Feature image of Emperatrix and Nicki Honey in Crash Pad Series episode 260. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Ever notice how couples who suddenly start posting a lot of photos together also seem to suddenly break up? If you post a lot about your relationship on social media, you might be trying to hide how insecure you are about it, according to a new study. At Broadly, Gabrielle Sorto discusses the study and keeping relationships mostly offline:
“I found that most of my friends, who are also in their 20s, are nearly as private as I am. Hazel, 29, is a friend who is in an open relationship. When I first met her, I had no idea she was even with her partner. She’s never felt the need to claim anyone online or in real life. ‘Many of the happiest, healthiest couples I know rarely post anything about each other,’ she says. ‘In my eyes, this is because a stable, safe, and healthy relationship thrives within itself and does not need to be shouted from the rooftops for validation.'”
Max Madame and Q in Crash Pad Series episode 261
Winterizing vaginas not a thing.
At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Salkitten discusses collaring.
Four Chambers’s director and performer Vex Ashley discusses what sex is about conceptually, building intensity, keeping sex weird, learning to talk about sex and more in an interview with Broadly:
“When I’m directing porn films for my project Four Chambers, what I’m really interested in is playing with the aesthetics of porn and sex and seeing how we can use sexuality to talk about other things in a more conceptual way. I love anything that’s fucking weird, like liquids or pouring stuff on people. I’ve done shoots with eggs and fish. For me, porn is more interesting when it’s a little gross. Sex is half transcendent, and half dirty and a bit disgusting. It isn’t hot unless it’s a bit disgusting!”
Emperatrix and Nicki Honey in Crash Pad Series episode 260
Having good anal sex involves talking about it first, learning anatomy, having anal sex with yourself, picking a good anal lube, and remembering that it’s not supposed to hurt:
“Anal sex involves a lot of novel and intense sensory information. Indeed, that’s a big part of why it’s so popular. But while anal is likely to be an arresting and possibly challenging experience, it should never be a cause of what kinksters categorize as “bad pain.” If the receiving partner is new to butt play, you’ll be well advised to be all kinds of nice to their butt to create positive and pleasurable associations with it every time you have a non-anal sex session.”
Valentine and Calico in Crash Pad episode 232
Great lineup this week! The piece on winterizing vaginas is especially hilarious.
The best part of the winterizing article is the list of ‘Related Topics’ at the end –
Don’t use a Japanese vagina stick to “tighten” your vagina, okay?
Don’t put ground up wasp nest in your vagina
Don’t cleanse your vagina with a cucumber. Please.
That last photo is so sweet!
WARNING: Do not put soap up your butt. I tried the soapy finger after reading William Burroughs age 12 which meant the next thing I attempted to put up there was the entire shower head to ease the horrific burning sensation. The next few days were very uncomfortable and I couldn’t explain why.
Would you put it in your mouth? No.
Would you put it inside your vagina/penis? No.
Soap can burn hyper-sensitive mucous membranes and won’t be completely removed until you’ve had a few bowel movements which is far too long to wait. Don’t put soap in your butt. People who suggest you do this are not your friends or reliable sex educators. I wouldn’t normally post here but this advice is too terrible to go unchallenged.
Thank you for the intro to Dr Jen Gunter! That’s my work day gone :)