Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #27: Boot Straps

“Oh Hey! It’s Alyssa” is a biweekly webcomic by Alyssa

Alyssa is a totally complete incomplete paraplegic and thirty-something hanky-in-the-pocket cartoonist weirdo!

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17 Comments

  1. Alyssa, this comic hits home for me sooo much. I’ve struggled to learn these lessons all my life, and even after learning them I still struggle to practice them. I grew up learning that I could only depend on myself for the things I wanted to be happy. Being tough, like you said, was the name of the game. True too is that I’d overload myself with impossible expectations and criticize myself when I didn’t make those expectations. I still do from time to time. Learning to accept who I am for who I am has helped, but I really wouldn’t have accomplished that without accepting help from people who saw me facing adversity in the first place. Thank you for this! I just wish I had it ten years ago hah.

    If you ever need some help from someone the Philly area, I’d be happy to do what I can!

  2. Thank you for writing/drawing This out so eloquently. I think it’s pretty cool that even if it’s hard for you to be vulnerable with those around you, your comics are so honest and I thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us 🙂

    I relate so much to this comic. My illness is (often) invisible (Crohns), so a lot of people don’t see my vulnerabilities until I disclose my illness, or until they see me sick. And I try so hard to counter this by always being the toughest, strongest, hardest person I can be. I also keep things to myself when they are hard and tend to internalize. Asking for help from my friends is a no-go 95% of the time. But even though I recognize my inability to be vulnerable, I guess I don’t see myself changing that or wanting to change that…at least not for now. I don’t know, still working through this, but thank you for helping me!

    • *high five*

      I am certain I have said this to my therapist many times. Also, “feelings are the worst,” as well.

      This comic is like a weekly theme in therapy that my therapist likes to harp on about. “Humans are not solitary creatures. People need other people,” while I roll my eyes at her 😉

  3. This gave me aaaalllll of the feels. I’m really like this, only recently have I started trying to work on this and trying to ask for help when I need it.

    Thank you so much for articulating this so beautifully.

    PS I’d totally come hang your pictures for you, I’ve finally figured out how to hammer in nails without hammering my fingers!

  4. Ooof. This is something that has taken me a long time to learn and something I struggle with every day. Helping others – easy; asking folks to help me – noooope.

    If you ever need help hanging stuff, I’m a short drive from Portland, have a ton of podcasts to catch up on, and despite not seeing straight lines I like hanging pictures.

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