In my own struggle to get sober, I would spend days telling myself that my bottoms were “not that bad.” That the next day I would drink lighter, drink less, have water between glasses. For black gay addicts, we’re pressured at both ends. One of the reasons I’m sober today is because people around me talked about it, they extended their hands and hearts to me without knowing it.

“Even after all the growth and apologies, all the blushing and teasing, all the conversations about what they both want, I couldn’t let myself believe it. I was so afraid to be let down. But holy shit y’all, THEY DID IT.”

We are in a crucial moment where we can change trans representation in YA and do it in a way that doesn’t leave anyone behind.

Meet the trans woman making professional soccer history, talking about the behind-the-scenes fashion that makes Killing Eve so hot, plus how to combat those “Sunday scaries” and more!

48. identifying what episode of The Nanny it is based on C.C. Babcock’s hair

I think it’s very Cancer of me to watch Mary Lambert’s “She Keeps Me Warm” music video on Valentine’s Day just so I could feel my heart clench and cry a little.

Parenting during the pandemic is a wild ride, so consider this our queer parenting circle, a safe place to share the good and the bad!

Former bisexual Congresswoman Katie Hill is writing her memoir, what the coronavirus teaches us about climate change, remembering Trayvon Martin, Elizabeth Warren plays “Name that Billionaire,” sex positive therapists reclaiming the narrative and more!

Happy Sunday! A Megan Rapinoe Funko, a Billie Jean King Barbie, a plea for Rosie Perez, and more good gay news from the week!

This week’s Extra! Extra! honors all the victims – past, present and future. Oh it needs to stop – there must be an end to the long list of names we memorialize. But I’m not naive enough to think more lives won’t be lost before we reach that point.

I’m not sure I am any of the things that the aunties here tell me I am: Good. Hindu. Girl. I’m not sure about a lot of things these days. But I’ve found a way to care for myself that keeps me alive.

Broken up with during quarantine, exploring your sexuality in quarantine, feeling concerned about being “okay” in quarantine, sage advice for parents of a non-binary kid and more!

Coping with feeling like it’s the end times and residual religious fears, sexual needs changing within long-term relationships, getting started with dating apps, and more!

“I’m calling it Carbmas now.”

Gotham City has actual vampires, but the lesbians remain the most dramatic thing about this city! 

Spaces that center and uplift Black performers create a magic you can feel. Meet seven of Washington D.C.’s drag and burlesque performers bringing palpable Black queer joy to the stage.

Dreamer and Supergirl team up to fight one of the ugliest villains National City has ever seen: transphobia.

While gay men have necessary and urgent things to say about the enduring HIV/AIDS epidemic, women have always participated in AIDS activism. I spoke with two longtime feminist AIDS activists about queer community, care, and connection in the time of COVID-19.

Being bisexual is lit.

Melissa Benoist makes her directing debut, Alex eats dumplings, and Lena wears one hell of a suit.