Y’all Need Help #6: You Can Still Trust Yourself
Realizing you’re bisexual after you’re married to a dude, coming to terms with this awful therapist, and never ever ever U-Hauling again. It’s time for some good old fashioned advice!
relationships
You Need Help: Grad School Killed Your Sex Life
Instead of thinking about how your sex life is dead, think about how it could be reborn.
Queer Crip Love Fest: More Seen Than I’ve Ever Felt
An A-Camp love story to help ease your comedown!
Queer Crip Love Fest: We Make it Radical
“I try and proudly practice calling my body home, to truly inhabit my body, to feel what it feels like to live inside these muscles that bend and curl, and to feel proud of it, and no longer ashamed. This is queer crip pride.”
View From The Top: Where I’m Going
I feel lighter than I’ve been in a year. I feel ecstatic with the possibilities. I feel giddy, like I’m falling in love.
Poly Pocket: If You Don’t Take Care Of Yourself, It Just Doesn’t Work
“I have a relationship to myself first. If that relationship isn’t solid and healthy I’m not good with anyone.”
Poly Pocket: Balancing Comfort and Desire
How a 23-year-old bisexual polyamorous nonbinary femme xicanx in two very loving relationships does poly.
Queer Crip Love Fest: The Two Great Loves of My Life
“There are people who, when I say I have a chronic illness and try to talk about it, will be like ‘Well, you’re just an adult now.’ I mean, yes, but also, this is real. It does keep me at home a lot. I do have a weakened immune system. I’m not making this up.”
Poly Pocket: Polyamory and Recovery
How a a 28-year-old white genderfluid bisexual in recovery from an eating disorder/anxiety/depression does polyamory.
Poly Pocket: The Communication Cushion
Here’s how a 28-year-old Arab-American queer demisexual cis woman living in the urban Midwest does ethical non-monogamy.
Queer Crip Love Fest: Radically Vulnerable Feminist Pep Talk
“We met on the first day of high school. I was drawn to her for some reason. She was reading; that might have been it. She had glasses; that could have been it, too.”
Poly Pocket: Queer, Poly, Living On A Boat
“Boats have also been incredibly healing for me and have really helped me create better relationships in all parts of my life. They make me work harder to maintain my friendships, be better at communication, and generally just better at existing around all different kinds of people.”
Poly Pocket: Queer Platonic Love
How a a 28-year-old Chicana pansexual cis woman living in the Midwest, working in the sex industry, and in a long-term queer platonic relationship does poly.
Poly Pocket: It’s Not The Structure, It’s The People
How a newly-into-ladies 32-year-old multiracial cis queer lady in a big blue city in the deep red American South does poly.
Poly Pocket: Dreaming of a World With Less Fear, More Vulnerability As A Black Trans Queer Person
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
Poly Pocket: Polyamorous In A Monogamous Relationship
Here’s how a 32-year-old Japanese American queer polyamorous Southern Californian does polyamory within functional monogamy.
View From The Top: It’s Protocol
We thrive on these everyday tiny moments where we both get to be reminded of our agreed-upon power differential.
Poly Pocket: When Family and Friends Just Don’t Get It
“Family and friends tend to recognize her and her boyfriend and pretend that I don’t exist, mostly because they have been together longer and queer relationships are not respected or recognized.”
Poly Pocket: Being As Direct As Possible
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
You Need Help: How Do I NOT Cause a Breakup with a Tough Talk?
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”