It’s Your Big Chance To Win An A+ Membership



It’s been a few weeks since we launched Autostraddle Plus, a program that enables our readers to support our ongoing existence in exchange for some fun perks. We’ve published two issues of The Autostraddle Insider, chock full of the witty, weird shit we say in our Skype chats and office reply-all; three issues of the A+ Bee, which is all about you, you, YOU and inspired by the daily newspaper Chelsey and Grace made at camp; Crystal’s heart-breaking-and-filling essay about The Cheesecake Factory, Laneia’s brilliant photoessay about going home, Rachel’s heart-warming confessions of a liar, a couple of thought-provoking and journalism-prize-worthy Interviews with An Ex and two erotic editions of The Kind of Sex We’re Talking About Today.

As promised, we want those who can’t monetarily support us through Autostraddle Plus at the moment to have the opportunity to join us for the best pizza party on the internet! So, we’re doing a contest a lot like the one we did last December. This won’t be our last A+ Membership Contest, but as you can see, it is indeed our first.

Here’s how you enter:

  • If you haven’t already, register for an account on Autostraddle.
  • Comment on this post — THIS ONE RIGHT HERE — and tell us what in school or life or work you would give yourself an A+ inbefore September 15th. This serves as your declaration of intent to enter the contest.
  • Then… keep on commenting! Comment at least a few more times before the end of the month.
  • Interns Grace and Chelsey will then compile a list of everybody who entered themselves here, check comment logs to make sure you’ve stuck around with your thoughts and feelings, and toss all those names into a magical hat.
  • On October 7th, the winners will be announced, most likely in video form, plucked out of a vessel by somebody undoubtedly adorable.

What Can You Win?

We’re giving away at least one bronze subscription and one silver subscription.

One Yearly Bronze Subscription to Autostraddle Plus

That means you get:

  • one nifty A+ Member Sticker
  • a cute, little gold circle around your display name in our comments
  • to read our awesome monthly A+ Bee community newspaper
  • to know all the inner-workings of this very website through the monthly behind-the-scenes Autostraddle Insider
  • to laugh and cry at the “Interview with an Ex-Girlfriend” series
  • to enjoy the special members-only layout
  • exclusive A+ only discounts from super cool businesses like us

One Yearly Silver Subscription to Autostraddle Plus

That means you get all of the above PLUS

  • Access to all our premium content, including personal essays, the upcoming podcast, the sex we’re talking about today and who knows what else!

But Wait…That’s Not All!

Right now we’ve got 536 A+ members, and our goal is to hit 1,000 by the end of the year. So, for every six new members we sign up, we’ll be giving away another Bronze Membership. If we reach 600 we’ll start giving away Silver Memberships for every six new sign-ups! This will continue until the end of the month. So, if you can afford it and you wanna help people who can’t get a membership, there’s no better time than now to do so!

Bookmark this post and check back to see how many memberships we’ve gotten!

9/18/2014: We’re up to 552 members! So that means we’re giving away two additional memberships and are well on our way to a third!

9/30/2014: 563 members! That’s 27 new members since we posted this, which makes for four more memberships being given away — and fifth if we get another two members by the end of the day.

Before you go! Did you like what you just read? We keep Autostraddle majority free-to-read, but it isn't free to create! And yet most readers don't support this indie queer site. Will you be one of the people who do? A+ membership starts at just $4/month or $30/year and they literally keep us from closing. Will you join?

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Yvonne S. Marquez is a lesbian journalist and former Autostraddle senior editor living in Dallas, TX. She writes about social justice, politics, activism and other things dear to her queer Latina heart. Yvonne was born and raised in the Rio Grande Valley. Follow her on Instagram or Twitter. Read more of her work at

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  1. Hi autostraddle,

    Things which I’d receive an A+ in?

    Minor dilly dallying, existential procrastination (like regular procrastination but combined with a superiority complex), advanced sexting and napping.

    Mostly napping.

