As with so many things in life, the trick to successfully doing this is a combination of confidence, openness, and a willingness to fail or get rejected sometimes — and maybe, if you’re up for it, being the picture of a great butt you want to see in the world.
“Making love and choosing to be with other queer women of color is an act of love and defiance.”
Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.
The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.
Make peace with uncertainty in all your relationships, and trust that Virgo season will help you achieve some needed clarity.
As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road.
When the sex we want is criminalized or considered more “perverted” than the sex cisgender heterosexuals are engaging in, a handkerchief in the back pocket is a quiet way to show off our sexual deviancy in a world that doesn’t want to see it.
Communication, of course, is the bedrock of any relationship — romantic, sexual, platonic. And yet! Mercury gets totally overlooked when it comes to synastry, or the astrology of relationships. Not today, though; let’s talk about how you process!
Here are some of the most memorable movies in the cannon of “films that have significant lesbian sex in them.”
In this queer sex diary: long-distance FaceTime fucking, a dish rack full of sex toys, feeling sad, feeling S.A.D., and feeling goofy and good.
“I need advice on caring for leather items. Like for example the leather strap-on harness I bought over a decade ago which has mostly been sitting around in a drawer.”
The moon governs your emotions, habits, and instincts. When it comes to relationships, this is important! Your moon is how you are emotional. It’s how you express your tender little queer heart!
In our last post dedicated to our tops / bottoms / switches survey, we’re looking at a broad overview of all the data.
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
Ah, August. Who’s ready for more growth experiences? Another eclipse, Mars still retrograde, and the plot thickens…
We’ve been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for a few weeks and today we’re doing a little glossary of the other words you use to describe how you have sex!
Today we’re using our sex survey data to talk about switches and also about those of you who identified as NONE OF THE ABOVE. Which is fine!
“She kisses me. I hold on to her arms lightly, not wanting to hurt her, not wanting to weird her out, make her uncomfortable. She’s here for me: I’d hired her for exactly that, and she agreed to it, and she’s here.”
“I’ve been dying to tell someone about how my partner and I finally found a name for our new dildo and it’s Antoni”
It’s time for part two of our series on what queer women and trans people are talking about when they talk about tops, bottoms and switches. Today we are taking your love ON TOP.