The Cheesecake Diaries

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This is a story about the family that I lost and found and almost found at various The Cheesecake Factory restaurants across America.
The Cheesecake Factory, Tampa Bay FL - 1998
How I came to be at the Cheesecake Factory when I was sixteen was more or less because my grandfather — a man I'd only met once or twice when I was too young to clearly remember — was dying. I'd found out through my grandmother, a hard lady who I'd also only met a couple of times, but who'd be sending me hundred dollar bills in Christmas cards every year since I was thirteen, when I had written to tell her that my parents had gone AWOL. She never wrote much inside except "take care" and so when the last card arrived with a scrawled note about my grandfather, I'd read...

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Crystal is a 33-year-old Australian living in Chicago. Founding member, does HR stuff, writes now and then.

Crystal has written 329 articles for us.