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+ At Graphic Depictions, Stoya writes about the porn industry and her allegations against James Deen, their former relationship and the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers:
“I believe that in order to be effective, the systems we develop to protect performers and other sex workers—whether they involve the justice system or internal groups—need to be worker-led. That those systems must cater to the needs of the most vulnerable to an extent that equals the extent to which existing systems reinforce the power and control of those who already have most of it.
One thing that everyone can do is listen to sex workers. Today is December 17th, the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers—all sex workers. Not just pornographers. Not just white cis-women. And not just women who are fortunate enough to get column space in respectable papers. I’ll be doing a lot of listening to others under the red umbrella of sex work. I believe that their safety is important and that it can be improved. I believe that no one is safe and no one is protected unless we’re all safe and protected, sex worker or not.”
“Through the sex work disabled porn performers are doing, Morrison-Gurza thinks we can change the way we talk about disabilities and desirability. Unlike a fashion shoot, featuring disabled performers in porn can force society to see those with disabilities as sexual beings.
“I think people without disabilities and the able-bodied community have not been given an opportunity to see disabilities as sexy. So by not seeing that they simply don’t equate sex with disability. It needs to be put in their face in the nicest possible way for them to consider it as sexy,” said Morrison-Gurza.”
Hayley Fingersmith and Sadie Lune via crash pad series
+ Sex toys are finally moving away from looking like penises.
+ Dr. Seuss created a book of nudes.
by Peter Koehler Photography via solisseblog
+ Here is how porn stars talk about consent.
+ Why aren’t you sexting more?
via thick chicks
+ Not giving pre-teens sex education doesn’t keep them blissfully innocent, surprise. “There are always those who will decry early childhood sexuality education, or even adolescent sexuality education because they feel that teaching kids about sex and/or pleasure will lead to rampant sexual activity. This despite the fact that there is plenty of research to show that the opposite is true,” writes Steph Auteri:
“It’s a shame that many parents persist in viewing their children as innocent and asexual, lacking any sexual desires, thoughts, or erotic interests. This attitude only serves to make children more vulnerable. We shouldn’t be waiting for the physical education teacher with no formal training about sexuality to teach our children about intimacy and body ownership (or, as is more often the case, basic anatomy and all of the many possible negative repercussions of sexual intercourse). We should be preparing our children for everything that is to come.”
+ It doesn’t matter when you sleep with someone for the first time.
+ Trans sex workers are 25% more likely to be HIV-positive.
+ Cuddling might be good for you, I guess.
+ Please have more than one single emotionally intimate relationship.
+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: what’s the deal with scissoring?:
“[I]t does seem like scissoring is a really popular topic for porn aimed at straight men (and here’s a not-safe-for-work link to back that up). But we’re also talking about a really narrow definition of scissoring — the kind where one rubs a vulva against a vulva. Actually, scissoring is a colloquial umbrella term for all sorts of acts of tribadism, aka: rubbing vulva against all sorts of body bits! So thighs, stomachs, butt cheeks and so many other places also count. It’s not just somehow aiming one clitoris for another and hitting it magically (small targets, y’all!). You can use bigger targets and guess what? That’s still scissoring (or tribadism, or whatever you prefer to call it in bed)! It just doesn’t have the theatrical mainstream porn shape that gave scissoring its name.”
via alexusthecreator
I find it astonishingly disturbing that there are those who advise “keeping friends at arms length and never getting too close”. (Referring to actual, close friends, of course, there are co-workers and casual friends/acquaintances for whom this advise is entirely logical.) Really? Really? Depend on one human being to provide you with all the support and perspective you need over a lifetime? I suppose this could work if you had family/siblings that filled additional confidante slots but otherwise it sounds a bit like a recipe for disaster.
I find this upsetting too!
As disturbing as it is, there are a lot of people who keep friends at arms length and even their own partners. No one wants to get hurt or even risk the possibility of any type of relationship going south. I used to keep everyone at a distance and, although I was never hurt by my relationships by others as a result, I was emotionally hurting myself and others to avoid painful experiences again. It is a recipe for disaster. Having multiple meaningful and emotional connections is just part of healthy living and it should be more widely acceptable.
I really want a copy of Dr. Suess’ The Seven Lady Godivas. That is a coffee table book, for sure.
Yes!
Not gonna lie – I came for the Dr Suess book of nudes, and it did not disappoint.
Emotional intimacy is right on time. I’m trying to explain to about our relationship and I think I might have hurt feelings by being honest about how I see him and exactly what I see him as providing in our friendship. Meaning I feel it’s unequal and I understand that he can’t provide everything, and I’m finally ok with that. But I think it’s upset him to hear that and I can’t for the life of me figure out how to explain it fully without hurting his feelings. It’s also making me wonder if I should have kept it to myself… Friends are hard, and while I wouldn’t change any of them for the world, I just kind of wish this were a bit easier to talk about.
Bless you for the lingerie-clad Priyanka Chopra. Just bless you.
Bless your icon.