Here’s some advice about how to weather a long distance relationship during a global pandemic, whether you and your babe live in different countries or just a few blocks away.
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
There’s something different about how you approach sex with someone you’ll be scissoring for the long haul – you know what she likes, you can do things a little differently if you’re fluid-bonded, and you can invest in higher-end things you know you’ll both love.
Sleepovers are overrated.
When we legally and symbolically bind ourselves together, we’re exchanging some of that fluidity for commitment. Once we marry, breaking up is hard — I mean, really hard — to do.
Every couple fights. But when you’re a witch you have secret powers to make it all better.
Dating is an adventure for the daring and intrepid, often requiring resources like self-awareness, a group chat, clean jeans, and therapy. Sometimes it requires even more concrete things to throw into our bags before we leave the house!
Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else; the healthiest relationship and the best sex of my life has been with another bottom.
Having settled into sweet solitary contentment, I wasn’t looking for love. It found me anyway. Meeting an old friend, I was struck by Cupid’s arrow when I realized she was single.
Pop culture makes it easy to believe that having feelings for someone means you need to act on it. We explore why it can actually be healthy to have feelings for people without being attached to a specific outcome, or needing to tell them, and have you can process it on your own.
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
The best way to resolve relationship anxiety isn’t what you think this month, as the eclipses show us what’s been hidden.
“Whatever, it’s fine. Give them your kidney. Then take one of their kidneys. It’s a kidney swap.”
What is it you are unlearning? What are the narratives about yourself that you are unraveling from your heart like so much tangled yarn? And can you be gentle through the unraveling?
“I want to treat everyone who has ever mattered to me with respect, and with a baseline kindness. I know not all my exes feel I’ve done that, but I have always tried.”
It might seem like everybody is swiping, but if that’s not your jam, here’s some tips on the age-old art of asking someone out IRL.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
February 7th was our 14th dating anniversary and our 8th marriage anniversary. The truth is, I didn’t see myself married, in a house we own, with a child I carried, in a place in my life where I don’t want to move away or run off to the next tempting thing. I never thought I’d want stability, but here we are.
If you’re on team single for the season and not sure how to be okay, read on, make a game plan, and know that the warm fuzzy happy holiday feelings are there for you if you want them.