NSFW Sunday Is Hoarding Sex Toys

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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

+ At the Establishment, Suzannah Weiss writes about whoever called her hotel room while she was masturbating:

“People are afraid of a woman in touch with her body because a woman in touch with her body is in touch with her needs, and a woman in touch with her needs doesn’t put up with people who act like they don’t matter. Which means she doesn’t put up with the world. […]

When you move from sight to sensation, hierarchies disappear. A woman can enjoy being inside her body no matter how ‘beautiful’ or ‘ugly’ it is, and that’s scary. If women aren’t deemed dangerous for being beautiful, they’re deemed dangerous for being ‘ugly’ and feeling good anyway.”

+ Want to have sex even though you have the flu? Use clean sheets, don’t kiss and avoid breath to skin contact. Or masturbate together:

“There’s no thrusting your way around it: If you’re in the same room as someone who’s sick, the risk of coming down with something exists. But the less contact you have, the lower your risk. So consider using your flu as a break from the usual grind—co-masturbation is as safe as sex can be. ‘It’s an extremely underrated sex act,’ says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist in California. ‘Not many people do it, so the novelty of it can be quite thrilling. Plus there’s the taboo of doing our most private act out in the open,’ she says. Feel free to break out the sex toys and speak up about what you’d like to be doing to each other, she says. Because dirty talk, unlike your dirty germs, will not spread infection.”

+ It might get a lot harder to buy sex toys under Trump.

+ Pay for your (staged voyeur) porn.

+ You do not need a $249 lube warmer that only takes proprietary lube pods, are you serious. Maybe rub your hands together instead.

via rodeoh

+ “Aphrodisiacs have always occupied a weird space between myth and science,” writes Mish Barber Way at Broadly.

+ Sex education might be more effective if it comes from teens’ peers, according to a recent study.

slimkatkim via rodeoh

+ How do you tell someone you want to tie them up?:

“Breaking that shell of worry and speculated fear can often be the hardest part of the entire experience. Confidence is important, especially with someone you love and trust. When bringing up the subject of bondage, you are literally asking someone to give you their trust, their freedom, and potentially their idea of safety in exchange for sensual/sexual pleasure, power-play, and a possible re-evaluation of your own relationship. By asking someone you care about to let you dominate them, even in the most respectful and safe of ways, you are asking for their trust, and showing that you feel you’ve earned the right to explore it.

So, imagine for a moment that your partner is asking you to take part in an exercise where they want to restrain you. Do you want them to be scared, sweating, breathing heavily, or dodging around the subject, or would you prefer something straightforward, respectful and, above all, aware of what they are asking? How would you react to either situation?”

Carolyn Yates is the NSFW Consultant, and was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor, for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She recently moved to Los Angeles from Montreal. Find her on twitter.

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5 Comments

  1. Now that we’ve finally banished the cold lube curse, the remaining barriers to full LGBTQ+ equity and inclusion shall surely fall away with similar Kuerig-style ease. I wonder if the pods are bio-degradable? I still feel bad about the number of K-Cups I’ve sent to permanent residence in a landfill.

  2. I love the first picture. The girl in the fourth looks like a white version of my wife…. yummy.

    Now I can go back to read the articles, especially that last one. I bought some silk rope to use. This is going to be a fun week.

  3. As someone who works with toddlers, and has, as a result, been actively contagious with some form of head cold since early September, I sincerely hope no one I ever wanna fuck reads that “how to have sex when you’re sick” guide

    Childcare Workers Barely Get Paid; Please At Least Let Us Get Laid

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