Playlist: Am I in Love With the Person I Had Sex With Once or Is It Cancer Season?

Last week I went to see Liniker e os Caramelows at El Cid in Silver Lake. I’m going to save all the details for when my very own romcom hopefully has a second and third act. But basically this woman approached me and told me I was beautiful and that she liked my whole vibe and then we talked and danced and… had the best sex of my life.

She’s only been in the country for about a week and is still figuring out her phone situation (I guess??) so she’s only texted me twice (from different numbers) and the second time was just a picture she took of us (??). She invited me to go away with her last weekend, but then never gave me any details so… that didn’t happen. I don’t know if I’m about to get murdered or married or literally never hear from her again. And I don’t really care??

ANYWAY I made a playlist to capture this situation and all my feelings and if you also have a lot of feelings this Cancer season and are in love but also obviously not in love then I think you’ll really relate to this journey.

All my playlists have narrative arcs that start with a thesis song because I’m a nerd.

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Drew Burnett Gregory

Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

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  1. “All my playlists have narrative arcs that start with a thesis song because I’m a nerd.”

    i’m so deeply obsessed with you it’s unreal. 💜💜💜

  2. So you’re saying she’s playing Fuck, Marry, Kill with you and possibly not limiting herself to just one choice…

    • Honestly hope that the choices are Fuck and Marry because if Kill comes first it’s gonna be a bit weird

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