Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
Here is a beginner’s guide to sending really hot sexts to your casual date, your girlfriend, and every babe in between. You’re welcome.
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.
You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.
When you first look at the Hidden Pleasure Bullet, it looks like your standard “hidden” toy vibrator. I’ve had a few in the past, and specifically use them for when I’m traveling. I have quite a collection of sex toys, but not all of them are able to be packed up when I’m visiting home, for example. This one was something I can throw in my bag, will hopefully get me off when I need it, and that won’t shock my mother should she find it while inevitably going through my things.
You have to actually say something in your dating app bio! You just do, I’m sorry. Here is how and how not to do that.
The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!
“Through frank conversations with cross country mates and cheeky hints in coming-of-age films, I learned that masturbation is something people do to their vaginas with fingers, shower heads and (though I often doubted it) hairbrush handles. I intrinsically knew that what happened when I pressed my thighs together and held my breath was masturbation, too, but as my Encyclopedia of Wank expanded with no reflection of my own methods, it became clear that I was missing a fundamental element of jerking off.”
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.
Tanya wasn’t the kind of queer to make the first move, generally speaking, but that night was different. Marianne was different. She seemed more than interested in what Tanya had to say. Her words were gentle and warm, but funny and sexy. Like a horny heated blanket that could make you laugh.
These three Autostraddle writers tried out Baci, a “premium robotic clitoral massager” by Lora DiCarlo that’s meant to mimic oral sex. Here’s how our clits are doing now!
You are just picking up Naomi. Your very good friend, Naomi, whom you have only not-so-jokingly offered to take up on her not-so-joking offer to fuck for a decade. She literally just got emotionally gut punched by some fuckboy. Don’t be another fuckboy. Not today. Unless she initiates. Fuck, she always initiates. Fuck, I missed my exit.
Today, toys are less about a harder better faster stronger version of more of the same, and all about the different ways it’s possible to experience pleasure and sensation.
We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped up for you right here!
Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.
We’re kicking off the 13 Days of A+ with a virtual vaginal fisting workshop! Merry Fistmas will take place on Crowdcast live at 1pm PST, but the recording will be available to A+ Members for replay afterward. Live captioning provided by White Coat Captioning.
It’s time to normalize giving sex toys as gifts, and not just to partners. Everyone’s stuck at home anyway!
Six contributors to Best Lesbian Erotica Volume 5 tell us about how they think about erotica as queer writers. The book came out on Dec 8, so can get your personal and gift copies in time for the holidays.