Also.Also.Also: Happy Birthday, Pride Flag and Other Stories We Missed This Week

You guys I have off on July 4 AND July 5. This was the breaking news of my own life, but here’s the stories we missed this week while I wasn’t planning a BBQ.

Facebook Gets Proud

70% of Facebook users have a gay friend, (I think 70% of my Facebook friends are gay) which probably explains their new gay pride emoticon. And SPEAKING OF PRIDE, HAPPY BIRTHDAY PRIDE FLAG. YEAH, YOU. YOU, RAINBOW FLAG OVER THERE. HAPPY FUCKING BIRTHDAY.

35 years strong.


Examples of The Government Actually Working / Being Great

+ The Department of Education will now collect data about anti-LGBT bullying.

On May 22, I was at the White House for a Harvey Milk Day event, accompanying a delegation of GLSEN student leaders and staff. As we waited for the program to begin, a senior official from the Department of Education came running over to one of our students, Liam Arne.

“I need to shake your hand,” he said.“Because of you, the Secretary of Education is adding LGBT students to one of the most important Department of Education data collection instruments. You asked in that meeting, and afterward he told us to get it done!” …

LGBT-inclusive data collection may seem like a wonky goal. But let me tell you, data drives decision-making, and what is measured is what is valued when it comes to government action. Liam, one of GLSEN’s amazing student leaders, secured a huge advance for LGBT youth nationwide.

+ Obama promoted LGBT rights, albeit quietly, on his most recent visit to Africa.

+ Meet the highest ranking gay person in the Department of Defense.


Colorlines and the Case of the Cute Queers

Tee headline of this article is “We’re Here, We’re Queer, And We Look Real Cute.” My work here is done.


Russell Brand Sucks

Surprise!!! Russell Brand is THE WORST.

Russell then continued to joke that he likes to make advances on all gay women – and will carry on until he has tested every relationship in the country.

He added: “I just do that with lesbians, like ‘come on, you’re not that lesbian. For heaven’s sake, you’re just being difficult now.’

“She’s [Clare Balding] in a happy relationship, isn’t she? I won’t rest, until every lesbian relationship in Britain has been disrupted by an unwelcome boorish Essex boy.”

May you never rest, sir.

Even More on DOMA

+ What does DOMA mean for elderly queers?

+ “Same Love” has been blowing up on the charts following the DOMA / Prop 8 victories, which makes Macklemore hella proud. Can we listen to “Same Love” now because it’s like my favorite song no lie.

+ The perfect gay marriage cover came from The New Yorker:


Classified: Queer Playwright Seeks Queer Filmmaker

I am seeking a lesbian- or queer-identified documentary filmmaker to work with on a project that will shoot in late-summer/early-fall of 2014. We would work together during the time leading up to that point on planning the project, and work together afterwards on post-production.

I will be taking a road trip around the US in the late-summer/early-fall of 2014 to visit lesbian lands, women’s and LGBT centers and/or communities, festivals, as well as bars and social spaces that bring together groups of lesbians and queer women. The purpose of those visits will to be share a play that I wrote inspired by the Lesbian Herstory Archives, and to interview those we meet about their methods of building, sustaining, and sharing communities, as well as the sharing their own stories and creative expressions.

Planning the trip will involve looking at the archived materials from Alexis Danzig’s 8,000 mile road-trip in the 1990s to raise awareness about the Archives through in-person slideshows. It will also draw on past lesbian and queer-identified groups like Sister Spit, who brought their work directly to a variety of communities, as well as theater companies like Missoula Oblongata, who work largely or entirely on the road.

WHO AM I? A lesbian/queer identified playwright and arts journalist. With experience self-producing shows/events in a variety of cities and circumstances.

INTERESTED? Send me an email at [email protected] and tell me a little bit about yourself, your experience making documentary films, and why you’re interested in working on this project.

You Should Give

Is it sexy when I boss you around? Either way, you should support these awesome projects.

+ K&A:

Created by Thompson Films, K&A is set in the city of Boston, and this comedy centers around Karly (straight) and Alex (lesbian) best friends since college, whose dysfunctional, co-dependent, drinking, and drug taking relationship impedes them from ever finding someone special in their lives besides each other.

+ Entangled with You:

Entangled with You is a romantic drama-comedy series about couples who complicate each other’s lives post separation. Faced with loneliness, change, and one unexpected bout of VD, new roommates Alisha and Jaliyah get an up close and unwanted look into each other’s personal business and somehow manage to see past their differences and overcome the awkwardness. Now if only their significant others were comfortable with that…

+ Into Girls:

Into Girls is a series of vignettes that follow different lesbian characters. The story lines are mostly focused on the uncertainty of self and learning how to come into your own as a lesbian. Our experiences and inexperience drive the stories and style of the series.

+ One: A Story About Love and Equality

I raised money on Kickstarter and spent the spring of 2012 getting to know the people of North Carolina as they counted down to the amendment vote on May 8th.

After meeting dozens of people and acquiring over 200 hours of footage, I am thrilled to finally be able to share these amazing stories with the world.

I’ve edited all of the footage into a feature film, but we need finishing funds to polish the film, and promote it once it’s complete.

+ Youngist: Young People Powered Media

{Young}ist is a young people-powered website devoted to storytelling, artistic projects, and news analysis with staff and contributors all under the age of 26. We’re bringing artists and activists together to cross-pollinate and give voice to the stories of our generation.