  2. I give myself an A+ in life right now. I talked to my ultra conservative minister grandma about being a lady lover and even though she has ignored it and hated it since I was 17, I got her to begin accepting it. got Two jobs, increased my gpa, took on four positions in my sorority, turned 21 and never had a drink, moved in with my girlfriend and I’m hoping to adopt a baby with her soon. I Also wrote some great informative essays that taught people about being a queer woman and how great it would be if gays adopted. I’m doing pretty Good!

  3. Is on the 15th too late? Obviously I don’t get an A+ in punctuality.

    I am giving myself an A+ in self-care. I have a lot of health problems and for the past few months I’ve been taking really good care of myself, and I’m healthier than I have been in a long time and I’m eating well and it just feels really good to be taking care of myself and feeling measurably better because of it!

  4. I may be too late but I truly do want to give myself a good grade today.

    I left my house on my own for the first time in a week due to back/foot injuries, and in town I ran into a student I supported when I was a teaching assistant. She has just finished a two-year course and I helped her every day of her first year so we spent a lot of time together — but then I quit to go and do my Master’s, woo!. Anyway, when I left she was considering going to university but she wasn’t sure. If she did go, she wanted to stay nearby and commute, because she was pretty sure she wanted to answer phones at her dad’s business for the rest of her life. Today she told me she’s off to university on Wednesday and she’ll be living there, not commuting. It sounds small now but I like to think I did something that helped her get to where she is and I can see her being really successful. It was a nice moment :)

    So I give myself an A+ for getting out of the house and for (in a minor way) helping a young person to challenge herself and be ambitious. :)

  5. hi!! this is a rad idea. gonna give myself an A+ for patience – lots of things have been trying it lately (men in my bio classes assuming I don’t know what I’m talking about, people in public places who sit by the outlets and don’t use the outlets, the girl hogging the PS4 to play Destiny…) and I’ve managed to relatively keep my cool.

  6. Hellooooo Autostraddle!

    I am going to give myself an A+ for learning to accept what I cannot control. Or working towards learning to accept what I can’t control. Or maybe just wanting to learn to accept what I can’t control. Life is hard. A+ either way.

  7. I give myself an A+ for getting the actual biggest nosebleed I’ve gotten in years (and I get a lot) on the train today, with only two tissues and a tampon wrapper in my possession. I proceeded to bleed out all over my hands, arms, library book, and the wall next to me. Also in my lunchbox. Fortunately someone nearby had a napkin so I was able to contain the stream from my nose but I was literally mopping up splotches of blood from the cover of my book with the tampon wrapper. And then I carried the clot (roughly the size of an average orange wedge) cupped in one hand for my half-mile walk home from my stop. All without managing to get a drop on my new skirt-with-pockets.

  8. Just checking back in from my last entry… I would give myself an A+ since my last post for finally getting my septum pierced. I’ve been wanting to do it for ages but my ex girlfriends didn’t want me to, but now I’m single I have realised I can do it if I would like regardless of others opinions. So I did it and I love it!! Another step on the road to my inner happiness <3

  9. I need an A+ today for staying positive because I didn’t freak out about my first driving lesson even though my instructor forgot it was on and then I continued not freaking out after hitting my head at work, getting a concussion and missing my rescheduled lesson. So two lessons missed and a banged head and still in a good mood. A+!

  10. Hi! I would give myself an A+ for not having a mental breakdown even though it’s super overwhelming being in my first year of college. Oh also A+ because I came out to one of my good friends the other day. I did so by inviting her to come to PRIDE group at the University (the college doesn’t have one), I was super nervous but she responded really well and actually came out to me as bi.

  11. I’m Chrissy- because I’ve always introduced myself as Chrissy but about a third of people I know call me Chris, and I like that. I give myself an A+ for recognizing I needed a couple days off this week and going to work out to relieve stress.

  12. I’d give myself an A+ in encouraging women. While I was University in New Zealand I was apart of a variety of Women in Technology Groups and I was even on the organisational teams for 2 of them! As a member of the group I encouraged and brought together women in the male dominated technology field!
    I had a lot of fun with it and I am a part of a variety of them now in San Francisco!

