You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.
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Surprise, You’re In A Long Distance Relationship Now!
Here’s some advice about how to weather a long distance relationship during a global pandemic, whether you and your babe live in different countries or just a few blocks away.
11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
8 of the Best Luxe Toys You & Your Long-Term Partner Will Love
There’s something different about how you approach sex with someone you’ll be scissoring for the long haul – you know what she likes, you can do things a little differently if you’re fluid-bonded, and you can invest in higher-end things you know you’ll both love.
How to Get a Girl to Not Sleep Over
Sleepovers are overrated.
How Does It Feel to Be Young and Gay Divorced?
When we legally and symbolically bind ourselves together, we’re exchanging some of that fluidity for commitment. Once we marry, breaking up is hard — I mean, really hard — to do.
Queer Sex Coven: A Love Healing Spell
Every couple fights. But when you’re a witch you have secret powers to make it all better.
What’s In Our Bags for Hot First Dates
Dating is an adventure for the daring and intrepid, often requiring resources like self-awareness, a group chat, clean jeans, and therapy. Sometimes it requires even more concrete things to throw into our bags before we leave the house!
Started from the Bottom: A Lifelong Bottom’s Adventures in Topping
Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else; the healthiest relationship and the best sex of my life has been with another bottom.
The Rituals of Love in Everyday Life
Having settled into sweet solitary contentment, I wasn’t looking for love. It found me anyway. Meeting an old friend, I was struck by Cupid’s arrow when I realized she was single.
Why It’s Actually Healthy Not to Tell Your Crush Your Feelings
Pop culture makes it easy to believe that having feelings for someone means you need to act on it. We explore why it can actually be healthy to have feelings for people without being attached to a specific outcome, or needing to tell them, and have you can process it on your own.
Direct Communication Rules, Ghosting Sucks, Let’s All Say What We Mean
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
Queer Horoscopes for July 2019: How Your Sign’s Navigating Security and Vulnerability Through July’s Eclipses
The best way to resolve relationship anxiety isn’t what you think this month, as the eclipses show us what’s been hidden.
16 Ways to Grow Closer to Your Boo Without Actually Moving in Together
“Whatever, it’s fine. Give them your kidney. Then take one of their kidneys. It’s a kidney swap.”
You Need Help: What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?
What is it you are unlearning? What are the narratives about yourself that you are unraveling from your heart like so much tangled yarn? And can you be gentle through the unraveling?
10 Queers on How the F*ck We Deal With Our Exes
“I want to treat everyone who has ever mattered to me with respect, and with a baseline kindness. I know not all my exes feel I’ve done that, but I have always tried.”
No Tinder, No Problem: The Ancient Art of Asking Someone on a Gay Date IRL
It might seem like everybody is swiping, but if that’s not your jam, here’s some tips on the age-old art of asking someone out IRL.
You Need Help: Seeking Poly People and (Relationship) Anarchy in Small Town, U.S.A.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
What I’m Saying Is You’re Stuck With Me
February 7th was our 14th dating anniversary and our 8th marriage anniversary. The truth is, I didn’t see myself married, in a house we own, with a child I carried, in a place in my life where I don’t want to move away or run off to the next tempting thing. I never thought I’d want stability, but here we are.