Have Your Gay Wedding At My Birthday Party This Sunday Funday

Hello, kale and spinach aficionados! Today’s a pretty momentous day for gay history, because 24 years ago today, I was born. That’s right.



Now that I’ve set the tone for our good gay news today, let’s dive right in to all this weekend has to offer queer people that is vaguely positive or fuzzy!

Meet The Most Committed Lesbians On Earth

In the face of a government which does not recognize them and hundreds of homophobes who did, Keisha and Dericka still headed out in North Carolina to demand a marriage license.


“Growing up in a small town that’s awfully conservative you just feel alienated, so it’s great that kids can see that we’re supporting them and that other couples too can see that we’re not alone in this town.”

F*ck A Gay Marriage Ban

Federal Judge Sarah Zabel has, like many judges before her, found a gay marriage ban to be unconstitutional. And Florida’s just gonna have to deal with it. (Meanwhile, in Doña Ana County, New Mexico, County Clerk Lynn Ellins has married almost 1,000 gay couples in the past year.)



This Is How Excited I Always Am To Hear From You

When your pooch hasn’t seen you in two years, the shock of your reunion could cause an uncontrollably adorable fit of excitementJust a note, this is pretty much always how I feel about you and your avatar and seeing you on this website. Like, all of you.

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Carmen spent six years at Autostraddle, ultimately serving as Straddleverse Director, Feminism Editor and Social Media Co-Director. She is now the Consulting Digital Editor at Ms. and writes regularly for DAME, the Women’s Media Center, the National Women’s History Museum and other prominent feminist platforms; her work has also been published in print and online by outlets like BuzzFeed, Bitch, Bust, CityLab, ElixHER, Feministing, Feminist Formations, GirlBoss, GrokNation, MEL, Mic and SIGNS, and she is a co-founder of Argot Magazine. You can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr or in the drive-thru line at the nearest In-N-Out.

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  1. Eyyyy happy birthday Carmen!

    A short birthday poem:

    Like your Open Threads
    You have opened your heart
    To this queer family
    Helping create a space
    That feels safer than home.
    In return, let each hour of this day
    Reflect the years of your life
    And let those you have helped,
    On a website in the corner of the internet,
    Celebrate you-

    Thank you,
    You are more than you know.

  2. Well I tried to make a super awesome birthday blingee out of your icon, but the website won’t work on the shitty work computer/register that I’m on. So here’s a selection of magical/vaguely suggestive/horrible birthday gifs by other people, you lucky thing you!

  3. Happy birthday or lá breithe sona duit! (Irish)

    I should be writing my PhD thesis right now which is way less fun than eating multicoloured cake!

  4. Today is my birthday too, and I only realized I was queer about a year ago around this time, so this is pretty awesome to stumble across!

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