You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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Is That a Secure Attachment or Are You Just Happy to See Me: All About Our Attachment Styles
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”
Anatomy of a Mango: Pit
Even one-night-stands have a spirit to them, but I wasn’t willing to confront that until I stopped drinking. When I did, I was finally able to place my mind right within my body, to touch and be touched without fear. Having sober sex was a way for me to unravel the contempt I felt around my body and my sexuality.
You Need Help: When Is it Love?
I’m not saying this word doesn’t hold meaning — I’m saying the opposite. This word holds so many meanings.
What We Wish We’d Known Before We Started Gay Dating
“You don’t have to be friends with the girl you met on Tinder (even if she says “wanna be friends instead?” after two dates and some exceedingly mediocre sex).”
Our Deepest, Darkest Relationship Fears, NBD
“My biggest relationship fear is that my desire to not be controlled means that I’ll be alone forever and never receive any feeling of comfort or security. Yikes! Typing that out was fun.”
You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.
Surprise, You’re In A Long Distance Relationship Now!
Here’s some advice about how to weather a long distance relationship during a global pandemic, whether you and your babe live in different countries or just a few blocks away.
11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
8 of the Best Luxe Toys You & Your Long-Term Partner Will Love
There’s something different about how you approach sex with someone you’ll be scissoring for the long haul – you know what she likes, you can do things a little differently if you’re fluid-bonded, and you can invest in higher-end things you know you’ll both love.
How to Get a Girl to Not Sleep Over
Sleepovers are overrated.
How Does It Feel to Be Young and Gay Divorced?
When we legally and symbolically bind ourselves together, we’re exchanging some of that fluidity for commitment. Once we marry, breaking up is hard — I mean, really hard — to do.
Queer Sex Coven: A Love Healing Spell
Every couple fights. But when you’re a witch you have secret powers to make it all better.
What’s In Our Bags for Hot First Dates
Dating is an adventure for the daring and intrepid, often requiring resources like self-awareness, a group chat, clean jeans, and therapy. Sometimes it requires even more concrete things to throw into our bags before we leave the house!
Started from the Bottom: A Lifelong Bottom’s Adventures in Topping
Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else; the healthiest relationship and the best sex of my life has been with another bottom.
The Rituals of Love in Everyday Life
Having settled into sweet solitary contentment, I wasn’t looking for love. It found me anyway. Meeting an old friend, I was struck by Cupid’s arrow when I realized she was single.
Why It’s Actually Healthy Not to Tell Your Crush Your Feelings
Pop culture makes it easy to believe that having feelings for someone means you need to act on it. We explore why it can actually be healthy to have feelings for people without being attached to a specific outcome, or needing to tell them, and have you can process it on your own.
Direct Communication Rules, Ghosting Sucks, Let’s All Say What We Mean
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
Queer Horoscopes for July 2019: How Your Sign’s Navigating Security and Vulnerability Through July’s Eclipses
The best way to resolve relationship anxiety isn’t what you think this month, as the eclipses show us what’s been hidden.