It’s pride weekend and I hope you’re out celebrating with friends and NOT fighting with strangers on the internet. But if I learned one thing from Sarah Schulman’s early novels it’s that queer discourse has existed since before online spaces. You just used to have to knock on someone’s door to let them know you no longer consider them part of your community.
But have you ever wondered which common queer discourse is most like you? Which of these endless arguments shares your essence? Well, now you can find out by pausing the in-fighting and taking this quiz!
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Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.
Drew Burnett has written 738 articles for us.
Is Marriage Heternormative!!
You have no idea how accurate this is for me, because one of the first thoughts I had after realising I was gay in the mid 90s was “thank god I don’t have to get married.”
Obvs in the intervening 30 years I’ve realised legal protections are kind of important, but I remain baffled at all the hetero-style gay weddings that abound. Discoursify me at your peril!!!!!
Bury Your Gays!
Hah! I don’t care much about this particular trope but I’m feeling pretty seen / called out by the description:
Yes, it’s a trope, but it’s also a discourse! And at the core of this discourse is a love of fiction and a belief in its power. You share that love and that belief. You’re someone who is as invested in people on-screen and on the page as you are real life. You can sometimes get lost in your fantasy space, but there are worse places to wander.
No Cops at Pride!
Thank the Gods I got something simple and clear cut, I don’t think I could handle much more.
(And thank you for including the option to ban fairies from Pride. I feel seen!)
I got kink at pride and I feel so seen 💛💛💛💛 Seen just like my full on bare tits and my snazzy leather harness may be ~seen~ by people attending various dyke marches throughout the country.
You are Can Trans Men Be Lesbians!
You are a logical, intellectual person. You view the world through facts and find meaning in organization. Is that not what’s happening on both sides of this discourse? One group says “lesbian means women who love women so logically men can’t be lesbians”, while another correct group says “actually your dictionary is wrong, open up a history book instead.”
I.. I’m gonna use another “problematic” refence to explain this but.. Drew you have have no scope headshot me with this one and I’m honored. I’m also literally in Romania because I need to push that metaphor even further and I cannot stress how much of a callout this is to me personally.
i’m gay
(results were kink, of course)
“Who would you most want to celebrate Pride with?(Required)
Your partner
Fictional characters”
My fictional partner! 🙃