Daily Fix: Friends of Vanished Gay Med Student Fight to Rescue him from Ex-Gay Ministry Exodus International

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BUT I’M A CUTE MEDICAL STUDENT: “A young gay medical student named Bryce Faulkner had made plans to move from Arkansas to be closer to his boyfriend, Travis Swanson, who lives in Wisconsin. But now Bryce has vanished–into a 14-month program meant to “convert” him to heterosexuality, it is thought.”

In addition to their page at the Ergonomical Ministries, Bryce’s friends & supporters made  a facebook page to rescue Bryce Faulkner and to raise awareness about the ex-gay organizations that “perpetuate the notion that being gay is evil, spiritually void and a choice on conscience.”

Recently, Bryce’s parents made contact with his friends to threaten litigation and to tell them that Bryce came to them “begging for treatment.”

Let’s raise some awareness, shall we? Bryce is being “helped” by Exodus International, the largest organization of its kind for men & women “struggling” with SSA, or “Same Sex Attraction,” who desire freedom through Jesus Christ. Their youth site encourages young people to get out the truth about the non-existence of “the gay gene.”

Any morbidly curious homo will find the Exodus International website to be a Pandora’s Box of offensive “information” and gateways into the jaw-droppingly  shocking universe of the ex-gay netherworlds. I just lost two of the best most beautiful hours of my life to this website. I knew about the ex-gay movement before, and very much want to attend one of their events ASAP to expose these delusional asshats, but hadn’t found this website until now.

Firstly: Much like the Gay Movement/Agenda, the ex-gay movement seems so male dominated! Where were the hot chicks at this International Conference we just missed? Where’s Anne Heche?

Well, the Exodus International conference features a Women’s Oasis breakfast every day (our favorite meal to eat out!) and almost everyone gets a roommate! It’s like an Olivia Cruise, but with less fun and more Jesus and less “Closer to Fine” and more shame/self-loathing.

Secondly: Here’s a documentary someone made about the incredible experiences had at these Conferences. Surprisingly the documentary doesn’t discuss the plethora of opportunities for getting laid at an event attended by so many people with Same Sex Attraction Disorder.

I encourage you watch this video or at least make it to 1:30, where a “phD” describes how parents can prevent their children from becoming homosexuals (it’s preventative, people!) in a voiceover. Here’s a screenshot:

Okay, regardless of if you do or do not spend way too long digging through the Exodus International craptacular webiverse, including all the testimonials of reformed lesbians (it feels like reading the other side of the emails we get from young brokenheared girls around the world), you will really wanna save Bryce Faulkner.

This story is making its way across the news media very quickly and I implore you to keep it going! If anyone in the Florida area is ready to storm the barricades, please do.
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19 Comments

  1. that picture tells me bryce is gonna be a tough sell. i wouldn’t worry too much.

    and church, REALLY. it’s 2009. you’re really making yourselves look like idiots. paternalistic nuclear families as the fundamental building blocks of the church is SO crusades.

  2. Oh, gosh. My best friend’s girlfriend just happened to broke up with her via e-mail last week after going on a church ‘retreat’.

    Aside from helping her compile every resource available on religion and homosexuality, I’ve also been banging my head against my desk and muttering, “What the fuck, America”.

    • Did your best friend’s girlfriend write me an email? Srsly reading those testimonials I found myself thinking every time of the girls they mentioned leaving for Jesus, like what happened to THEM? I hope they’re okay.

  3. The Exodus stuff is indeed fucked up.

    However, I can make myself feel a bit better while reading the testimonials if I just remind myself that sexuality is on a continuum, and I believe most people are at least a tiny bit bisexual, in one direction or another. Therefore if a person is mostly gay but has a small capacity for opposite-sex attraction… and their love for Jeebus makes them really really really want to embrace the love of a good Christian man… well then maybe groups like Exodus and all the helpful Christian counselors are just able to help them access that tiny piece of straight potential, and live from that instead of the rest. I mean, I think it’s unfortunate — and I don’t personally believe that any god would have such a silly restricted definition of how sexuality should be expressed — but hey, who am I to tell them not to love and listen to the calling of their Christian hearts?

    Would love to hear the thoughts of others…

    • I think that’s a nice way to look at it in theory but unfortunately Exodus isn’t in the business of helping bisexuals make the “right choice” — I think most bisexuals raised in that kind of community would most likely make that choice on their own … as in, if there was any hope that they could be with someone of the opposite sex, they’d probs do it before it got to the point that they’d go to Exodus.

      Exodus blames same-sex attraction on poor parenting and other life circumstances and considers it an evil thing that must be overcome, not one choice of two which they’ll help you make.

      I agree sexuality is far more fluid than we think, but I don’t think that these kinds of places look at it that way. They look at it more like — well, all humans have a little bit of violence inside of them, but we must learn to not punch people in the face. But for Exodus, punching people in the face = acting on “same sex-attraction.”

  4. Uhg. This Exodus crap makes me wanna kick someone in the shin! My favorite testimonial is: “If you happen to struggle with lesbianism, please know that you are not alone in dealing with the awkward, difficult, and often distressing realities of being female…feminine.” I’m trying to understand this… is she saying because we’re gay we’re not female/feminine? Stupid people!
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    I don’t want to hate on anyone’s religion, sorry if it appears that way. (I get a lot of shit for being Quaker so I know how it feels.) I’m just saying that I like girls and you can’t stop me G-d! Time to watch But I’m a Cheerleader…

  5. “When a girl I’d met at work initiated a sexual relationship one night, I was caught off-guard and went along with it. Immediately I knew how Eve must have felt. Condemned!”
    “why can’t I have the same love as everyone else…I broke down crying.”

    Season 1 Jenny, meet Season 6 Max.

  6. *shivers* Wow. That site is something else. I did notice a trend though–most of the women in the testimonials had been raised strongly Christian & had some kind of trauma, be it rape, abuse, abandonment, etc. For some of them, there may indeed have been a gravitation towards lesbianism because of fear of men not love of women. Of course, those would be the ones touted as the “successes,” since they’d be the least likely to “slip back.”

    Also, there was one darkly amusing aspect of the site: they felt they had to define the words “lesbian” and “gay.” If you’re there and you DON’T already know what those words mean…well, I don’t want to know where you grew up.

    But, overall, I feel like I need to go take a bath after visiting the testimonials. A lot of those women were raised in the same Christian tradition I was (and which I rejected); I just hope no one tries to strong-arm me into one of those groups…

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