The Queer Gardener’s Almanac: Winter

A masthead showing various gardening accoutrements in front of a giant moon

Illustrations by Gillian Lake-Thompson

We all know queer people love to be outside. Like, really, really love it. While the flight of LGBTQ people to urban centres and consequently minuscule dwellings is well-established, Autostraddle’s giant survey last year showed that queers will make the most of even the tiniest outdoor patches they can get their green-fingered mitts on. It’s time we celebrated the wide open spaces of our rural and suburban queers too, imagining the possibilities for the expanses we inhabit today or dream about tomorrow.

Seeing my parents gardening as a child, maintaining borders to appropriate levels of suburban respectability, I assumed that once I hit thirty the knowledge of all plants would be bestowed upon me. Gardening was just one of the trappings of adulthood that one didn’t so much do as embody, like wearing clicky heels, or re-mortgaging, or dusting.

Spoiler to readers aged 29 and under: plant knowledge does not magically happen. For many years I lamented to my country-reared wife, Gillian, that I suffered from plant blindness, only to discover it’s a real thing. Despite, or perhaps because of, the endangerment to our natural world, humans are increasingly unable to recognise and appreciate the flora around them. While I have always felt a strong appreciation for the variegated wonders of the British countryside, it’s definitely the case that I’m more likely to remember the flowers needed for a medicine recipe in an RPG I played 15 years ago than an actual plant I saw yesterday. Fortunately my wife has tailored a rubric for plant identification to my own learning style, so at least I can pick out some big-hitters like foxgloves (has spots on the petals like a little landing pad for bees), or iris (looks kind of slutty).

If you are feeling apprehensive about my credentials for discussing this topic, imagine this feeling amplified tenfold in me when Gillian first declared she was applying for an allotment plot. I was relaxed at first, thinking we’d be years on the wait-list, but a purge at our local allotments quickly netted us a double-sized plot formerly tended by a disgraced MP, dethroned after a rent boy scandal. After he scarpered, it fell to his now ex-wife to oversee, who neglected it into a wild patch of barbed bitterness, little more than a couple of ragged raised beds and waist-high weeds, surrounded by an encroaching ring of razor-sharp brambles. Gillian hacked up the brambles with alarming glee while I winced and idly burnt things. After vastly more effort on her part than mine, we had our blank canvas.

Winter, such as it is in my corner of the Northern Hemisphere, is the ideal time to begin plotting your plot, no matter how large or small. I write as a storm beats at the windows, the wind’s whistles and catcalls repelling me into bed, never to brave the outdoors again. What better time to sink into visions of a lush and fertile future, with ideas at their most fanciful and robust, the peril of pests, disease and quirks of weather an oblique consideration.

For me, the strongest factor in overcoming my apprehension about tackling an allotment was the tantalising prospect of bountiful and unusual produce for the kitchen. This only intensified after my wife made a preposterous claim that she could grow more tomatoes than I’d know what to do with and, as we prepare for our fourth growing season, the motivation remains strong to deliciously prove her wrong.

four juicy organic heirloom tomatoes in the hand of a feeble lesbian

Taking such a goal-oriented approach to a notoriously fickle pastime is probably a foolish endeavour, and I clearly see that where Gillian gets more out of gardening than me is her revelry in process over product, from the sprouting of the first seedling to lugging sacks of potatoes home.

And yet there are multitudes more incentives to grow-your-own. For us, with full-time jobs and no equipment to hand, it was unlikely we’d be able to grow many crops more cheaply than your average amoral multinational agri-business, but there are definitely ways to economise if that’s your focus. Even the most casually ethical queer will surely appreciate the benefits of organic crops where you know exactly what literal shit has gone into them, and the possibility of cooking with ingredients measured in food inches rather than food miles. Why even limit it to such earnest considerations: do you want to plant the world’s gayest garden ever (think Gayfeathers, Gaillardia, Galium, Kale), do you want to grow pink and blue-fleshed spuds so you can eat bisexual mashed potatoes? The possibilities are endless.

