Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?
It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a different world.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Getting Emotionally Attached to My Pandemic Crush?
Part of decentering romantic relationships from our lives, part of being independent, part of seeking a kind of individuality that cisheteropatriarchy denies, has to include removing a value judgement from these very things.
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You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?
Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth
Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.
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You Need Help: Should I Move in With Someone I Used to Date?
Moving in with a former sweetie might sound cute, queer and emotionally mature, but you better have a very good reason to take on the challenge.
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You Need Help: How Do I Explain Our Sperm Donor to a Five-Year-Old?
This is going to go great, I swear! Here are six tips to get you started.
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How Do We Navigate Ethical Concerns About Having Kids as a Queer Couple?
I think it’s really admirable that you’re thinking about the ethics of having a kid. A lot of people don’t, and there is value in doing this kind of consideration before having kids. But I think there’s a difference between being aware and letting it keep you from doing something you have always wanted to do.
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After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement
“I feel like I’ve built a whole personality around accommodating her schedule: apologizing for her absences and filling in for what she doesn’t make time for (cooking, housework).”
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How Do I Learn To Trust Again After My Two-Month Situationship Ended Abruptly?
“I’m a cis queer woman in my mid-twenties, and I’m mourning yet another 2-3 month-long relationship that ended unexpectedly, and this time it’s messing with me in the way the others haven’t.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Bisexual or a Lesbian and Find Community?
There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be different things, all of which can also change! Yet we’re expected to align under a single label.
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You Need Help: Is It Possible to Repair a Relationship After a Consent Misstep?
“I’m worried the relationship is ruined before it even really got started. What should I do? Do I have to break up with her, or is there a way to work through this?”
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You Need Help: How To Be A Trans Lesbian
Make sure to be kind and generous to yourself, give yourself plenty of time to process all of these important feelings, and don’t rush it!
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?
Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.
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You Need Help: Is My Friend Flirting With Me? Do I Want Them to Be?
“Should I initiate a conversation with them about our relationship to see if they want more than a friendship? I’m afraid of embarrassing myself/making it awkward/losing the friendship.”
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You Need Help: Should I Get Back Together With My Ex During the Coronavirus Pandemic?
During a time like this, the impulse to want your ex is like the impulse some may have to want their mom. It’s carnal.
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.
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You Need Help: Why Am I So Tempted to Cheat?
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.