Welcome to the new year! Before the horoscopes, a quick shout out that my new online Astrology 101class goes live this week! Packed with games, visual aids, and clear explanations of some complicated topics, the course is queer-friendly and empowering. As a teacher, I give my students the tools they need to make the language their own and help revolutionize how we use astrology. I’ve been developing this course for many years and I’m so excited to share it online for the first time. Registration is open now, and you can take it at your own pace, starting whenever you’d like.
If you don’t normally make resolutions, this month might convince you otherwise. There’s a lot of planetary energy in support of embracing Really Big Changes. As the Sun and Mercury transit across Pluto in Capricorn this month, we’re getting a wake-up call about how we accept responsibility for our actions and work on being mature adults. Pluto, planet of death and rebirth, opens up possibilities that ask us to leave something behind: Breaking up with an abusive ex and never looking back. Changing your given name. Getting that first tattoo. Coming out as a survivor. This Plutonian influence will be especially potent on the 10th, when the new moon in Capricorn joins Pluto. The new moon is a time for setting intentions and planting seeds: we have a chance right now to choose to plant something entirely new.
The other dominant energy this month is also about change, but focuses more on Capricorn themes of responsibility and maturity. Venus (planet of love) will be conjunct Saturn (planet of strict parents) on the 8th, reinforcing all our good intentions for showing up to our relationships with more integrity. For some of us this influence will point out a few minor adjustments we can make, for others it might spell a major overhaul. For everyone, it’s worth examining what we’re choosing in love: How are we handling our insecurities? Whose opinion of us are we choosing to believe? How could we step into a more graceful, powerful, and honest way of connecting?
To support your relationship resolutions this month, your horoscopes highlight these two main themes for each sign — where you get to be reborn, and where you get to mature. Remember, you don’t have to do either of these, the mission is yours to accept or reject. As always, read these for the truths that speak to you and disregard anything that doesn’t! The astro-literate are encouraged to read their Venus and Moon signs first.
Where you get to be reborn: You don’t need to stay hung up on one person right now, even if it’s your own sweet self. Your powers are heightened when you’re working with a group, especially when it’s a group of people you love. Let yourself be a channel for the larger groups you belong to.
Where you get to mature: It’s time to step out of your role as the kid who’s just figuring it all out, and step into your wisdom as a teacher. Turn the tables in any relationship where someone wants to show you the ropes.
Where you get to be reborn: Imagine writing a love letter in a foreign language. Imagine digging deep to find the words that will answer to what you feel. Don’t settle for the known world this month, or for easy half-truths. Imagine love that pushes you to keep seeking the higher truths and the deep wisdom.
Where you get to mature: It’s time to stop having sex that isn’t exactly what you need. Speak up for your real boundaries, your real desires, and don’t be afraid of losing connection when you share your truth.
Where you get to be reborn: Your sexual history doesn’t control your future. Whatever is blocking you from desire and pleasure, you’ll get a chance to release it this month. Say goodbye to the stories you’ve already worked with and fully understood to make room for life to flood back. Let your sex life look like an opera, a feast, a battle to the death, an animal howl, a kind of medicine.
Where you get to mature: Who have you made a commitment to? Do you have a primary partner, a domestic partner, a business partner, a platonic lifelong friend? What do they need from you right now, and what do you need to make clear to them? Learn to listen a little better to help those longterm connections stay strong.
Where you get to be reborn: What if love gets to be safe? What if you can have exactly the kind of care you need, as soon as you learn what it is and how to ask for it? This month you’re invited to catch and release all your lingering fears about partnership, and to believe in a world where love can be healthy and nourishing.
Where you get to mature: Re-dedicate yourself to a daily practice, even if it’s just eating breakfast and brushing your teeth. Find a way to stay grounded — no one else can do it for you.
