Oh, it’s definitely hot in here. Because of ~*lesbians.*~
“Being queer, Asian-American, femme, and gray ace — this is my identity and I get to choose what that means to me.”
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
A pile of gigantic, fiery-hearted monsters sleeping sweetly together is a good metaphor for this month. Even the gruffest, most cynical, and most wounded amongst us should be able to find some kind of sweet solace this month. But that doesn’t mean all our problems will disappear.
Using the Bouncer dildo is like fucking with kegel balls you can actually feel.
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
Here’s how a 33-year-old queer, polyamorous, white, trans woman living in Chicago who’s married and has a long-term girlfriend does poly.
Be the daddy you want to see in the world.
“How could an incapacitated person feel let alone be sexy, I catch myself thinking. Now, when I have those thoughts, I take out my camera.”
The Unbound Box is a curated subscription box of sex toys and accessories that arrives quarterly.
“I want my friends to know who I belong to now,” rife said. “I want everyone to know I am taken.”
“Not leaning into change is a lot like staring at your house while it’s on fire.”
Welcome to Poly Pocket, a new series showcasing polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous relationships. Here’s how a married kinky butch/femme couple does poly.
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
The more I experience subspace, the more I think that mindful living is possible for me.
This is a great time to release those old, dead stories about needing to be perfect to deserve being loved. This is a perfect time to remember that you get to make new choices about the present moment, free of attachment to the past or fear of the future.
It’s almost impossible to master while grieving. When that grief turns into a depression, is it even M/s anymore?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
“First comes Twitter, then comes Snapchat, then comes texting nudes to a complete and total stranger.” Patty-cake to that one, kiddos.
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.