Results for: be the change
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This Is The Real Ellen DeGeneres Story: Remembering “The Puppy Episode” 20 Years Later
“She was an attractive woman, you know. If she hadn’t told us she was a lesbian, she could’ve been in a Miss America contest!”
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You Need Help: How to Navigate Disabled Kids Coming Out
“That she talked to you about this at all is a beautiful and important thing that a lot of young people don’t have. So know that just being there for her is already making an enormous difference!”
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Y’All Need Help #8: Cross That Bridge When You Come to It!
Should you come out in high school or let them hear about it out later? Can you date a person with a kid if you don’t want kids? How do you take it slow with all these mixed signals?? Let’s find out!
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Mastering the Art of Coming Out (and Making Lobster Bisque)
“I decided to make lobster bisque for my mom at the same moment I decided to come out to her. Only one of those things went according to plan.”
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Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family
“I sent a short, simple message saying that although I didn’t realize it fully until recently, I was indeed bisexual, that this was an undeniable part of my identity, and I could no longer comfortably hide this fact.
He never responded.”
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I Didn’t Know How to Be Poor, Black, Biracial, AND Queer; So I Wasn’t
“I wasn’t in denial, I had just become extremely successful at compartmentalizing difficult emotions that I had no idea what to do with.”
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You Need Help: Coming Out In Your Mid/Late 20s
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
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Coming Out to Your Friends: The Autostraddle Roundtable
Come out, come out, wherever you are! The Autostraddle team gives you tips on how to come out to your friends.
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You Need Help: Do I Call Myself Bisexual?
“I’m attracted to more than one gender, but am not sure what label to use. “Queer” resonates with me, but am I contributing to bisexual erasure if I don’t ID as bisexual?”
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
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Becoming Visible: On Coming Out As Bisexual
“I guess I’m still sort of coming out. I’m learning to embrace my sexuality as a primary part of my identity rather than an afterthought. It feels really good.”
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Confessions of a Beauty Queer: The Best Goodbye of My Life
“I was simply a girl who thought she liked girls at one point in her life, but prayed it away, and now life was good. Right?”
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Learning to Use Chopsticks: Coming Out as Korean-American
“At 27, I came out as Korean-American. I was always Korean, of course. I checked the “Asian” box when filling out a form. My ethnicity was written on my face in the shape of my eyes and my small flat nose. But until a few years ago, it wasn’t an identity I felt connected to. There were many identities that came first — poet, bisexual, queer, feminist, activist, organizer, fattie, vegan. Being Korean was a fact, but not an identity.”
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Fool’s Journey: Moving Beyond a Difficult Coming Out Experience
A reader asks what to do next now that coming out as trans has gone poorly with their family.
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You Need Help: You Fell In Love With A Girl and It’s Exploding Your Whole Life
So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?
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More Than Words: Coming Out Party
Skeletons and debutantes.
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Roundtable: On Coming Out In Our Applications, Interviews, and Lives
Should you tell your dream school that you’re queer in your college application? What about your future employer? The New York Times got us talking about this so we put together a roundtable and now we wanna know how you feel, too.
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A Tale Of Two Ellens
On the journey from there to here.
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How Finding My Korean Mother Gave Me the Courage to Transition
“I am an adoptee,” I explained through my tears. “I need to find my parents. I have waited all my life for this moment. I’m supposed to leave tomorrow, but I can’t go without knowing my family is fine. Please help me!”
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“And I Do Mean All My Life”: A Trans* Coming Out Letter
For anyone who’s ever wanted to say it in a letter.