Where you get to be reborn: Let’s presume that you (like most of us) are here to heal the world. You’ve got a special magic no one else has, and the more you’re able to use it the better you’ll feel. Where this gets tricky is that while it flows from you, it’s not actually about you — it’s about your ability to create a space for other people to have their own experiences and insights. This month, your fiercely beautiful and performative soul will be at its most potent when you offer it freely.
Where you get to mature: Let’s get very real: your body needs you to fall in love with it. I get that this can be a difficult assignment, so take it in small steps. If you get stuck, come back to whatever feels good.
Where you get to be reborn: Your one rule for relationships this year: they have to be fun. You need joy, you need to play, you need to laugh. It’s time to take a break from fixing what’s broken, analyzing your behavior, and processing. Develop your latent talents for enthusiasm, goofiness, and lightheartedness. What’s pleasurable and what’s nourishing don’t have to be opposites.
Where you get to mature: When you don’t have a stable home base, everything else in your life will feel unstable. Get serious about your need to rest and recover, and take responsibility for finding the places and people that will help you do that well.
Where you get to be reborn: You can no longer neglect your inner world. Even if your job demands most of your time and attention, be on the look out for ways to steal back your soul. The love that feels most powerful for you right now is like a sanctuary, a place you create with your boo (or best friend, or dog) that you can carry with you energetically throughout the day.
Where you get to mature: How much do you speak up for yourself? How often do you call a friend when you’re sad? It’s not enough to just feel it, it’s time to start speaking your truth.
Where you get to be reborn: With Pluto as the ruler of your sign, rebirth is something you’re learning to do continually. This month, you’ll have a chance to shake up any relationship that’s starting to feel stagnant. Let yourself be curious. Is there someone new in town? Delight in ideas and flirtations, if you’re in a position to do so. Your big assignment this month is get a little less heavy about it all.
Where you get to mature: Can you have pleasure without needing it to hurt later? Or first? When pain doesn’t actually have to be part of the equation at all times, there’s room for all kinds of new information.
Where you get to be reborn: This month, you’re being asked to slow down. Work on your capacity for slow, sensuous romance without needing to know where it’s going or why it matters. If you can be fully present and engaged with your partner, you’ll find yourself effortlessly generous and trust will feel easy.
Where you get to mature: Love yourself more by learning more clearly who you are. Don’t rely on friends or lovers to reflect you accurately — take some time alone and learn what you’re like without anyone else around.
Where you get to be reborn: Imagine a mountain, covered in snow and crevasses, shining white and austere in the winter sun. Now imagine a spring thaw melting those icy slopes and revealing glittering mica and the wet, green shoots of new life. Your project this month is to unthaw into yourself. Risk metamorphosis. Expose those tender and sparkling geographies to someone trustworthy, and appreciate that you still get to keep some parts behind the snowline.
Where you get to mature: Recognize what (and who) is amazing in your life right now. Even if it’s messy or complicated or incomplete, take the time to be in awe.
Where you get to be reborn: Let’s pretend your super power is that you can feel what other people feel. In this scenario, you wouldn’t have to be suspicious about whether or not you were loved. Love would be undeniable, like water you swim through. This month is about trusting that what you feel is really there, and that love is really love. Learn to trust what you can’t verbally defend.
Where you get to mature: It’s time to get serious about what you believe in and who you’re fighting alongside. Don’t isolate yourself; find a way to add your voice to a larger struggle.
Where you get to be reborn: Relationships are generally easy for you to get into, and easy for you to stay in as long as you’re not getting abused (and sadly, sometimes when you are). This month calls on you to think about why your relationships look the way they do. How does your personal life reflect the larger culture? How are your intimacies political? What does it mean to you to be gay, or queer, or trans? Are you letting your lovers, partners, or friends reinforce the oppression of the broader world in your intimate life? Now’s the time to wake up, shake things up, and figure out a better way.
Where you get to mature: Your voice needs to be heard and amplified. Take your calling seriously and don’t be afraid of recognition. You don’t have to stay small.