We will publish multimedia content, written features, expressive long-form journalism, and innovative art forms that will provide a wide range of perspectives on culture and politics—all through the eyes and hands of youth.

You Should Go

+ Throw Down for a Cause w/ JULIE GOLDMAN

This year’s Throw Down will be bigger and badder than ever before! Do not miss the action as we take over Rich’s in Hillcrest on July 4th from 4pm to 9pm. Mark your calendars now!

This year all proceeds will be donated to The San Diego LGBT Center’s Sunburst Youth Housing Project, serving homeless LGBT youth, and Project Love Out Loud, an organization that provides comprehensive creative expression workshops to homeless and runaway youth. Help us make a difference!!

Doors open at 4pm and the party kicks off with 2 hours of hosted (open) bar from 4 – 6pm! The main event starts at 6pm.

Comedian Julie Goldman (of LOGO) is hosting this year’s event!

Join the ladies of Throw Down for a Cause 2013 as they head back into the ring and make this one MESSY July 4th! It was NEVER meant to be good clean fun!

Buy pre-sale tickets today.

The Sports Section

Gay and lesbian folks are really really into sports. Like, really.

Gay and lesbian consumers – professional athletes or not – are also sports enthusiasts off the courts and fields. In many ways, they’re bigger aficionados than average fans. For instance, adult gay and lesbian Internet users are 11 percent more likely than the average adult online to attend pro sporting events, according to Nielsen, and 7 percent more likely to participate in an adult sports league.

Gay and lesbian adults are 51 percent more likely than the average adult to watch sports-related videos online and 28 percent more likely to boot up their computer to get their sports news. They’re also big fans of fantasy sports, as they’re 39 percent more likely to play fantasy sports online than the average adult Internet user.

Lesbian Prom King

Meet  Ola Wolan, lesbian prom king.


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  1. The impression I got from the Russell Brand story was that there were rumours he was hassling Clare Balding but he’s never actually met her, so he was joking that yeah, he just goes around hassling lesbians?

    • And I hate “Same Love”. Just not my thing. Hooray for a queer culture fostering the ability to like what you like and avoid what you dislike without judgement.

      • I really, really dislike “Same Love,” cause of straight cis man getting attention when there are plenty of queer rappers making tunes about queer relationships that are getting nowhere near the same love. (lol). Also, that song is, like, the worst song on The Heist, which is a surprisingly decent album, but whatevs. No love for Same Love.

        HOWEVER, Mary Lambert, the woman who sings the hook, is super amazing awesome. Everyone google her song “I’d Be Your Wife,” because it is the cutest damn song ever, if not just one of the the cutest things ever. And I am including kittens in that.

        • I love Macklemore. I can’t decide if I would rather do him or be him,maybe both… But onto my actual point:

          The first time I heard that I was driving up to the mountain on my way to A Camp 2.0. I think what I loved most about the song was that it was by a straight cis dude. If all of us knowing that we were equal was going to change the world alone … We’d be done. We need allies to stand with us. I’m not saying I don’t think we are important in this fight… But I think allies matter too. I loved his song, in part, because it was the first time I can remember a straight artist standing up for me and my friends. And I think he is talented. That’s all! Not trying to start a fight, just wanted to share my perspective.

  2. That New Yorker cover. So perfect.

    Also, I was prom king in high school, where’s my autostraddle feature??

  3. I hate to disrupt your moral outrage at Russell Brand, but I’m sure that he was joking. Bearing in mind that he’s known as being a comedian in the UK, read what he’s said again — it’s ridiculous! No one in the public eye in the UK would say that and earnestly mean it.

    • Yeah, Russel Brand can be a bit annoying sometimes, but I’ve seen his work and he is absolutely not anti-gay. He is saying something intentionally absurd for its comedic value, not endorsing this type of behavior.

  4. The New Yorker cover is sweet, but… Ernie and Bert are best friends. They’re not queer. Sesame Workshop has said this explicitly, even. The only romantic relationships I’ve ever seen on Sesame Street at all were between adult human characters. Most of the puppet characters are portrayed as younger, more on par with the (child) viewers. Ernie and Bert… it’s been a while since I watched them… They might be on the older end of the range, but they still aren’t adult characters. For them to be romantically involved in any serious way would strike me as out of context.

    Actually, Sesame Street would be a wonderful place to introduce a human gay couple, or perhaps a child puppet with gay parents. (Although I’m sure there would be an enormous media fuss and a lot of conservative families’ children would be forbidden to watch Sesame Street… maybe that’s why they haven’t done it yet?) I wouldn’t be surprised if it happened one of these days, either. But they’ll do it their own way, not plaster it onto Ernie and Bert just because there’s an (adult!) fanbase who would like it.

    But, if I imagine that Ernie and Bert have magically aged a couple of decades from however old they are on Sesame Street, the cover is still sweet.

    • What I like about Bert and Ernie’s friendship is that you often see girls who are that close, but not always guys. I think it cheapens it a bit to keep saying they’re gay when Sesame Street have specified that they’re not.

      • Agreed. I mean, I can do mental gymnastics to make the gay angle work, but when you get back to what’s actually there, they really are just best friends.

        And that should be okay too.

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