10 Queers on How the F*ck We Deal With Our Exes
“I want to treat everyone who has ever mattered to me with respect, and with a baseline kindness. I know not all my exes feel I’ve done that, but I have always tried.”
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No Tinder, No Problem: The Ancient Art of Asking Someone on a Gay Date IRL
It might seem like everybody is swiping, but if that’s not your jam, here’s some tips on the age-old art of asking someone out IRL.
You Need Help: Seeking Poly People and (Relationship) Anarchy in Small Town, U.S.A.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
What I’m Saying Is You’re Stuck With Me
February 7th was our 14th dating anniversary and our 8th marriage anniversary. The truth is, I didn’t see myself married, in a house we own, with a child I carried, in a place in my life where I don’t want to move away or run off to the next tempting thing. I never thought I’d want stability, but here we are.
How to Handle Being Newly Single at the Holidays
If you’re on team single for the season and not sure how to be okay, read on, make a game plan, and know that the warm fuzzy happy holiday feelings are there for you if you want them.
How to Make Long Distance Dating Sexy and Keep Things H.O.T. in Your L.D.R.
It is hard to feel so far from the people you care about. This shit is not easy. But! We choose these relationships anyway, for our varied reasons, and gosh darnit we are gonna have some sexy fun while we’re here!
An Investigation of Gay Situationships, a Time-Honored and Life-Ruining Tradition
A gay situationship is an interpersonal scenario involving strong feelings that are opaque, ill-communicated or unclear to the people involved in them and could be meaningfully clarified by a “what are we” conversation. Usually, you can identify them by the fact that the people involved would rather do literally anything than have a “what are we” conversation.
A Birthday Party No One Else Was Invited To
The first time someone described Casey as having “stalkerish” tendencies, I defended her. For the most part though, I didn’t talk about it.
Starstruck: Find Out What Your Crush’s Mars Sign Says About Your Compatibility (and Their Sex Drive)
Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.
8 Self-Help Books about Lesbian Relationships
Here are eight non-fiction self-help books about lesbian relationships, partnerships, marriage, and dating!
Starstruck: Here’s What Venus, Planet of Love, Says About Your Astrological Compatibility
Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.
You Can Leave Your Partner Who Scares You
“I’ve been dating this person for four years who is genuinely the light of my life but has some anger management issues. Though they would never, ever turn that anger towards me, it still terrifies me just witnessing it. They are aware of it, but I don’t think they’ll ever go to therapy about it. They don’t really want to even though they acknowledge it’s a problem.”
Starstruck: What to Know About Your Mercury Sign for Astrological Compatibility
Communication, of course, is the bedrock of any relationship — romantic, sexual, platonic. And yet! Mercury gets totally overlooked when it comes to synastry, or the astrology of relationships. Not today, though; let’s talk about how you process!
Starstruck: What Your Moon Sign Says About Your Romantic Compatibility
The moon governs your emotions, habits, and instincts. When it comes to relationships, this is important! Your moon is how you are emotional. It’s how you express your tender little queer heart!
You Need Help: Is Love Really a Lie? Should You Even Try?
It’s a hard time to have hope, but friends, don’t give up.
Six Queers on Polyamory and Identity
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
You Need Help: You Want to Have Sex But Also Sex Is a Lot Wow So Complicated
You and your girlfriend don’t have to have sex unless you both want to have sex, no matter how long you’ve been dating. But also if you DO wanna have sex while respecting your history of trauma, here are some tips!
Five Poly People on Navigating Jealousy in Any Type of Relationship
Everyone gets jealous. It’s how you handle it that counts.
Monday Roundtable: The Real and Fictional Couples Who Inspired Our Very First Relationship Goals
Whether we saw them on screen or in real life, we took notice of these dynamic couples and their undeniable chemistry and love.