A picture of blue and pink potatoes that are obviously bisexual

Winter Jobs

Of course, “winter” is a vastly variable term when it comes to climate, but here are some jobs you might be thinking about if now happens to be roughly the time of lowest temperature in your region. Obviously, seasonality varies massively according to where you are! Always follow local guidance when planning your planting. In general, starting things off too early is bad, so lean into prep work if you’re finding yourself with abundant enthusiasm.

Some things to consider:

  • Prune fruit trees
  • Put up sheds, poly-tunnels, greenhouses, trellises and anything else that make you look pro while also hopefully serving a practical purpose
  • Wash out old seed pots, buy new ones or (preferably) repurpose containers you have hanging around the house
  • Research if there’s compost you can get hold of cheaply or free, via allotment associations or local councils. Once you’re weeded, you’ll want to get compost down a while before you start planting, but not so soon that nutrients could get washed away!
  • Buy some seeds!
  • Start seedlings indoors – pretty much any crop can get a head start if you start it indoors, the only limit is how much of your dwelling you want to devote to it!
  • Chit early potatoes: get them sprouting prior to planting
  • Force rhubarb, because why wait ’til summer? “Forcing” is an act of plant cruelty where you cover the rhubarb to trick tender young stems to grow in search of light. Also, it makes super-weird sounds.
  • As soon as you can get a spade in the ground, consider planting green manure to mulch up your soil

If the early months of the calendar year yield a very different climate where you are, please share in the comments what seasonal tasks you are up to right now!


When the thermometer is in the doldrums, it’s the perfect time to attack your land while weeds don’t have the energy to fight back. If you’re taking over a new plot you’ll want to get rid of any invasive plants before you start getting your own crops sown; hopefully an established plot will have beds covered over after the last harvest.

Now’s also the chance to make any alterations to your plot. Shed envy is a real feeling that you may have to address. If it’s possible, dig new beds or alter existing ones. Much of Britain retains workable soil around the year, a marvel to my wife who grew up on a Canadian dairy farm and is used to frozen ground for nine months of the year, so we can take the opportunity for a bit of remodelling each year. You may have to wait a bit longer!

a lesbian putting a polytunnel together


However advanced your gardening skills you’re still gonna need to work out what the hell you’ll be planting for the year. Every growing cycle, you’ll learn more about the parameters and capacity of the land you have available, plus your own capabilities and predilections. Perennial truisms – like inevitable courgette/zucchini gluts – married with your own personal tragedies and triumphs create the micro-dramas specific to your own land. For Gillian and I, that means anticipating which of the peas and beans the wood pigeons will decree their preferred snack, accepting that 67 corn plants was probably a bit too much, and resigning ourselves to being failures as lesbians because the whitefly always gets the kale.

While it’s possible to buy plants as ready-established seedlings, growing from seed yourself will guarantee the widest varieties to suit your local conditions and your desire for weirdo heritage varieties.

If all of this seems like an impossible dream, maybe the biggest thing you can do is look up allotment and community garden projects near you.

tomato seedlings with dew droplets

Where to Buy Seeds

Let’s not mess around here, we’re looking for certified organic seeds, ideally from co-ops or small companies and definitely no-one that’s ever been pals with Monsanto. I’ve not been able to find any queer-owned seed companies, but please pipe up in the comments if you know of any!

In the US/Canada:

  • Seed Savers
  • Fedco Seeds
  • Hope Seed
  • Note: although Seeds of Change is perhaps the most widely-distributed certified organic brand in the US and has signed the Safe Seed Pledge, it’s owned by Mars. Bummer.

In the UK:

Seed swapping is also a thing! Search for events in your local community.

When it comes to knowing what to buy, obviously what you like to eat is the main deciding factor. My own personal decision tree is something like:

  1. Does it taste good
  2. Will it actually grow here
  3. Does it have a rude name/the potential to grow into a shape with puerile appeal

While researching seeds, you may also want to keep an eye out for what’s marked as a good pollinator (save the bees!), and take into consideration companion planting – aka what plants get along together.

packets of carrot and kale and mystery seeds drawn by a very talented lesbian


These are just a smattering of further resources that may help your interest bloom. Please shout out in the comments what your motivators and inspirations are!


