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24 Actions You NEED to Take to Help Trans Women of Color Survive
This isn’t just exhausting. This is intergenerational trauma, oppression, and maybe even genocide. This violence is specifically targeted against black and brown women, gender non-conforming folks, and especially trans women of color.
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P-Valley Has Changed the Rules of Black Queer Storytelling
A roundtable between four queer black writers about THEE show of the summer that united exceptional storytelling, with blackness and queerness and southernness, in ways we’ve never seen before.
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Kehlani’s Virtual Concert Was My Queer Full Circle Moment
It wasn’t just a concert, but a gift for their younger self — wrapped in a melodic embodiment of empathy and present-day wiseness.
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Six Black Queer Travelers Share How They Attempt to Locate Community Around the Globe
As a Black queer traveler, there are a whole host of reasons why finding other Black queer communities can be difficult. Black Queer Travel Guide spoke to six Black queer people about their experiences of trying to find Black queer family wherever they go.
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Year of Our (Audre) Lorde: November’s Sister Love
It has felt hard to state how much I’ve been missing my family lately. But Audre Lorde and Pat Parker’s relationship is a testament to the life-affirming power of queer kinship. Their enduring love attests to the power and beauty of Black queer sisterhood.
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Your Girlfriend’s Family Is Racist and You Should Probably Get the Hell Out of There
“How much do I need to engage with my serious girlfriend’s racist immediate family members? She is close with them, and I’ve spent time with them in the past, but put simply I no longer have the energy or inclination to do so, even though I love my gf.”
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The Complicated Nature of Sex for Asian Women
Our trans subject editor Xoai Pham speaks to Jayda Shuavarnnasri, Thai-American sexuality educator and resident #SexPositiveAsianAuntie, about sexual violence, myths about polyamory, and what it means to take up space as Asian women.
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How Tam Found Empowerment in the Closet
What are you to do when you are a Vietnamese asexual and aromantic woman who grew up in white, cishet, francophone-dominated Montreal in the 1980s and 1990s?
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The Angsty Buddhist: Chronic Pain & Trying Not To Be A White Yoga Lady
I’ve been told I should try to reclaim my ancestral healing practices, and this is something I would like to do. When I try to learn about Chinese things, it feels performed. I wonder if me learning qigong is any better than white lady yoga.
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Black Women Organizers Deserve More Than Just Your Flowers and Thank Yous
Black women didn’t save this democracy for you and we don’t need your “Thank Yous.” We need you to follow the example that Black women have set for more than the last 200 years: Roll up your sleeves and get to work. Here’s a few concrete places where you can start.
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Con El Aceite de Coco Nos Sanamos: Lessons From My Elder
In Ifa, a Yoruba-based religion, we believe that when we die, we are reincarnated into our same family lineage. I’ve imagined all the ways in which it would be possible that my grandmother was once my sister, or my aunt, a friend in a past life or even a version of me. We depended on each other in so many ways.
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Editor’s Notes: On Black History Month 2021
I am unapologetically, over the moon, absolutely just cheesy cornball, would probably make you roll your eyes levels, proud of being Black, especially during this — the 28 Blackest days of the year.
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How to Talk to Your White Friends and Family About Racism
As annoying as it is, probably, to hear it, you really have to lead with love. It’s not our responsibility to love people who hate us or wish us ill, but if those people are your friends or family, it is yours. If you genuinely care about your family and want them to be and do better, let that ground your conversation.
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Queer Latina Tiffany Cabán Is Running For NYC Council, Bringing Hope To 2021
She ran a progressive campaign for Queens DA that put New York’s establishment on notice, and now has NYC Council in sight. “It’s not about good people or bad people, it’s just about people. We need to divest from policing and incarceration and invest in the true sources of safety.”
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“A New York Christmas Wedding” Asks You to Believe in the Power of Love at Christmas
I love Christmas. I love having a guardian gayngel. And even when the movie is not great, I love a queer Afro-Latina in New York getting her very own Gay Christmas Love Story.
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Stephanie Beatriz and Daphne Rubin-Vega on “In the Heights” and Queer Latinas Finding Love in the Everyday
“To really be in a moment where I could fully inhabit and celebrate all those things that we call limitations. Or let me say that better, what we perceive of as a limitation, being an incredible source of strength. I love that.”
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Where My Black Witches At? Using Black Ancestral Magic Against White Supremacy
From actual hexes to binding spells, witchcraft has a long tradition in the fight to dismantle white supremacy. A new generation of Black witches are taking part in the resistance using ancestral practices, ideologies, and modern technology.
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What Is Queer Fiction? An Interview with Patrick Yumi Cottrell
The first time I encountered a book with queer characters must have been James Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room. At the time I remember feeling afraid of its intensity. Now it’s one of my most returned-to books along with Lydia Davis’ The End of the Story.
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Europe’s CuTie.BIPoC Festival Is a Life Raft in the Sea of Whiteness
CuTie.BIPoC Fest gives me hope that it’s possible for spaces to exist that don’t sit under a roof of white supremacy, patriarchy or capitalism.
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Year of Our (Audre) Lorde: August’s New Spelling of My Name
In my own myth, New York has been the cornerstone of what shaped me, finally allowing myself to be in my queerness. While the New York I inhabited and the one of Audre Lorde’s life looked radically different, Lorde’s relationships and the women she loves and lusts for each leave her fuller than before.