Results for: dead to me
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 203: Dating Men
Whether you’re a lesbian who dated men as a teen or a queer person who dates lots of genders, our community is far too mixed and gender is far too complicated to leave men — cis and trans — out of our discussions.
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37 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On
“Even as I hold you, I am letting you go.”
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Untethered: On Miss Havisham-Style Decision-Making
My ex and I worked out a separation agreement over the course of those months and signed it in August.
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Blush and Bashful: Why Am I So Stressed About a Wedding Hashtag?
I learned some weird things about wedding hashtags while fixating on this.
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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Dancing In The Dark
This week on NSFW Sunday: debate over porn, BDSM, a gallery of studs from V Magazine, and the end of monogamy.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Over the First Woman I Slept With?
Focusing your energy on moving on and healing rather than trying to reconnect is the best path forward — and not just for you, but for her, too.
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Thank You, Ex: For (1) Set of Ghost Hands
I don’t like to think about the endings, which is probably why I’m always haunted, always clinging to things that return even when I should pretend I do not see them.
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Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
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Queer Sex Horror Stories: The Tale of the Dirty Dildo
We both froze as we heard what can only be described as…a queef of confusion.
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Intimate Geographies: The Ecstasy of Filth
No one had ever made me feel small before, but Alice was six-two and could lift me like I was a potted plant.
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Dykes on Dates: Bowling Is the Epitome of Romance
You get to talk a bunch, like a dinner date but with an added activity — one almost insists you stare at your partner’s ass.
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I’m a Psychologist Who Didn’t See My Own Divorce Coming
Psychologists can see potential in every patient who is seeking therapy. I can’t look at my marriage without seeing all the ways we could still fix it.
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25 Movies Just Perfect for Crying Through Your Divorce
Even if you’re not going through a divorce right now, here are some very pretty movies to look back at you while you blow snot bubbles into your t-shirt (no one is watching, it’s fine).
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How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster
I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.
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You Need Help: I Think My Partner Is Emotionally Cheating On Me
The idea that we must save our intimate, intense feelings only for our partners is a deeply heteronormative one, and I don’t want us to adhere to it.
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How Chloe Caldwell’s “Women” Shaped My Queer Heartbreak
I couldn’t acknowledge that this was unsustainable, that my life wasn’t the novella I had convinced myself it was.
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Salons and Divorce Doulas: How Queers Are Fighting the Trauma and Stigma of Divorce
“I’ve been ostracized, people don’t even know my side of the story. And they just stopped talking to me because they’ve talked to my ex.”
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Lesbian Weddings on TV: From Carol and Susan to Bette and Tina
The history of lesbian weddings on TV: parents refusing to attend, wild ’90s hats, untimely deaths, a weed brownie rave on the Eiffel Tower, an impromptu prison wedding, the union of two solo gems and so much more.
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Tarot, Sex, & Hoodoo: A Black Girl’s Guide to the Underworld
An exploration of summer, desire, and the senses through the lens of tarot and trans womanhood.
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Mondo Fetiche Doesn’t See Why Queer Porn Can’t Also Be Arthouse Cinema
Billed as artcore fetish film and “a creative love affair between modern kink and vintage cult cinema,” Mondo Fetiche’s popping color palettes and self-aware cultural pastiches add a fascinating new layer to the vintage leather aesthetic many of us associate with queer kink. There’s plenty of leather, don’t worry about that – and there’s also babygirl femme tea parties, lesbian soccer scenes on a DIY field, and queer porn tributes to the femdom art of Namio Harukawa.