  13. I give myself an A+ for finally being myself openly to all and not continuing to lie about myself. after 22years of doing so, it’s been a huge relief and a giant leap back from the edge I walked with sanity and depression.. a scary one, but worth it even with all the issues I have had to deal with since. Better to live and die as who I am, then continue to live a lie (for me anyways)

  14. I would give myself an A+ in graphic design. Here’s the reason why …

    When I was seven years old, my dad gave me a computer. It must have been around 1998. I didn’t really use it – not because I didn’t like it, but because I didn’t know how to use it. And I was too ashamed to ask my dad, how I’d be able to turn it on. Unlike today, you’d have to type in three letters, “WIN”, to start the machine. That took me 3 years though.

    In 2002 though, as I didn’t have a lot of friends and on the other side a bunch of time for my own, I began to get interest in finding out on how to create own websites …

    Today I’m 23 years old. I’m a professional web designer – I wouldn’t say I’m the best web designer in the world, but in a whole timespan in life in which I didn’t have a lot of friends, I invested all my love, power and time in creating the best I could with my own two hands … I’m proud of my abilities – and that’s why I give ’em a deserved A+.

  15. It is after September 15th, which makes me sad. Regardless, I give myself an A+ in rolling with the punches. I will not let unfortunate timing (or unfortunate… circumstances/developments/things I said or did while drunk) get the best of me. I excel at this to the point that people ask me what it’s like to not get anxious or freak out about things–HAH! Of course I do, but what’s done is done, and ultimately, all you have is RIGHT NOW and–hopefully–tomorrow. What are you gonna do?

  16. Hey so in the last week I would give myself an A+ on knowing my limits emotionally, mentally, and academically. Having a history of depression I noticed some negative feelings creeping back in so I booked an appointment with a counselor. I also realized that 5 classes at the college is too much for me, I was really worried that people would judge me for dropping a class but I decided that putting my mental and emotional health at risk was not worth it so I dropped one of my classes. I feel so much better! It’s still a little overwhelming but it’s much more manageable with 4 classes. Surprisingly, most of my people were like “ugh yeah, 5 classes is crazy”.

  17. You know what, I’m going to give an A+, not to myself today, but to everyone in this thread. Everyone here has recognized that there is something within themselves that deserves an A+. That isn’t always the easiest thing to do, yet every single person, all 173 comments other than mine have been people recognizing themselves for something.
    A+ everyone. A+

  18. I’m gonna give myself an A+ for a few things, such as:
    – Coming out officially to my parents, no matter how murky their view of me and my identity is. It was awkward, I cried, but I did do it!
    – Starting the most zines without finishing them. I’ve got at least 10 mini zines filling up my zines folder with just the cover done.
    – Being a professional procrastinator. I’ve managed to put off literally everything until the last minute, and somehow pull (some of) it off!

  19. Checking back in again!

    I give myself an A+ for sitting through an 8.5 hr tattoo session on Saturday and then driving 2.5 hrs home like a boss!

    Also an A+ for dating a really nice girl and successfully so far playing it cooooooool…. Life is good! :D

  20. My name is Briana and I am new to this website. I stumbled across it on tumblr, one of my dirty little vices. My blog is at I think this site is better than awesome, btw.

    I would have to give myself an A+ on bravery. I had shoulder length hair until this morning when I took clippers (1/2″ guard) and scissors to it. Visit my tumblr page if you want to see…

    Im thinking about putting in a few streaks of color. It is dyed red atm and I am thinking a bolder red or maybe some orange to celebrate fall…just some streaks in the very front. :) lol

  21. My name is Briana and I am new to this website. I stumbled across it on tumblr, one of my dirty little vices. My blog is at I think this site is better than awesome, btw.

