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11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
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The 12 Lesbian Love Languages
You might be familiar with the 5 Love Languages — but do you know the 12 Lesbian Love Languages? Great news, I just made them up: from “premature commitment” to “nesting” to “gay chaos,” let’s dig into this life-altering and deeply scientific understanding of what makes it all work out.
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You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?
I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to feel like my cup is full as I am, and then be able to use that to help fill our cup.
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Dykes on Dates: Parents Weekend
We went on a bunch of double dates with my parents, and it made me realize our relationships are more similar than I thought.
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How Chloe Caldwell’s “Women” Shaped My Queer Heartbreak
I couldn’t acknowledge that this was unsustainable, that my life wasn’t the novella I had convinced myself it was.
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Asking My Fiancée Questions I Don’t Know the Answers to a Month Before Our Wedding
“Have you ever called someone the wrong name during sex?”
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices
Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs and feelings; it’s not surprising that this is when the resentment can really start to build!
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7 Signs It’s Time for Couples Therapy, According to a Queer Relationship Therapist
You don’t have to wait for an extreme problem to seek out couples therapy.
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You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?
Long distance will always be challenging; here are the ways you can strengthen the way you navigate those challenges.
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Heart Whisperer: How I Found My Way to a Love That’s Lasted 45 Years
In the autumn of 1977, I met the partner of my dreams, and we’ve been sailing through life together ever since.
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Dating a Librarian Is The Best Thing To Happen To My Bookshelves
What dating a librarian and fellow writer taught me about organization and intimacy.
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8 Self-Help Books about Lesbian Relationships
Here are eight non-fiction self-help books about lesbian relationships, partnerships, marriage, and dating!
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Dykes on Dates: Bowling Is the Epitome of Romance
You get to talk a bunch, like a dinner date but with an added activity — one almost insists you stare at your partner’s ass.
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You Need Help: Can I Go Through this Heartbreak Again?
In order to work through problems in a relationship, both parties must be present, willing, and able to do the work required. It’s a little like you’re sitting side by side in a rowboat, each holding one oar. When one person does all the rowing, you’re only going to go in circles.
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The 68 Absolutely Gayest Ways You Met Your Gay Partner(s), According to the 2022 Reader Survey
“We met in 1995. I was in grad school and had a job at the campus women’s center. I helped her hang an art show. We later hung out at a feminist science fiction convention. We’ve been together ever since.”
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You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice
I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.
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Homo Reno: 13 Tips for Keeping Your 5 Year Queer Relationship Intact While Renovating the House You Live In
Sometimes you are going to have to undertake a project during which it will be inevitable that you will scream at each other. My advice is to just kind of pretend it didn’t happen.
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You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend
If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.
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You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.
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What The Pandemic Taught Me About Healthy Queer Love
To live out a love that is healthy, queer, non-mongamous has been a source of deep personal transformation.