Sunday Funday’s Taking On Gender During Bathtime

Hello and good morning to all of my favorite queers! Are y’all participating in the international kiss-in going down today? It’s okay if not. I’m just cuddling with my dog.

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+ Apparently, Pope Francis’ “not giving a fuck about gay people” thing is on a whole ‘nutha level.

A gay French man says Pope Francis called him to tell him his sexual orientation doesn’t matter and that “we are all children of God.” …

“‘I received the letter you sent me,’ he said. Then we talked about my situation in my life. He told me, ‘Your homosexuality, it’s not a problem. One must remain brave, one must continue to believe, to pray and to stay well.'”

+ Obama met with Russian LGBT activists mere weeks after blowing off Vladmir Putin for not playing nice with the queers. Talk about a burn yo.

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+ The Notorious RBG thinks gay marriage is an act of genius. I think none of us mere mortals are allowed to object.

Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who recently officiated at a friend’s same-sex wedding, told a Philadelphia audience Friday that growing acceptance of same-sex marriage reflects the “genius” of the U.S. Constitution…

“So I see the genius of our Constitution, and of our society, is how much more embracive we have become than we were at the beginning,” Ginsburg said in a far-ranging discussion of her work at the National Constitution Center, steps from the nation’s founding at Independence Hall.

“Susan Sarandon and Her Pet Muppet Enjoy a Canadian Hand Massage”

IDK, this seemed like a thing you wanted in your life.


One of Us

+ Michael Jordan’s daughter, Jasmine, may or may not be dating a hot girl named Carmen. Spoiler alert: not me, but clearly a distant #soultwin and thus, proof of great taste.

+ Demi Lovato, who’s joining Naya Rivera for some queer Latina romanceloves playing a lesbo, in case you’re wondering.

“Figuring out how to represent that community [was a unique challenge]… it’s been pretty awesome to represent that on primetime TV,” she told MTV News…

“Well I took a meeting so before I even booked the role. I knew what the role was going to be, and [Naya Rivera and I] had an awesome time working together,” Demi gushed. “She’s such a bada**; I love her. And I’ve been friends with a lot of the people from the cast beforehand, so I feel right at home.”

+ Canadian Speed Skater Anastasia Becsis is coming out publicly to fuck with Russia.


“I could never promote that message of concealing who you are with all of this going on in Russia. I’m kind of happy that I did it on my own terms,” the long-track speed skater said…

“I… have faith in Russia,” she said. “I think — I hope — that things will get better.”

+ Sara Swaty’s art pushes the boundaries of gender and tugs on my queer heartstrings.

“The idea of gender and the roles, responsibilities, and expectations associated with it has fascinated me for years. Mainstream culture and society impact how we as a people view gender. Where we live and how we are raised dictates our own perceptions of gender, and what is ‘normal’ or ’weird,’ ‘right’ or ‘wrong.’ In the spring of 2010, I began a project focused on gender expression, which led me to photograph individuals within both straight and LGBT communities in an effort to capture images that question traditional gender roles and explore identities beyond the male-female binary.”

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Keeping It Local

+ The New Mexico Supreme Court may soon hear arguments on same-sex marriage.

+ California’s legislature supports making it easier to change the gender listed on your birth certificate, further cementing their long-held title of “amazing place to live.”

+ What would Bedstuy pride be without a couple photos?

Cute Animal ROUNDUP

Because I love you.

+ Two Cheetahs, one amazing show of animal affection within a confined space.

+ The world loves Lil Bub:

Lil Bub’s quest for media supremacy continued Thursday night outside Strand Books in New York, where hundreds of people collectively skipped dinner and stood in line to look at a cat. But not just ANY garbage-swilling, common street cat! Lil Bub is crazy-adorable, and, with a new book (Lil Bub’s Lil Book) out this week, clearly capable of linguistic expression. Standing in line at a bookstore for a chance to see Bub is, then, like standing in line to see a wizard, i.e. completely justifiable.

+ If Eli loved bathtime as much as these Dachsunds I might feel less terrible enjoying it.

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  1. All this buzz about Pope Francis and gayness sounds good on the surface, but I keep thinking that we’re missing some context on it. What he’s been saying fits entirely with the Catholic Catechism’s assertions about homosexuality:

    “The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.”

    and he’s not bringing any new dialogue about the expectation of celibacy for gay Catholics, which is deeply inhumane, in my opinion:

    “Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.”

    • I honestly feel like he might be a bit different, but I don’t know. He hasn’t been in the papacy that long. He still has time to get a dialogue started, and I hope he will.

      • Do you understand how ferociously he fought against equal marriage and adoption rights in his own country?

        He may be all for gay celibate individuals, but he thinks gay couples raising children is child abuse.

  2. Anastasia Bucsis is officially one of the most beautiful creatures on the planet.

    (Also after briefly stalking her on the inter webs…)

    From her Twitter: “Hunkering down in bed for some quality time with NetFlix and my cat.”
    She is…the perfect woman.

  3. Can I just say how happy I am that more black celebs(and their children apparently) are feeling more and more comfortable coming out and being who they are. Even if Jasmine didn’t and/or won’t explicitly say what her sexual preference is she still feels comfortable enough to post lots of pics of her with her girfriend on her IG(really, check out her page) and is being really positive and classy about being outed against her so publicly against her will by MTO.

    Remember last week. Didn’t I say MTO was trash and black celebs were afraid of them. You see I wasn’t joking around when I said they regularly out people. The proof is there all day long.

    • Exactly what I was thinking. I only just heard of MTO from your comment and man, what a website. :/
      But seriously, more black celebs being out makes me feel so much better about whatever my sexuality is/turns out to be because for years I was thinking that I HAD to be straight because nobody else who was black was LGBTIA+ (shows how much I knew but there you go!)
      Now I’m sitting back listening to a Janelle Monae song that talks about a woman (well, a female ID android) in love with a woman and there are actual qpoc publicly out, it’s amazing.

  4. I love seeing all this love and support ! We have definitely come a long way in the past few years and I look forward to the day where we are all accepted. I remember working as a nurse and not feeling comfortable to come out as so many people were not accepting, but am glad to say I can finally be out to everyone at work, and be an advocate for same-sex families and change the heteronormative perspective of the people I work with!
    Loving This post!

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