    I would have to give myself an A+ on bravery. I had shoulder length hair until this morning when I took clippers (1/2″ guard) and scissors to it. Visit my tumblr page if you want to see…

    Im thinking about putting in a few streaks of color. It is dyed red atm and I am thinking a bolder red or maybe some orange to celebrate fall…just some streaks in the very front. :) lol

    Oh I also deserve an A+ in bravery due to my coming out of the closet at 40 yrs young this year on facebook. ANNNNNND Ive been flirting with women in everyday situations and even asking for their numbers. I actually got one the other day! :) I don’t drink or do drugs (illegal anyway), and the closest gay bar is either in Chattanooga or Atlanta, which are an hour+ away from this hillbilly town I live in. :) So I figured if I want to find “her”…my twin soul, my beautiful, gorgeous, incredibly sexy love of my life: I better get out and start trying to meet her. My tumblr blog is devoted to “her”. I may not know her name, but I know she is out there. We will know when our paths finally cross or cross once again.

    <3 Love you all and keep being you!

  22. Hi! I have totally missed the Sept. 15th deadline. However, I’m going to give myself some A pluses anyway because a) I love me, b) I love Autostraddle, and c) it makes me happy to see everyone else’s A pluses and I wanted to add my own.

    I’m giving myself an A+ for buying just the right amount food for an event where I fed 34 people for a weekend away from Wednesday night to Sunday morning.

    I’m also giving myself an A+ for moving across the country this summer because even though I miss all of my good friends, I know it was the best thing for me to do and I’m proud of myself for doing it.

  23. Hello, my name is Katia, called Katie by all my English friends. I am from Ukraine and out of the closet everywhere but home. Totally passed the deadline, but either way, I think I deserve an A+ for being able to manage the fact that I always end up with difficult people in several situations and being able to stay positive for myself.

  24. Hi there, my name is Kate. I would give myself an A+ for getting accepted into two different graduate schools for a Master’s degree in Counseling and being strong to turn BOTH of them down to start college all over again to pursue a degree in nursing. It was a hard decision, but I am strong enough to do it and I will become a bad ass nurse.

  25. hi Grace and Chelsea! i’ve been perusing autostraddle for awhile now, and finally mustered up the courage to sign up (i’m a real introvert about making connections).

    i have a lot of amazing things happening in my life, but none of them would be possible if i hadn’t recently celebrated being four years clean from a horrid heroin addiction. so for that, i give myself an A+ !

    much love.

  26. What’s good everyone? Missed the contest deadline, but proud that I finally signed up anyway. I give myself an A+ for always knowing where the party’s at, another one for working the whole spectrum from dresses and heels to suits and ties without blinking, and for being the (awesome qpoc) girl most ready NOT to u-haul despite the passing years of singleness ;)

  27. Missed the deadline!!!! Bummer. Here it is anyway: My name is Kay. I’m 19 years old, I’m engaged to the woman I love, and I’m one semester away from finishing my degree in Astrophysics at SMU. However… I could not afford to dish out another 20,000 dollars in loans out of pocket and decided to enlist in the Air National Guard this year in order to gain access to the GI Bill to help pay for school.

    I give myself an A+ because instead of dropping out, I kept motoring… and moved 200 miles with my fiancé in tow, and still plan on getting married in July of next year. I’m also kind of proud of myself that instead of going straight into research in Astrophysics and Geological studies (my minor), I’ve decided to use my knowledge to create a roving children’s physics and geology museum with my fiancé who is studying anthropology.

    As children, me and my fiancé both asked far too many questions about how our world worked…and with parents too distracted and impatient to give us the answer we were looking for.. so we thought we would give kids the option of not only being able to read about, say “Rhodonite with quartz inclusions” in a geology book, but to be able to see it up close and touch it in person, and also get an idea of where in the earth’s crust it formed.

  28. I’d give myself an A+ for finally getting up the courage to come out to my family and friends as Bisexual (with a preference to women) – and although some reactions were not good ones, I stayed strong. I also got up the courage to finally tell a girl I was falling for my feelings – with whom I am now in a relationship with! :D

  29. Howdy! This blog post couldn’t be written any better!
    Looking at this article reminds me of my previous roommate!
    He constantly kept talking about this. I am going to forward this information to him.
    Pretty sure he’s going to have a great read. I appreciate you for sharing!

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