NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Wearing Your Underwear

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+ The best porn is often playful. At Guts, Maddy Mcnab profiles Spit, an alt porn site:

“Spit Magazine is young and still figuring out its identity. The founders are still negotiating Spit’s approach to representing queer, non-normative sexualities, and sex-positive encounters. […]

Spit’s videos are certainly full of happy people, fucking joyfully and healthily. The sex they portray is communicative in all the right ways. West says, “In our videos you’ll see people giggling or tripping. Just the natural parts of sex that are clumsy and weird and awkward, that are actually really sexy.” It is hilarious and affirming to see performer Calvin Inclined giggling as she adjusts her strap-on during one queer sex scene. In a video that features some BDSM play, there are natural pauses, a whisper in a partner’s ear to check in, and an eager smiling and nodding in return. These candid, clumsy bits, which can be sexy in that they are refreshing and relatable, give way to some seriously hot moments. Spit’s videos do not shy away from the graphic: cunt close-ups, lovingly portrayed, fill the screen. Sometimes the shot dwells on an enthusiastic tongue down below, other times on some version of penetration (real and strap-on dicks, gloved and ungloved fingers). All variations are a lot of fun.”

+ Jiz Lee on why you should be ethical about your porn:

“Let’s face it, free porn is easy. It’s the first (FIVE?) page results on Google. There’s no need to pull out a credit card (if you’re lucky enough to own one). You don’t even need to register or log in to press play. (A big step in preventing underage users from gaining access.) But figuring out where to go and what to click is not the first priority for someone horny.

I believe most viewers don’t think what they’re doing is that bad. Some may not even be aware they’re in the wrong to begin with. Who could blame them? A lack of media literacy around how porn is made leads fans to make a lot of assumptions. I know this first-hand, as I continue to learn more and more about the industry as I move from performing in front of the camera, to helping behind the scenes.”

+ Many lingerie companies still approach androgyny like it involves only thin people, conventional bottoms, not enough tops, few femme options for trans people and conflating “androgyny” with “masculine”:

“[M]asculine is often considered both the ideal and the default in western culture. But lingerie, which so often defies masculinity, could be doing a lot more to present a range of possibilities for androgyny. We need to acknowledge that not all nonbinary people are thin, masculine, and uninterested in breast support, because there are a lot of people out there who don’t fit into any of those categories and still want to have options for expressing their gender. Companies that are already teetering on the edge of catering to these markets–companies that sell masculine pieces “for women” or feminine pieces “for men”–have an opportunity here to drop some of the gendered language and open their doors a little wider. Hopefully we’ll see some changes to the status quo in the coming year.”

+ Everybody sexts.

+ Humbly, a few suggestions for good winter sex.

+ The arguments for and against marrying your best friend distill, roughly, to whether you want a little more conversation or a little more action.

+ Golden Girls has a few surprisingly timeless lessons about sex.

+ The questions from a study that concluded that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness between strangers are available for your perusal.

+ Sometimes relationships shape who you are, and the direction in which they do that can affect how you are as a person and how your relationships function:

“[R]elationships can affect individuals’ sense of self along two primary dimensions — direction and valence. Direction means that stuff can be added or subtracted from our sense of self — that is, we can gain identities and perspectives we never had (e.g., we might add the identity of “Trekkie” if our partner introduced us to Star Trek), or we can lose existing aspects of who we are (e.g., we might stop identifying as a “wine aficionado” if our partner discourages alcohol consumption). Valence refers to how positive or negative we view our modified sense of self.”

via rodeoh

via rodeoh


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Carolyn Yates was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She lives in Los Angeles by way of Montreal and Toronto. Find her on twitter or instagram.

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5 Comments

  1. I found the study on love to be utterly facinating. Being a more science-minded person, this helped to ease the ache in my heart I’ve been feeling a bit after a recent breakup with my first love. Now I’m kind of eager to test this out on a willing stranger while I travel across the states this month.

  2. The part about “vulnerability” is what I totally feel and do. I believe shared emotional vulnerability creates a couple’s “great love”!!
    But I have found that showing your emotional vulnerability too soon can “scare” the woman you have feelings for.
    If she does not understand that your love for her is what makes you want to show your vulnerability to her, then she may interpret your feelings as “needy” and want to avoid a relationship with you.
    I made this mistake!
    But I believe sharing our emotional vulnerabilities in an appropriate time in knowing each other forms an amazing bond that lasts forever! Even if two lovers part…. the bond remains. I know this from experience as well.

  3. My housemate saw me looking at this and then half-freaked about the images. He dismissed it but then he had a light bulb go off… “oh my god, I forgot you’re gay!!!”
    Me, blushing, “I’m just clicking the links. Look! Look at all the text!”

  4. I’m gunna get around to the articles eventually but I must say that first picture is fucking ethereal. The lighting makes the model look like some unworldly fae queen pausing for a moment in our mundane little world. If I was a painter I’d use the model and the lighting for a work in tribute to Oshun but I’m neither a painter nor even an aboricha.

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