For herbs: A Modern Herbal by Alys Fowler.

Alys Fowler is a Guardian columnist and one of the only out lesbian gardeners regularly working in the media. She came out a few years ago, and even wrote a book about it. A Modern Herbal is a great compendium of herbs, how to grow them and their many uses.

For vegetables: Carrots Love Tomatoes, Roses Love Garlic by Louise Riotte

Two classics about companion planting have been combined into one, covering vegetables and flowers. Use this to find natural ways to protect and proliferate your plants by getting them to work together, like they are in a superhero team film.

For everything organic: New Organic Grower by Eliot Coleman.

For anyone looking to get super serious about organic growing.

For dreaming of a rural queer life: Patience and Sarah by Isobel Miller.

Set in the early 19th century, this classic of lesbian literature charts the titular characters as they attempt to flee their repressed lives and set up a farm together.

For trying to express your unrequited lesbian crush via the language of gardens: Sister Arts: The Erotics of Lesbian Landscapes by Lisa L Moore.

This academic look at four queer women of history who used various forms of horticulture to express their forbidden sapphic desire is not for the faint-hearted.

For no reason in particular: Front Gardens by Gay Search.

Cover image of the book Front Gardens by Gay Search. Yes, that's a real book.


Can You Dig This?

An amazing documentary about the transformative power of urban gardening in L.A.

Gardeners’ World.

A British institution that I cannot omit. The opening seconds of every episode instantly transport you to a place outside time and reality. Be careful, it may turn you into an adult.

Charles Dowding: No Dig Gardening

Another gentle watch, and excellent for people like me that hate digging and incidentally all forms of physical labour.

How are things looking in your neck of the woods? Show us in the comments how your mid-winter (or summer!) gardens are looking, and share your hopes and dreams for the horticultural year ahead. If you’ve got any hot tips on queer gardeners, businesses or organisations you’d like to see featured, hit me up at: sally [at] autostraddle [dot] com

We’ll be back in a couple of months for the joys of spring!

a watering can in an allotment

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  1. You’re a natural at finding fertile ground for entertaining posts Sally. This was ridiculously enjoyable, and I have but one tiny plant that is clinging to life despite my occasional surprise at its existence.

    Also did that Front Gardens book appear when you did a gay search?

    • I would hope that every search I do is a gay search.

      Tell me this – is it a coincidence that Gay Search’s book was published in 1993, the same year that the first web search engine was released, and hence almost certainly the first gay search?

  2. Another suggestion for seeds in North America- West Coast Seeds has so many amazing organic/heirloom/heritage varieties.

    I can’t wait for this growing season, I’m very lucky to live in the PNW where it’s a much longer season than most places in Canada.

    As I once told Snaelle- they’re great skills to have. Makes you invaluable to war lords after the inevitable zombie apocalypse.

    • I promise I’m not just with you because of your plant growing skills and hunger though.

      There’s thirst too.

  3. I don’t have pics of how my backyard currently looks like, but right now we’re at the start of Spring(i.e. 70s & sunny). In the backyard, we have a citrus tree, grape leaf tree(leaves no grapes), an avocado tree(that isn’t producing anything yet), & these tiny peppers that are really hot. We also planted some Asian kale & bell pepper a few weeks ago, but so far nothing has come of it. I am thinking about planting mint & thyme.

    • Ooh what’s a grape leaf tree?

      (Side note: in attempting to Google “grape leaf tree” I discovered that grape leaf chips are a thing! And apparently a tasty thing!)

  4. A bunch of public libraries have seed saving programs too! I know the Rochester, MN and Fergus Falls, MN both do, and I think they also both offer workshops on how to save your own seeds

  5. I loved this article Sally and I’m saving it for every winter to come! Esp. the reading list.

    My gf and I participated in a collective urban garden for a year but we moved to the other side of the city… we’ve just spent the fall and winter volunteering on organic farms, and soil care is no joke ! At least it warms you up !

    Growing season never really stops here in central/western EU, we have root vegetables and cabbage sorts all year long. Is there really an “empty” period in the UK ?

