Let me tell you about some things I really love. I love books and cute queer girls who like to read books. I love independent businesses that support queer communities. I love Gabby and Katrina and champagne and cupcakes. And I really, really, really love our vibrant smart gorgeous funny perfect Autostraddle community. It's my love of all those things combined that makes it impossible for me to stay away from Queer Ladies Speed Dating at Strand Bookstore, even though I have a girlfriend and thus I never actually go on any dates (except when someone has to go to the bathroom and Gabby has me fill in). I just can't say no to an event that puts so much positive stuff together in one room, ya know?!
In case you missed my very enthusiastic post urging you to attend this event, let me remind you that on Wednesday, February 6th the Strand Bookstore in New York City hosted its third Queer Ladies Speed Dating event and as predicted, it was fucking fantastic. Gabby and Katrina were the perfect hosts, facilitating great dates with super on point prompts such as, "Do you smoke weed?" and "Kittens: cute baby cats or fur-covered menaces?" and keeping Beyoncé tunes in heavy rotation all evening. About 100 humans showed up and together we went through 24 bottles of champagne, 150+ boozy cupcakes donated by Prohibition Bakery and a lot of dates! The Strand staff was lovely and welcoming (per usual – thank you, Strand!) and Gabby reminded everyone to return the favor and purchase some books at The Strand – support the people who support us, y'all!
I hope everyone who attended had a blast and maybe even made a love connection or two! At the very least I hope you found a friend because you all seemed so nice and funny and honestly you all had really amazing hair, just FYI. If you live in the New York area and couldn't make it this time, I hope you'll join us in the future, because there will be more and more events like this in the future!
ALSO! A bunch of people who do not live in New York commented on my original post asking if events like this could happen in their cities, to which I'd like to say a big resounding YES. Here is the secret: MAKE IT HAPPEN. It sounds corny but it isn't. This specific event began because a queer staff member at this specific bookstore thought it would be a great event and her boss believed in her. Make the people around you believe in you! Pick your favorite independent bookstore (or music store, or craft store, or or or the possibilities are endless!), pitch the idea, promise you will take care of everything and then make it happen! Email us and we will write about it. I'm not kidding. Our dreams and goals and aspirations are to use this website to create 3-D queer communities for y'all. We support you. We will help you make this happen. And you will look damn good doing it because it's a proven fact that all Autostraddle readers are super sexy. I'm not good at science so I can't explain it beyond that, I just know that it's true. Promise.
So anyway that's enough words. I know you're not here for my motivational speech about creating community, you're really here to see a bunch of cute girls speed dating while surrounded by rare books. Don't worry, my feelings aren't hurt, that's totally why I'm here too! So without further ado, feast your eyes on these brave little toasters. By the way, in case it isn't obvious: I love you all so much. Happy early Valentine's Day!
The photographs © Vanessa Friedman 2013.
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