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The feature image of Bunny Adler and Lucy Kills and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Mimosa, Magenta Lexe, Vanessa Darling

Mimosa, Magenta Lexe, Vanessa Darling for Mondo Fetiche

If you haven’t been dating but are ready to start again, here’s how to talk about boundaries, because you deserve to date people who respect them. As an example, your date scored a great reservation, but it’s for indoor dining:

“Describe the current facts: COVID is ongoing and the news on the Delta variant is making you anxious. Express your discomfort about eating indoors unmasked. Assert that you’d feel more comfortable with an outdoor park date. Give some positive reinforcement about the idea, how excited you are to spend time with them in a format that feels safe to you.

If your date-to-be isn’t immediately understanding, stay mindful of any attempts to undermine your concerns. Gonzalez says it’s important to appear confident by maintaining eye contact and repeating your point without backing down. Finally, if you’re still trying to work out a compromise, you can negotiate — to a point. ‘Listen to the other person’s opinion, and the other person’s feelings, and the other person’s values, and try and find the middle ground if you can, but if you can’t, know that there’s going to be somebody else who has your values out there,’ says Gonzalez.”

Domina Mari, Billie LaBeau

Domina Mari, Billie LaBeau for Mondo Fetiche

OnlyFans, a website built on porn, will ban porn beginning in October. Most of the coverage focuses on the anti-sex work element, which is true – and it’s important to highlight that the real culprit is MasterCard, which is changing the requirements for adult websites who use it to process payments, and which has far wider implications for sex work and online freedom.

“My sex education started with romance novels,” writes Thien-Kim Lam at Jezebel.

Check out this piece on the erotic thriller.

Pornhub cuts videos from its erotic art tour amid backlash from museums.”

Outgrowing a relationship agreement is a sign of success.

Here are six dating red flags.

Stop gossiping.

Clean your sex toys.

Uncle Red, Mimosa

Uncle Red, Mimosa for Mondo Fetiche

It’s time to embrace read receipts:

“[L]iving this life requires a certain level of confidence. It says you’re not about to bend over backward for someone else — your schedule matters just as much as theirs. And frankly, that’s fine with me. I don’t feel guilty about making someone wait for my response, even if they know I’ve already read, then ignored their message. In the event that I do hesitate to respond, I accept full responsibility for any repercussions my slowness may incur.”

Mimosa, Magenta Lexe, Vanessa Darling

Mimosa, Magenta Lexe, Vanessa Darling for Mondo Fetiche

How can you have a thriving relationship when you work all the time?:

“[F]ind ways to make them feel like they’re a part of who you are professionally, as long as it isn’t weird in your corporate culture. Bring them to company parties and outings, for instance. When you get home, tell them about your workday and ask about theirs. Work shouldn’t be a big, mysterious blockage that comes in between the two of you. […]

Together, strive to associate work not with the grueling hours, micromanaging bosses, or time apart, but with the fun times your paychecks facilitate. Feeling involved with each other’s work lives and creating a healthier relationship with those work lives will help you grow together.”

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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1125 articles for us.

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