“I also came here to say I couldn’t figure out why the White Rabbit felt bi to me and then realized it’s because he’s stressed out.”

Our trans subject editor Xoai Pham speaks to Jayda Shuavarnnasri, Thai-American sexuality educator and resident #SexPositiveAsianAuntie, about sexual violence, myths about polyamory, and what it means to take up space as Asian women.

Here’s what we loved this year, and what pained us to see.

“Stories about huge families full of love, whether nuclear or chosen or just-for-school, were the comfort food of my childhood, and I’m trying to find something similar for my queer adulthood. Is there such a thing?”

Also: Janelle Monáe’s virtual reality concert experience, a Dickinson season two trailer, Demi Lovato reveals the exact moment she knew she was queer, some photos of Viola Davis working out just because, and more!

If you live in the US you can watch the films! Even if you’re not in New York!

Plus updates on Nancy Drew, Legacies, Home Economics, and Top Chef!

Things I didn’t know about Gia but learned quickly: this movie is very fucking sad, Mila Kunis plays Young Gia, Adina Porter makes a brief appearance, ELIZABETH MITCHELL plays Gia’s love interest, and Gia’s female love interest was not a brief drug-fueled lesbian fling!

Let’s talk about queering up conventions through cosplay, art, and more!

Stop what you’re doing right now and watch Alice Júnior on Netflix.

Unexpected grief comes for Carina and Maya in the Shondaverse. Meanwhile, updates on All American, S.W.A.T., Nancy Drew, and Legacies.

Consider this your invitation to stop hiding, loosen your cheeks and let your sphincter siren sing for the one(s) you love.

“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”

“Does this place ever stop being weird?!?”

“Bumble gives you two free filters. Usually filtering paidbut I def liked picking and choosing which ones to turn on and off. I fucked around a lot with the star sign and height — I can no longer allow Libras to disturb my peace.”

“You know, I was never annoyed that you were gay! I was just glad to know you. If it were the 1940s maybe we would have had a lavender marriage.”

Rhea Butcher is back in an episode that explores racism in comedy, as Alice attends the CBTV diversity workshop.

Spiritually, we’re all making candles with Queen Latifah.

Autostraddle’s TV Team shares our picks for the best TV shows of 2020 featuring girls, gays and theys.

“just wanted to say i’m really loving the synchronicity and overall level of sexual tension on our homepage rn”