Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?
I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to have so many areas in your life where coming out simply isn’t an option.
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You Need Help: Is It a Crush Or Am I Just Lonely in Quarantine?
“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”
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You Need Help: How Do I Move On From My Ex the “Right” Way?
Spoiler alert: There is no “right” way to move on.
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You Need Help: My Partner Says I’m Awkward in Bed
“Sex requires a negotiation of boundaries that’s more explicit than it is in other contexts, so it can be easier to see it when those boundaries are broken. But if people communicate poorly during sex, they probably communicate poorly in other contexts, too.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Feel More Connected to the Lesbian Community?
This community would be so boring if we all had the same stories. And there’s no such thing as the “right” queer story.
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You Need Help: How Do I Be a Good Partner to My Trans Girlfriend?
Being too eager or too worried about saying the right thing can be just as alienating as disapproval.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Through Living With My Homophobic Parents?
You do not need to feel guilty about the ways you’re hurting.
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You Need Help: How Do I Break Up During a Pandemic?
My advice for folks who KNOW that they want to break up with their partner is almost always the same: Break up with your partner!
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You Need Help: How Do I Explore Casual Sex If I’m Demisexual?
If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?
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You Need Help: My Ex Got Mad That I Didn’t Want To Have Sex, Now I Can’t Trust Anyone
I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.
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You Need Help: My Friend Is Late to Everything
“He has been, without fail, late to everything we’ve ever planned. His tardiness ranges from one to three hours. Sometimes, I wait an hour and politely ask “what’s your ETA?” and he replies with “Sorry, I’m just going to do my hair and 15 other things and I’ll be on my way!””
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You Need Help: I Thought We Were Both Switches, but My Girlfriend Won’t Touch Me
It sounds like your idea of your sexual dynamic with your girlfriend isn’t lining up with the reality of it.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Focusing on My Ex in Shared Queer Spaces?
Remind yourself that your life is your life and that you don’t need validation from her.
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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You Need Help: How Can I Help My Partner With COVID Anxiety?
When your anxiety stems from a valid concern about a real and terrifying threat, it’s hard to draw the line between reasonable fear and full-blown panic – here are some concrete tips for managing COVID anxiety.
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You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?
“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that — but you might consider the possibility that there are more opportunities to do so than you think.”
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You Need Help: Was I Ghosted Or Am I Their Backup?
The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.
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You Need Help: When Is it Love?
I’m not saying this word doesn’t hold meaning — I’m saying the opposite. This word holds so many meanings.