Riese’s Team Pick: NY Times’ “Modern Love” (Queered)

Every week The New York Times brings us a new Modern Love column which range from dumb to brilliant/beautiful but almost never gay. Often beautiful, but this one, which reader Sameera sent to Laneia and which she sent to me and which I would like to share with you, is called A Free Spirit Who Couldn’t Be Tied Down and it’s also, obviously, queer. But also, it’s just really lovely.


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Marie Lyn Bernard, aka Riese, is an award-winning writer, blogger, journalist, fictionist, copywriter, video-maker and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in the midwest, lost her mind in New York City and is currently making it work in California. Her work has appeared in nine books including "The Bigger the Better, The Tighter The Sweater: 21 Funny Women on Beauty, Body Image and The Hazards of Being Female," "Dirty Girls," and "The Best American Erotica of 2007," magazines including Nylon, Marie Claire, GO, Curve, Interlude, and CollegeBound, and all over the web including nerve.com, Jezebel, Queerty, Emily Books and OurChart (RIP). She was the recapper for The L Word Online and host of Showtime’s Lezberado and her personal blog has earned many dubious honors including Best Personal Blog 2008. Riese has spoken about blogging, community-building, feminism, cyberculture and sexuality at places like BlogHer, Yale, New York University, The University of Chicago and The Museum of Sex. A graduate of the University of Michigan, Interlochen Arts Academy and The Olive Garden's week-long training intensive; she enjoys eating foods, having big ideas, reading books & talking to her stuffed dog, Tinkerbell. Also, she's Jewish. Follow her smokin’ hot adventures on twitter. Contact: riese[at]autostraddle.com

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30 Comments

          • You guys, bylines are your friends.

            I love you all but how many lesbians does it take to read the whole thing?

            “Michelle Nicole Lee is a writer in St. Louis.”

          • Oops, I looked at the wrong window.

            Regardless, it’s still there. I hate the NYTimes.com layout though, it is ridiculously hard to come by information like that.

          • No, it’s not there. We know who wrote the Modern Love piece. We’re wondering who the writer was talking about in her story. Want to join us in our googling frenzy?

          • I can’t reply to Brianna’ post, but jesus christ someone should not have given me a computer today. I seriously thought you guys were talking about the author of the piece. Pfft. In my defense they are both now relatively accomplished writers and I just took the idiot’s path.

            I’ll google with you guys, but I’m not going to post anything for fear my idiot will show.

  1. I think I found her.

    “Miriam Bird Greenberg has taught ESL in rural Japan, flown kites in Tiananmen Square, and eaten marmot on a train traveling through Mongolia. She is finishing her MFA at the University of Texas Michener Center for Writers, and has work forthcoming in Smartish Pace and DIAGRAM.”
    http://www.olemiss.edu/yalobusha/contributors.htm

    and then from her page

    “I grew up in rural Texas, the daughter of leftist Jews involved in the back-to-the-land movement. From an early age I began attempting to communicate with the dead; I wore the silk schoolteachers’ dresses of ancestors a hundred years dead of diphtheria, and collected honey that dripped through cracks in the ceiling to sweeten my tea.”
    http://www.inknode.com/people/cryptozoa

    How could you guys not realize that googling “memoir poem travel fellowship award biography tiananmen pittsburgh” was the key??

  2. Here you can also find a very fascinating photo…
    http://abodeofsnow.wordpress.com/2010/05/10/abraham-burickson-and-miriam-greenberg-read-at-red-hill-books-may-16/

    “Miriam Bird Greenberg grew up on an organic farm in rural Texas and spent her childhood roaming the creeks and caved-in barns in muslin schoolteachers’ dresses left behind by ancestors a hundred years dead of diphtheria. She’s been awarded residencies from Headlands Center for the Arts, a waitership from the Bread Loaf Writers’ Conference, and a Stegner Fellowship. She holds an MFA from the Michener Center for Writers, though she’s also taught EFL in Japan, hitchhiked solo from Montana to Vermont, and flown kites in Tiananmen Square. She lives in Oakland, California, where she’s practicing “settling down.”

  3. Thank you — was just about to start my own sure-to-be failed google search when I found this. (Curious to read Autostraddle now too…hadn’t heard of it.)
    Does anyone remember “A Friendship Too Tight for Breathing Room” ? (From 2007)
    http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/05/fashion/05love.html

    Kind of reminded me a little of this. “IT began like many other romances: an introduction at a party. She and I slid quickly into an easy banter, drifting from the food table to the bar to the couch, smiling and laughing, the sparks between us practically visible. Anyone could see we were falling for each other. There was just one thing: neither of us was a lesbian.”

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