Results for: be the change
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Love Is Not a Lie: In Sickness and in Health
“Our wedding plans went on hold when I found myself unable to get out of bed.”
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Finding Friendship Between Past and Present
She is living her best life. I am living mine. It is as though we released each other.
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I Tried New Trans Dating App Fiori and All I Got Was This Personal Essay
“She admired my tits like only someone else on estrogen could and then she grabbed them harder than anyone had before.”
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Love Letters Across the Atlantic: How Distance Changes Your Relationship
“To date long distance then live with the other in person is to be in two versions of the same relationship. One wishes desperately for the future and is fueled by daydreams of the past; the other tries to make every waking moment something special and ignores the fact that time is passing, whether we like it or not.”
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Love That Looks Like Me: Finding My Queer, Non-Binary Place in the Wedding Industry
“And there was Susan and Rachel at the heart of it all, dancing to the band Susan had sworn would play her wedding if she ever got married. As they laughed and moved to the music and worked up such a sweat that their jackets had to come off, I saw a glimpse of the future wedding I hope for, marrying someone I love, the two of us not fitting so strictly into the feminine.”
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How to Make Adult Friends
“One thing most people don’t remember when approaching these kinds of situations is that the other person is likely terrified and nervous as well, worried about vulnerability and compatibility and wanting something too much.”
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How I Learned to Navigate Vaginismus as a Lesbian
“This is what happened for me: I started crying as soon as I put my legs into the stirrups.”
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A Balance In Subspace
Sometimes, being in kinky subspace opens old wounds from an abusive relationship — but sometimes, it can give you the power to close them.
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Community, Care, and a Femme Sex Coven
“It was everything I had been looking for, only better, because it came along with smooching and cuddling and spanking.”
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Sexts From My Sickbed: How I Learned to Love My Queer Sick Body by Getting Naked
“How could an incapacitated person feel let alone be sexy, I catch myself thinking. Now, when I have those thoughts, I take out my camera.”
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Bottoms Up: That Time I Told My Boifriend I Liked Being Told What to Do
How do you tell someone, “Hey, I’d love it if you’d slap me around and tell me what to do”?
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Love Non-Orgasmically: She’s Not Coming But We’re Still Here
“I came. You didn’t. I’d kind of expected it to happen because of our connection – hoped egotistically anyway. I was disappointed but figured I’d give it time.”
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Visiting Family After Marrying my Wife, Part 1: Packing My Suitcase
“Since the wedding has made me come out to more people than I had ever intended, this trip back to my place of origin makes facing their reactions inevitable. Will my physical presence stoke the intensity of their opposition?”
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The Things You Say
Was I so far from the idea of trans in her head, that there was no way I could be “one of them”? Or did she refuse to make the association because there was something so wrong with being a trans woman that she could never be attracted to one?
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Marriage Isn’t A Coupon You Have to Redeem
“Marriage is like a chlorinated community pool that we now get access to. I think that people forget that queers have been swimming in the ocean the whole time.”
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On Navigating the Unexpected Death of a Queer Friend
“You may have lost someone who may have meant different things to you than they did to other people, but at the end of the day you know who they were to you, and perhaps what they meant to your community of queers.”
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Searching For The Right Sex Toy Is A Lot Like Searching For Yourself
“It’s as if I’d grabbed one of these plastic penises off the digital shelf and used it either until I was bored or until I realized that, no matter how I angled it, this just wasn’t going to work out.”
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Am I On A Date Or Are We Just Two Pretty Girls Hanging Out?
“There was so much fucking estrogen and so many ladies who fist other ladies in that building, my ovaries tried to reproduce asexually.”
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On Sobriety, Recovery and the Art of Not Dating
“My sobriety buddies warned me that if I violated the ban on dating before I was ready, I might be pushed into a relapse. Instead, I’ve just been pushed into never wanting to date again.”
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The (Over)Thinker: On How To Be A Human With Another Human
I wrote a letter to myself about over thinking in a relationship. Maybe I wrote this letter to you as well.