Am I Allowed To Get Mad At My Flaky Friend?
Your friend says she’s trying her hardest to show up despite her mental illness, but you’re still frustrated. Also: how to manage lingering feelings about someone you dated during a poly phase.
What a Sex Toy’s Color Says About It
The vibes have vibes.
‘My Friend Keeps Casually Saying Things I Associate With Disordered Eating’
“She’ll say things like how she ‘earned’ the mocha latte she’s drinking because of the long walk we just did.”
Is My Fiancée Wrong About Who I Can Invite To Our Wedding?
Her future wife is drawing a boundary around wedding invitations, and her ex is on the outside of it. Also: how to tell a date they have bad breath?
A Comprehensive Guide to Starting Over After a Breakup
You remember love is still present in your life.
‘I’ve Dated Men for Three Decades. Is it Too Late To Start Dating Women?’
“I am a 50 year old woman who has exclusively dated men for the last 30 years. I dated a girl in highschool but it was a different (and very homophobic) time.”
‘My Girlfriend’s Anxiety Around Intimacy Is Killing the Vibe’
“I feel like she’s putting pressure on herself bc she’s more masc, but I’ve told her I’m not expecting anything and just want to have fun together whatever that looks like.”
A Queer Guide to Cuffing Season
I used to chase warmth in ways that weren’t always safe for me — staying too long, giving too much, confusing chaos for chemistry. These days, warmth means choosing softness without abandoning myself.
‘My Future Mother-in-Law Is Making Me Miserable’
“Hi, I’m coming to you live with what I naively thought was surely only a problem for heterosexuals previously: My mother-in-law-to-be is making me miserable in the leadup to my wedding.”
25 Streaming Movies With Hot Lesbian Sex Scenes
Here are some of the most memorable movies in the canon of “films that have significant lesbian sex in them.”
A Former Bottom’s Guide to Femme Top Fall
I’m a firm believer that the best tops are former bottoms!
A Treatise on Bad Kissers
I have found myself shocked and horrified by the seeming EPIDEMIC of inarticulate kissers in the world.
‘My Wife-To-Be Has Different Cleaning Standards. Is That a Dealbreaker?’
“I honestly want to cry, I am so tired. Every time I bring it up she cries.”
My Girlfriend’s Ex Sent Me a Warning Message. Should I Hear Her Out?
Your new girlfriend’s ex has tracked you down and has some things to tell you! Also, how to stay COVID-safe while getting more involved in queer kink communities.
‘My Long-Distance Bestie Is Hard To Talk to Because of His Chronic Illness’
Your friend isn’t in control of his illnesses and shouldn’t have to hold back his anxieties to make other people feel better.
Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?
You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your mid-30s, ’cause it’s not going well so far.
‘Am I Being Breadcrumbed Into a Situationship?’
With the boom of online dating, many young adults are finding themselves in situationships.
Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In
The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?
OK, What If I Don’t Want To Attend My Friend’s Improv Show
Someone must really hate improv — or their friend!!! Someone else is low-key dying that their friend isn’t returning borrowed books on time. And someone else is sweating their ass off on T and needs help.
Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?
Your girlfriend loved gym bathroom sex but you’re not so sure you wanna do it again. Also: how to feel sexier while living with long Covid.