“I spoke about gender identity, sexuality, and my past with journalists and people in Hollywood who just didn’t understand the language I was using. It was a culture shock for me.” — Daniel Sea

“To really be in a moment where I could fully inhabit and celebrate all those things that we call limitations. Or let me say that better, what we perceive of as a limitation, being an incredible source of strength. I love that.”

1. Come out to my family. 2. Buy a plane ticket anywhere.

In the spirit of continuing to make Autostraddle March Madness more interactive, I’ve reached out to some fanfic writers to offer their thoughts on what makes their favorite subjects worth shipping.

Part of this job is making peace with the fact that I will, in fact, never get everything done that I want to.

For All Mankind, Apple TV+’s alternate history/sci-fi series, has a sweet lesbian love story with Ellen and Pam, buried under a whole lotta moon rocks.

Symone was my favorite because she’s a Capricorn. Now she’s my favorite for so much more.

I am ready to be fearless. To dream beyond Black womanhood and know that I — Black, queer, and not-quite-sure — am worthy, so worthy of all of the love, affirmation, and power the universe can muster.

Clea DuVall manages a real Christmas miracle in Happiest Season by capturing the distinctly queer and quietly heart-wrenching experience of not being able to share your real self with the people you love most, when all you want to do is shout from the tallest chimney in town that you’ve found your person, that you’re in love.

Riese: So then we cut to Dylan’s condo or wherever.
Carly: Wherever Dylan lives.
Shannon: Her corporate housing.
Riese: Yeah, her corporate — Dylan has her tea because she’s like, “I’m entertaining a British woman at 11:00 p.m.”
Carly: “So I must make tea!”
Shannon: “Crumpets and tea.”

At Crow headquarters, Sophie is doing that thing you do when you have a crush on someone and you can’t stop thinking about them so you stare at their photo and compare it with a masked vigilante’s and wonder how you never realized they had a secret identity and somehow that makes you love them more.

Valerie and Meg look back at Critical Role’s gayest moments in 2020 because queer D&D is their favored terrain.

Loneliness is an old bedfellow of mine; despair, my oldest friend. If I can come to embrace those parts of myself I’ve always tried to push away — perhaps, that is the only lifelong love I can count on.

“In conclusion, Aubrey Plaza is a precious gem and I would die for her.”

You want to know where you came from, is that it? Do not be embarrassed. Nature did not see motherhood in me, either.

“That’s my whole junior high experience: No, I don’t want to be friends with you. I actually want to have sex with you.”

It’s less that Winslet feels like Ronan’s mother and more that she feels like Ronan’s dull aunt she sees once a year at Christmas.

“Unless one of you all sent me a mesh shirt that said Pizza Slut???”

14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).

The team digs into questions about a partner’s conservative family, dealing with a crush on a new friend, figuring out what to wear for your wedding (!!!), and more!