    Non sequitur, I really enjoyed your wording of this paragraph :
    “Taking such a goal-oriented approach to a notoriously fickle pastime is probably a foolish endeavour, and I clearly see that where Gillian gets more out of gardening than me is her revelry in process over product, from the sprouting of the first seedling to lugging sacks of potatoes home.”

    • Thank you lsh!

      Where we are in the south of England there is indeed stuff pretty much year-round, but I doubt that would be the case farther north! Certainly stuff like chard still seems to be around when I’m least expecting it. For root veg I always feel like the longer it’s in the ground, the closer you get to the inevitability that slugs will devour it…

  6. My garden plot is currently buried under 3 feet of snow, but I’m buying seeds and starting to set up my plant nursery to start some seeds. My biggest success last summer were brussel sprouts- they grew huge and kept giving all the way through November.

    Happy to see gardening and plant content here!

  7. I live for gardening contenting. I laughed out loud with “Gay Search”. So much inspiration here. I will come back and re read it, with a gin and tonic, as it is summer here in New Zealand. Here are some of what I am achieving in my backyard. This property was a boring blank canvas. I have turned it into an edible food forest. I am Vegan, and I use Veganic gardening, which is basically, making own compost from plant matter (lasagne composting), growing edibles in a polyculture, growing things conveniently (permaculture), and preserving what I have left. My microclimate is subtropical coastal, we get a lot of rain, and the soil is volcanic. Volcanic soil is the fucking best. I am a gardener as much as I am a Vegan foodie. This is what I grow: Avocados x 3 grafted, hazelnuts x 2, Pomegranates x 3 (haven’t fruited yet as the climate change is not changed yet enough but give it time the cynical person in me says), red pineapples x 2, Casimiroa x 3, red cherry guavas x 4, yellow guava x1, tropical guava x 1 it might not be warm enough for it, kiwifruit, grapes, olives x 4, hops, oranges (blood orange, valencia orange), mandarin, tangelo, peaches x 2, lemons x 5, limes x 2, apricot x 1, nectarine x 1, tropical apricot x 2, bananas x 1, fig x 2, pine nut tree x 1, pears x 2, passionfruit x 2 (black and vanilla passionfruit), ice cream bean tree x 1, apples x 4, mulberry x 1, rhubarb x 2, tamarillos x 2, raspberries x 7, boysenberry x 1, blackberry x 1, artichokes x 3, kiwiberries x 3, rocoto chillies x 5, chilean guavas x 5, damson plum, luisa plum, loquat plum, and stuff like tomatoes, capsicums, beetroots, red onions, radishes, carrots. I am at home in the garden. When it rains I am out in the rain gardening gaily. I would post photos if I could but yeah.

    • Avocados? Guavas? PINE NUTS!?! Pack your bags Sal, we’re moving to New Zealand!

      Annalou, what’s your preferred method of preserving all this lovely fruit? Do you can/dry/freeze? Please go into as much detail as you’d like because I may or may not be living vicariously through your amazing garden descriptions this morning…

    • I’m moving in with you. Or maybe I’ll just pitch a tent in your paradise garden!

      Seriously: it sounds amazing! I’m just happy my kiwiberry is getting new leafs – my “garden” is a bunch of pots on a 6th floor balcony. Last year the kiwiberry had about 5 flowers but they were lost in a storm.

  8. Am I a bit slow, or can I really not post photos? I wish that this was made posting photos friendly. Not to turn it into some kind of wanky brag fest, but to genuinely show what others are doing in their gardens… I am happy to start if this article is transformed to photo postable….

    • You can! It takes a couple of steps though.

      1. You can upload your photos somewhere like here:
      2. Then copy the link and put it into the code below to post them in a comment (I hope this works) :

      Just replace LINK with the URL for the photo :)

    • Posting photos is very much encouraged! I beg you to follow the instructions Chandra linked because I am desperate to see your garden!

      It’s a pain to make the right syntax show up in comments but it should look like this…

      &lt img src=”” &gt

        • Hi Chandra and Sally,

          I have tried uploading through Imgur, but ideally could Autostraddle allow uploading images ONLY to Autostraddle, rather than Imgur getting in the way and being involved???

