Results for: be the change
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Trans Love in Pandemic Times
Love without a blueprint leaves room for unknown possibilities. I spoke to seven trans people about how the pandemic has changed their relationships and how trans love has changed their lives.
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You Need Help: Everyone Thinks I’m Lying To Myself About My Gender
“If you were to ask me my gender, I’d say ‘lesbian.’ The problem is people in my life will not stop asking me if I’m nonbinary or trans. Everyone keeps asking if I have new pronouns.”
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I Wish I’d Medically Transitioned Before Giving Birth
Less than a year after giving birth, I decided to medically transition. I wish I’d done it sooner.
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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
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Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
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What Trans Visibility Could Mean for Trans People, and Everyone Else
Visibility can be a trap in many ways because we never got to set the terms by which we are viewed.
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You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?
It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?
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In Genderqueer, a Word To Call Home
It conveys a sense of expansiveness that I’ve felt about my gender since before I had the words to identify it; a joyful space of experimentation and potential.
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How a Trans-Inclusive Manual for School Teachers Turned Controversial in India
The backlash that ensued after a trans-inclusive education manual was released demonstrated that post-independence India still reckons with the legacy of British colonialism.
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Quit Calling Elliott Sailors A Male Model—She’s More Interesting Than That
So why can’t anyone seem to talk about her the right way?
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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?
You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific joys and challenges we face.
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What Drag Has Taught Me
Every time I have gotten the opportunity to do mediocre drag as a beginner, I have had some of the most fun a person can have.
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Sex With An X: The Perils Of Performative Spelling
Inclusive spellings have a long, meaningful history, but the current usage, especially replacing certain vowels in words with an “x,” leaves much to be desired – and might actually be actively harmful.
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Myths About Testosterone and Fertility, Told Through Three Perspectives
Many who have taken testosterone have become pregnant and birthed babies, and there is no evidence that testosterone impacts fertility long-term. But the myths about testosterone continue swirling.
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I’m Tired of Apologizing for My Intersex Trans Body
Within a binary understanding of sex, a binary understanding of gender, or a binary separation between sex and gender, I am impossible.
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Respect Your Elders: Tea with Trans Playwright and Actress Christine Howey
“After I was about 20 years into my life as a trans woman, I was getting very frustrated by seeing that nothing much was changing. Transgender people were still being assaulted, killed, committing suicide. I felt that since I was a writer, I was a performer, I could put that together and maybe do a show and break down some barriers.”
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Janelle Monáe’s Art Was The Musical Manifestation of My Truest Self
Growing up, I looked to Monae as a Black femme musician whose art and existence challenged traditional definitions of Black womanhood.
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You Need Help: I’m a Trans Woman Looking For Affirming Lesbian Content
The point is this: it sucks that we still have to struggle with inclusion in lesbian community, your feelings are valid, and I hope you’ll be OK whether or not you can find enough trans lesbian-specific content online. Now, with all of that bluster out of the way, here are some recommendations.
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The Trans Body as a Work of Art
Burlesque is my loving manifestation of what all my ancestors deserved—not simply tolerance, but unbridled celebration.
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The Echo of My Friend’s Casual Biphobia Destroyed Our Relationship
“Remember your bi phase?” my best friend asked when we were in our 20s. I rolled my eyes.
“Yeah. It was never a phase.”