Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?
As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!
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You Need Help: How Do I Overcome the Feeling I’ll Never Find Someone After a Breakup?
I think we all need to shift away from the idea that the sole definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever.
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You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!
The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.
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You Need Help: How to Feel Good About Getting Older
You already escaped the lies of the patriarchy. Now — now! — you get to live.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Bringing Baggage From My Last Relationship Into My New One?
This is where it gets really scary: Growing together requires communication.Â
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices
Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs and feelings; it’s not surprising that this is when the resentment can really start to build!
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You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?
I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to feel like my cup is full as I am, and then be able to use that to help fill our cup.
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You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?
It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
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You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality
I think everyone in the queer community knows this but I think we need to say it more explicitly and more often: Queerness is a journey.
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You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn
Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.
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You Need Help: Can I Open My Relationship and Have Casual Sex Without Relying On The Apps?
Sure, maybe some nights you’ll encounter a confident queer who makes a beeline for you and starts chatting, but you know how you can guarantee a confident queer is in the room chatting to new people? Be The Confident Queer You Want To See At The Bar!
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You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
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You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Girlfriend To Freshen Up Before Sex Without Killing Our Sex Life?
Your girlfriend is putting a lot of trust in you, and that trust should be honored and celebrated.
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You Need Help: After a Bad Date I’m Worried I’m Unlovable
We live in a world that doesn’t value people of color or women over thirty, so I understand why you feel like this. But you are lovable.
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.
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You Need Help: What Is Love?
The questions we get more frequently for this column than any other are about love, so we tried to answer: what is love?
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You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?
I absolutely remember this feeling. “Am I crazy? Am I just making this up to complicate my life?” The answer is, no, you’re not. You’re not making it up. It’s real, and it’s fine, and it’s gonna be amazing.
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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?
You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific joys and challenges we face.
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You Need Help: Can I Go Through this Heartbreak Again?
In order to work through problems in a relationship, both parties must be present, willing, and able to do the work required. It’s a little like you’re sitting side by side in a rowboat, each holding one oar. When one person does all the rowing, you’re only going to go in circles.