Dee / 40 / she/her

Art Tumblr / Personal Tumblr

Being trans may have saved my life and my marriage. I transitioned so late, I barely knew what was going on with me. Since transitioning I’ve been able to see an actual future for myself. My wife and I became even closer thanks to my transition, and if anything we love each other more than ever. I try put into writing the experiences of a trans woman who started late, and has an unconventional narrative, and I try to be inclusive and intersectional. While I’m not an activist, I’m thoroughly visible and out everywhere, and I hope it helps other women like me feel safer to transition if they need to, and for anyone in general to express their gender identity however they are most comfortable doing.

Aeryn / 43 / UK / she/her

Twitter

Julian / 22 / they/them

Instagram / Tumblr

Being nonbinary means freedom for me. It means I don’t feel forced to accept what I don’t want to be, at least in my personal life. I can choose, and that is wonderful!

Al(aina) / 27 / Austin, TX / they/them/theirs/shawty

Twitter / Instagram / GoFundMe / Paypal

Being visible as a trans person means that every day I walk out of the house and blind everyone around me with my radiance. It’s a lot of power, but I’m learning how to wield it wisely.

Emily D. / Western Massachusetts / they/them

Since starting to come out, I’ve smiled wider and more often; my transness gives me the autonomy to define who I am and to fight harder for who I want to be. I love how being trans/non-binary connects me to a community of incredible, beautiful people willing to critique and confront the status quo, especially where gender is concerned. My transness has also brought me a peace with my body that I never thought possible, and for that I am eternally grateful.

barb morrison / nyc and la / they/them

Website / Instagram

The best part of being trans is that I get to help other trans musicians tell their story. There are endless amounts of talented musicians with stories that can empower the trans community and I am making it my life goal to get as many of those out and into the light as possible. So much of our progress depends on visibility, not just on TVOD but every day.

Eddy / 24 / San Francisco / they/them

Instagram

Samantha / 36 / Denver, CO / she/her/hers

Twitter

I love finally feeling like I’m in my own skin. I love wearing the things I had always wanted to wear while also looking like I belonged in them. I make my transness visible, at least to those that know what those colored stripes represent. I try to educate those that have questions to hopefully reduce assumptions. Transitioning has legitimately made me a better, nicer, more outgoing person and I love it!

Joie de Vivre (stage name) / 54 / San Francisco / she & her

Facebook

As a burlesque performer I love that when I’m on-stage, it may be the first time that people in the audience have seen someone with a (trans, older) body like mine loving a body like mine.

Echo / 32 / NYC / They/Them

Instagram / Blog

Lital /24/ Israel/Palestine

Poetry zine on gender fuckery

I performed in a show as both a drag king and queen and wore trans tape for the first time. It showed me what I might look like if I got top surgery, the ever foreboding question that as a nonbinary trans person makes me confused and nauseous. I had a dream the night before that I went with all my queer kings and got top surgery together, but my boobs were still intact I just had big black stitches under them and across my collarbone. There are still no answers but to walk around that night with this silky confidence was a cherished moment.

Daphne Mae Chiles / 52 / Indianapolis, IN / she/her/miss

Laura A. Jacobs, LCSW-R / NYC / she/he/they/none

Website / Facebook

I am a trans and genderqueer-identified psychotherapist, activist, author, and public speaker in the New York City area working with transgender and gender-nonbinary people, LGBTQ+ and alternate lifestyle communities of BDSM, nonmonogamy, and sex work. I currently serve as Chair of the Board of Directors for the Callen-Lorde Community Health Center in NYC, have been featured in television, radio, and print media, and have presented at countless community and healthcare conferences, professional associations, medical schools, and other organizations. I am the recipient of a 2018 Gay City News Impact Award as well as the 2017 Dorothy Kartashovich Award by the Community Health Center Association of New York State. I am co-author of “‘You’re In The Wrong Bathroom!’ and 20 Other Myths and Misconceptions About Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People”, published by Beacon Press. 

Nickols / 38 / Minneapolis/ He/him/his

Queer parent of queer 15 year old.

Will / Pittsburgh, PA / They/Them/Theirs

Venmo / Digital Portfolio

Accepting myself as trans has let me accept the fullness of all aspects of my identity, letting myself envision a future that is truly mine rather than what I imagine people want from me. Yes, this future (probably) has testosterone and a legal name change in it, but also running relays, reading every book in the library, finding the most fabulous button-ups, and advocating for my community. Loving my trans self means loving my full self, and making choices that align with all aspects of that self.

Gabriel Hirsh / 28 / Long Beach, CA / they/them

Instagram / Bow tie company

My partner and I :)

Audrey and Wynn / 28/27 / Dallas, TX / they/them

We just got #t4t MARRIED and it was the most visible we have ever been, individually and together. We stood in front of 120 people who truly love us, some of whom we never quite came out to and some who have been with us for every step of our journey, and we found ourselves surrounded by love, joy, music, and the Holy Spirit. Audrey was nervous about using their pronouns and being “out” during the wedding, and Wynn was skeptical of the whole wedding concept. It ended up being the most beautiful and affirming day we could have imagined. We are two lucky, lucky queers. ❤️

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