Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: Should I Tell My New Date I Used To Follow Her on Tumblr?
I think that this probably happens to people a lot more than you’d think.
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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
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You Need Help: Is It Really Over?
I had no choice but to accept her decision, but it really hurts, as I feel blind-sided and it’s hard to come to terms with what happened.
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You Need Help: How Will I Know When My “Real Life” Has Started?
However you end up deciding to live your life is up to you. As long as you create your own path toward happiness and fulfillment, none of the other stuff matters!
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You Need Help: I Keep Getting Yeast Infections When I Receive Oral Sex
I’m obsessive about the way I treat my vagina. Is this kind of annoying? Honestly, yes. Is it more annoying to get a yeast infection? Also yes.
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You Need Help: My Crush Is Dating Someone Else and I Feel Very Jealous
You don’t always get the girl, and that’s okay.
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You Need Help: I’m a Trans Woman Looking For Affirming Lesbian Content
The point is this: it sucks that we still have to struggle with inclusion in lesbian community, your feelings are valid, and I hope you’ll be OK whether or not you can find enough trans lesbian-specific content online. Now, with all of that bluster out of the way, here are some recommendations.
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You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Couple Friends To Hang Out With Me One-on-One?
Wanting to hang out with your friends separately as individuals rather than as couples is a perfectly reasonable request.
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You Need Help: My Parents Want Me to Respect My Sister’s Homophobic Religious Beliefs
How do I get my parents to see that neutrality in this situation feels like they’re rejecting me too?
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You Need Help: How Do I Deal With the Inescapable Sexism in My Industry?
Ultimately, your question is about how to find hope in the midst of the inescapable bigotry that defines the working world.
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You Need Help: Trying To Live Through the Pandemic Is Destroying My Mental Health
I want you to hold this: Even though the world is kind of terrible, your life is precious and valuable, and you are loved.
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You Need Help: What Does “Going Slow” in a Lesbian Relationship Look Like?
I think what we’re trying to do here is enabling you to get comfortable judging the quality of your relationship not for your mutual willingness to prioritize emotional whims and romantic rapture over common sense but by the actual connection you feel to a person.
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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship
The first thing I want to say is that I’m so sorry you had this experience with someone you loved, who you trusted. You deserve to be treated with respect and honor and grace. Remember that when you feel yourself doubting your heart and mind in the future.
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?
Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.
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You Need Help: Your Future In-Laws Won’t Come to Your Wedding
It’s obvious you love your fiancé very much, and want to protect them from any agony the world wants to hurl at them. Unfortunately, you mostly can’t. But here’s what you can do instead.
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You Need Help: How Can I Make Penetration Less Painful?
You shouldn’t have pain during sex. If you want to explore penetration, that has to be a choice you’re making for your own pleasure.
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You Need Help: Why Be Out As Bisexual?
There’s something about bisexuality that non-bisexual people project a lot of their fears and questions onto, maybe because it’s positioned as ‘other’ to everything else. So we become the focus of these questions that aren’t really about us in specific at all.
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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?
Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you and your girlfriend the respect your relationship deserves.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Know How To Be a Casual Friend
It sounds like you want to be neutral with your former friend. That will take some work and some boundary-setting on your part, but it’s doable.
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You Need Help: Can I Flirt With My Crushes Without Being Seen as Predatory?
I think this trope has held so many lesbians back from making moves and finding love with someone they’re interested in. You’re not gonna come off as predatory just by flirting with someone, trust me.