          I only want the Autostraddle audience to see these images, but going through Imgur was do able, but time consuming, and I don’t want to involve other websites if at all possible. I hope that my 75 images can be viewed by those that want to see my garden, as it is, I have had to make for public view, all 75 images of my garden on Imgur. I have a ten year old laptop also so yeah more grumbles. I hope that this comes through to Autostraddle, because of the size of this post, i.e, 75 images via Imgur, my post is awaiting moderation and has done so for the past hour.

          • Hi Annalou, thanks for taking the time to upload all of those photos because many of us were ravenous to see them! It is a common grumble that as commenters we can’t upload pictures in Autostraddle comments but, speaking as an IT person and not someone who made that decision, there are a bunch of considerations it would bring wrt storage, page load-times, moderating content etc.

            The 75 links set off the spam alarm, but it’s approved now!

          • Sally or Anyone, Are all these images viewable if you click on the imgur image? Or is there only about 11 of the 75 that are viewable?

  9. Thanks for this! I feel less alone. I feel a little dumb that I hadn’t even thought to consider the ethics of seed companies though. Just how bad is Thompson & Morgan?

    I’m foolishly trying to grow flowers for my wedding in June, when I have very little idea what I’m doing. The house is full of seed trays and the sweet peas outside in a cold frame have been repeatedly moved backwards and forwards in the last few weeks in an effort to get them some sunlight without them being blown over in the storms. I’ve previously only attempted bulbs and a few tomato plants so I’m feeling seriously out of my depth.

    By the way, given what I assume to be the Keith Vaz reference, are you in Leicester too?

    • You are not alone in growing wedding flowers! Lesbian gardener extraordinaire Alys Fowler was talking about this only last month:

      Also don’t worry – Thompson and Morgan get a high score on so you can rest safe knowing you will have the wedding of your organic dreams

      It shouldn’t be surprise considering how many dipshit MPs we have, but it was actually Mark Oaten (lib dem MP for Winchester a few years back) that was the particular scandaliser that furnished us with the plot!

  10. Another seed option in the US is baker creek, Not queer-owned, but a lovely queer woman runs their YouTube channel and described her job on first meeting me as “I make plant pornography.” She’s not wrong.

  11. I used Imgur. God I hope this works!,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I apologise in advance if I have posted the same image twice. All of these photos are from my garden except for the photo of Zion and myself hunting avocados, that is from our last house. The avocados at my house haven’t fruited yet as they are only about 2 years old. We created a pergola for kiwifruit, hops and grapes to grow over near the garage, we created a kitchen garden into which I have planted lemons, yellow guava and carrots which have gone to seed (flowered), and a garden half the length of the driveway which is sunny (north and west facing). All in all it is a lot of hard work, but the soil is volcanic, the climate is subtropical, so we probably spent maybe $7000 NZ total for carpentry (which we cannot do as we are working and we aren’t carpenters) but the landscaping is all ours. We are very proud of this and it is our baby (we are childless by choice) except for our furkids.

  12. Southern Exposure Seed Exchange is a great company if you’re in the southeast corner of the US. All organic and many heirlooms specifically well-suited for the south. Happy diggin yall!

  13. I have also searched for and cannot find any LGBTQ-owned seed companies. I am in the U.S. I typically order from Seed Saver’s Exchange as well as Baker Creek Heirloom Seed Company. If I had the energy, money, & time…I would start my own LGBTQ seed company, if for no other reason, just to target our community and help address some of the health disparities that affect our community. Gardening, growing plants, and working in the soil can help improve our health on many levels!

  14. During the pandemic, I became more involved in my garden and vegetable garden. I never liked digging in the ground, but the situation forced me to learn how to handle plants. It turned out to be pleasant enough. In addition, it is useful and very interesting to work in the fresh air. I experiment a lot, but sometimes I make mistakes. I made a cool yard and garden, but I didn’t do it alone. I’ve had a lot of help – Contractorfinder. Now I can boast of the perfect bedroom or kitchen where you can relax in company or alone.

  15. It was incredibly helpful and gave me a better understanding of the topic. It was well-researched, clearly written, and easy to understand.

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