I had “dressed” myself before driving drunk to my mother’s home. I had taken a shower thinking that water would take away the smell; that putting on leggings instead of leggings-that-I-slept-and-drank-in, would make me look like I was wearing clothes; that if I put on mascara I’d look like I had slept through the night and not spent the whole day drinking.

It is hard to feel so far from the people you care about. This shit is not easy. But! We choose these relationships anyway, for our varied reasons, and gosh darnit we are gonna have some sexy fun while we’re here!

We’re all used to watching movies and rooting for the lesbians to live — lesbian horror movies make the gamble that everyone else in the audience will, too.

“We call them junderpants.”

Nia Nal is the hope we all needed on this show, and Alex Danvers’ haircut is gayer than ever.

Also: Viola Davis in leather pants, more queer action on The Purge, Viola Davis in leather pants, updates on 9-1-1 and Killjoys and all your favorite daytime TV, and Viola Davis in leather pants!

When the sex we want is criminalized or considered more “perverted” than the sex cisgender heterosexuals are engaging in, a handkerchief in the back pocket is a quiet way to show off our sexual deviancy in a world that doesn’t want to see it.

Isobel and Cam have made their move to New York City, and while Cam is Shane-ing her way around Brooklyn, Isobel feels more lost than ever.

The Season Three finale had the one thing Supergirl always did best but has been missing for a while: Hope.

“Emma’s grief; her inherited, internalized homophobia; and her sexual frustrations — they are all tangled together. And that’s real, because in life how can you tell? Where does one pain stop and another begin? There’s no easy box to check or line to draw.”

May is Masturbation Month! Here’s your guide to doing you as only you can.

Reading “When Katie Met Cassidy” felt like closing a wound left open by other queer/same-sex romances that came before it.

“Does anyone at the CIA who is for sure reading this want to hire me?”

There were songs and bike races and hot air balloon rides and promises of forever and allusions to some of the most romantic tropes and movies of all times.

Autostraddle Staff Writers Carmen and Alaina in a conversation about the TV series, the legacy of Spike Lee’s work, black female representation on film, polyamory, and pansexuality.

“I finally understand why the straights were so worried we were going to ruin marriage. Apparently, they wanted to do it themselves.”

It’s also just so great to see a major games developer consistently shrug off the idea that a protagonist has to be a white man somewhere between CW Love Interest and CW Hot Dad in age whose character development can be deduced by counting the number of grey hairs in his angst-stubble.

Also: Annalise Keating in a suit! And: American Horror Story, what in the world?

DO NOT use genitalia as a champagne flute.

At Friar Tuck’s, Kylee wants to help everyone who walks in the door — and all genders are welcome — become the most authentic version of themselves. It’s rad as heck to see a major beauty company with a huge advertising budget like Dove honoring that.