Netflix’s “The Ultimatum: Queer Love” Trailer Is Here and the Lesbians Are Ready to Be Extra

Netflix’s habit of creating heterosexual dating shows based on lesbian cultural practices is storied and deep, and nobody is more thrilled than we are that they are finally embracing the true audience for over-dramatic, over-emotional, interconnected, commitment-chasing dating shows with the launch of The Ultimatum: Queer Love. Featuring a cast of queer couples — all lesbian or bisexual women or non-binary people — and debuting May 24th, we simply cannot wait to feast our eyes upon this inevitable drama! They’re giving Ultimatum to the lesbians bless us everyone!

The Ultimatum: Queer Love Trailer

Who Is Hosting and Who’s in the Cast of ”The Ultimatum: Queer Love”?

The Ultimatum Queer Love. (L to R) Raelyn Cheung-Sutton, Tiff Der, Xander Boger, Aussie Chau, Host JoAnna Garcia Swisher, Mildred Woody, Vanessa Papa, Yoly Rojas in episode 202 of The Ultimatum Queer Love. Cr. Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

The show is hosted by JoAnna Garcia Swisher, an actress best known for her roles in Are You Afraid of the Dark, Freaks and Geeks, and Reba. She is married to basketball player Nick Swisher. She is not gay and, according to Wikipedia, she is a “devout Catholic.” It is very confusing why she is the host of this program. One could argue it makes absolutely no sense at all.

The participants in The Ultimatum: Queer Love are Vanessa Papa, Aussie Chau, Mildred Woody, Yoly Rojas, Mal Wright, Raelyn Cheung-Sutton, Tiff Der, Xander Boger, Lexi Goldberg and Sam Mark.

What is “The Ultimatum”?

The Ultimatum Queer Love. (L to R) Vanessa Papa, Xander Boger in episode 201 of The Ultimatum Queer Love. Cr. Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

The first season of The Ultimatum followed a handful of humans in their very early twenties who’d been dating their partners for 1-2 years and were allegedly ready to issue their partners astounding ultimatums: marry me or it’s over!!!!! To test the strength of their love, members of each couple were allowed to date other people participating in this experiment and then they all came back together to ask “where do we go from here?”

This is a great format for the queer community because we love to make premature commitments as prematurely as possible. Also as a people we tend to be dramatic, hot and unhinged, and that is reality television gold!

The Ultimatum Queer Love. (L to R) Mal Wright, Yoly Rojas in episode 201 of The Ultimatum Queer Love. Cr. Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

The Ultimatum: Queer Love trailer was initially supposed to debut at the end of tonight’s also hotly anticipated LIVE Love is Blind reunion that Netflix had us OUT HERE WAITING FOR LIKE A BUNCH OF FOOLS but as anybody who is intimately familiar with the Netflix error screen can tell you, that is not how it went down.

Anyhow, luckily they still got this trailer up so that’s one point for Netflix on Sunday April 16th, although I am unclear if they will ever rebound from the ten million points they lost for the Love is Blind Reunion debacle.

When is The Ultimatum: Queer Love Coming Out?

The Ultimatum Queer Love. (L to R) Aussie Chau, Mildred Woody, Yoly Rojas, Mal Wright, Raelyn Cheung-Sutton in episode 202 of The Ultimatum Queer Love. Cr. Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

Courtesy of Netflix © 2023

May 24th only on Netflix! The episodes will be released as follows:

  • Week 1(Wednesday, May 24th): Episodes 1-4
  • Week 2 (Wednesday, May 31st): Episodes 5-8
  • Week 3 (Wednesday, June 7th): Episodes 9-10
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  1. This is going to be so messy and I’m so excited for it, no drama like dyke drama! Although the choice of a straight catholic host is a bit odd, netflix does seem to struggle with good host choices.

  2. Will I watch this? Yes! Will I spend the whole time feeling aghast about how this bunch of supposed queers is presumably about to act like possessive and heteronormative straight people? Also yes! Will I keep praying for a queer reality tv show that lets queer people do queer things together a la the 5some on AYTO season 8? You betcha.

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