Dear Queer Diary: I Shall Not Dwell Upon This Miserable Wintry Weather

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I know of your troubles, dear queer diarists. Amidst the cold and cruel darkness of January, you are slowly discovering that the snow (which once glittered with holiday delight!) now looks more frigid than festive. You are suffering from your second head cold in the last three weeks, your box of lemon tea is nearly empty, and your sink is filled with stained mugs and knives covered in desiccated peanut butter and jelly.

Exhibit A, ft. glorious Dear Queer Diary mug.

Exhibit A, ft. glorious Dear Queer Diary mug.

The bad news is that your journal cannot wash dishes or cure sore throats. The good news is that your journal can offer a humble means of escape from the polar dreariness that is hopefully not your January 23rd, 2014. Rather than detailing the latest weather report (wintry mix, anyone?), turn your pencil towards more pleasant thoughts.

Though I will not guarantee that exploring the below topics between your journal’s attractively fabric-covered covers will do anything to clear your sinuses, I will promise that contemplating warmer, happier days will make your imagination soar on rainbow wings of joy.

There's nothing like an artistically posed mason jar to make my imagination soar. (Via Pretty Books)

There’s nothing like an artistically posed mason jar to fill me with glee. (Via Pretty Books)

What follows is a collection of cheering journal ideas for the yearning scribbler:

1. A place you’d like to live. My girlfriend spends a lot of time watching HGTV and facilitating conversations about the practicality of future real estate investments. However, if money were no object, I would find myself a modest historic estate somewhere in the British Isles. The weather might not be great, but the opportunity to pretend I was a character on Downton Abbey would provide ample compensation.

2. Your ideal morning. I bet you think about this one every day during those brief moments you spend luxuriating in the warmth of your bed and wishing that work/class/life did not require you to leave your pillow. Tell your journal all the details, complete with mouth-watering descriptions of those banana bread walnut pancakes you ate last weekend.

My ideal morning would take place in black and white for maximum glamour. (Via Woods Hole Inn)

My ideal morning would take place in black and white for maximum glamour. (Via Woods Hole Inn)

3. Your awards season ensemble. Now that the Oscar’s/Grammy’s/Tony’s are practically upon us, my feed is clogged with red carpet slideshows retweeted by websites I keep promising myself I will unfollow. I may (read: definitely) lack Lizz’s fashion know-how, but I have been known to dream of masculine-of-center shoes, updos, and ball gowns.

4. The novel/short story/poem in which you would most like to vacation. While my previously discussed fascination with English country houses long had me convinced that I wanted to live in a Jane Austen novel, the antique plumbing and near-compulsory heterosexuality might put a damper on the Pemberley experience. But I am sure there are other compelling options out there!

Can you spot the phallic symbol? (Via Wikipedia)

Can you spot the phallic symbol? (Via Wikipedia)

5. If you are feeling adventurous, a brief foray into erotica might also serve to warm up your chilly fingers (ahem). I, for one, am a little too S-H-Y to write much about S-E-X in my D-I-A-R-Y; however, that does not keep me from composing the occasional metaphorically weighty prose poem about soft pink objects. Perhaps there is a certain funtivity you might like to detail in your journal’s pages? Just make sure you have a good diary-hiding location picked out.

May the above inspire you to fill your journals with beauty and sweetness that will cure all your January chills and aches. Write on, fearless journalers!

Dear Queer Diary is a column about the joys (and occasionally, the pains) of journaling. We crack open our tiny notebooks and break out the rainbow-colored pens on the regular, so get ready to limber up your writing hands and document all your beautiful feelings!

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Maggie is a freckly, punctuation-loving queer living in the Boston area. She supports her book-buying and tea-drinking habits by teaching America’s youth how to write topic sentences and spends her free time writing postcards and making sandwiches for her girlfriend.

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  1. Ah, this is timely. I have bronchitis, it’s terribly cold and fugly out, and I’m in a writing mood again.

    I attempted erotic writing the other night by coming up with a James Joyce inspired letter to someone I like. It was too much, couldn’t finish it. I had to shut my laptop Judge Judy style.

  2. I am also way too shy to write about S-E-X but have more than enough thoughts about where I would like to live to fill at least one full journal! A modest, historic estate on the British Isles sounds lovely. I’ll take it. Until the next episode of House Hunters leads me somewhere else fun and exciting.

  3. aw, i like the snow still. i just wish January didn’t always feel like some version of death. (also, it is below freezing out, & my space heater isn’t warming my room. send blankets.)

    funny re: S-E-X in the D-I-A-R-Y; when i was younger, i would draw risque things that i afterwards felt dirty about, & would either rip them out or cover them up. but this past year, i won NaNoWriMo thanks to the pages upon pages of not-exactly-plot-helpful smut i typed up! which is probably horrible & would get me exiled to Pluto but hey, i got over 50K. : x

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