How Gay Is It? A Handy Visual Guide For Straights

Straight actors keep describing their projects as “very gay,” when they are, in fact, very not. Recently, for example, Natalie Portman did this when talking about Thor: Love and Thunder, a movie that didn’t even give Valkyrie a girlfriend! Maybe straight people don’t know how to answer this question because they don’t understand the scale of gayness? And so I have made a handy visual guide to help straights answer the question: How Gay Is It? Feel free to distribute to all your straight companions.

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Heather Hogan

Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior editor who lives in New York City with her wife, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She's a member of the Television Critics Association, GALECA: The Society of LGBTQ Entertainment Critics, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Twitter and Instagram.

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  1. The Courtney Vandersloot cam while Allie Quigley winning her FOURTH (!!!!!!!) 3-point contest is profoundly gay. Candace Parker filming Courtney and Allie for IG is a gift to all of us.

    The All-Star weekend may have been produced for $5 but it sure delivered on the profound gayness I expect from the WNBA.

    • Agreed. There were some extras in the background that might’ve been queer and a couple references with Valkyrie that seem very gay to straight people. Very straight, also kinda boring, unfortunately.

  2. Heather Hogan: you are a treasure.

    It is nigh impossible to my brain – and yet it is true – that the same person who did this and hilarious recaps of things also writes such beautifully heartbreaking essays on family and love.

    I repeat: an absolute treasure.

  3. The floor is lava! Is that why I cannot sit on chairs or couches like straights? I even use a homemade foot raiser for better restroom experiences. Not as gay as that L-Word double-decker-lesbian-sex-on-a-toilet scene, but still pretty gay to be aware of bowel health.

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