s Day Memes

Happy Valentine’s Day! We heard you like astrology memes so we teamed up with @notallgeminis and made you this gift.

Courtney Perkins February 14, 2019 26 Comments
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Sharing Is Caring: 10 Sex Toys Perfect for Couples This Valentine’s Day

Although you can have fun getting busy with a partner with any kind of toy you’re into, these toys designed specifically with couples in mind can leave you and your cutie feeling more satisfied than a Domino’s heart-shaped pizza this Valentine’s Day.

Rachel January 31, 2019 1 Comment
Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day Cards For Queer Women, Pt. 2

Send a little cutie to your cutie.

Erin February 14, 2018 19 Comments
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Kristen Kish’s New Cookbook Helped Me Wine and Dine My Valentine and So Can You

“I almost fainted when I tasted it. Do I really need to say more? Go get this book, make everything in it, and proudly display your new membership to the Kristen Kish fan club this Valentine’s Day.”

Reneice Charles February 12, 2018 12 Comments
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