“The right people will understand this. Trust that you will find them.”

Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?

You don’t want to lose them or change them, but you sure do wish you could make them be monogamous! Also: advice on breaking the rejection cycle.

In today’s A+ advice box: is a miscommunication over polyamory really the issue here or is your relationship simply broken and toxic? Plus; advice about feeling insecure when texting a partner and getting into being handy!

Career anxiety, dating after sexaul assault, consent and polyamory and more!

How do you talk to a friend about their messy house and personal hygiene? Plus advice for a therapist who is overstepping, soothing oneself during a friend breakup, and tips for gay stuff in Pittsburgh!

Your server was really bad, but is it ever ok to leave a bad tip? Also, should you give unsolicited relationship advice to a friend?

“It’s not a role that comes naturally to me, so there’s a lot of trust and vulnerability built into it, but also I need to really believe it. Right? If you’re going to top me, top me. I don’t wanna have to convince myself.”

A writer reflects on accessing desire in trying times and the romance of collective liberation — playdates that range from toppy to bratty, a bottom with endearing nonverbal cues, a “hole-within-a-hole,” and a Zoom date with their girlfriend daddy.

“I, too, was a hedonist. I think we still are.”

Will your friend ever want to be something more? Can you be friends with your friend’s ex? The team answers these questions and more!

“I’m not in a place where coming out to my family is a reasonable option. Fortunately, I have a husband who is more than happy to cover me during my prolonged phone conversations with other partners.”

The team answers your questions about keeping those fires burning!

We’re both trying to avoid the lesbian bed death trope, hoping to be remembered in history as lovers, not “really good friends.”

Getting out there after separating from your cishet husband, mixing masculine and feminine style, asking people at the bar to kiss you on your birthday, and more!

If a date doesn’t suggest a meetup, does that mean they’re not interested? Should you break up over differences in how you relate to sex and desire? What’re tips for coping with treatment resistant ADHD? And more!

Feeling bad because of TikTok, boundary setting during sex, what your porn preferences mean, and more!

“Well, if the ceiling collapses, at least it won’t fall on us because this section of ceiling is already missing.”

“I know, now the thought of sleeping in is just as exciting as a full blown affair to me.”

“The playlist that was basically titled: ‘I know I said I’m not into a relationship, but I love you.'”