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Book Features

Danny Lavery on Queer Wanting, Difficult Experiences, and Oh Yes His New Book

Trying desperately to want less than what one truly requires — and the goodness that comes from giving up that ghost — is a prominent theme in “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” Daniel Lavery’s new collection of essays, out Feb. 11.

Adrian February 10, 2020 9 Comments
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Building Relationships Is Thriving: Interview with Meenadchi

Conflict is meant to happen. Relationships are strengthened by conflict. What are our capacities to engage with conflict in a way that doesn’t destroy us, but help us better understand each other?

Kamala Puligandla January 18, 2020 5 Comments
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“I Am the Terrorist I Must Disarm”: An Interview with Staceyann Chin

I was in high school when I first saw Staceyann Chin perform, barefoot and incensed. She was fearless in her rage, her sexuality, her eloquence. Now, I feel the same reading her as I felt watching all those years ago — as if I’m being granted permission.

Jehan December 10, 2019 7 Comments
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Is the Resurgence of Feminist Bookstores in the South a Moment or a Movement?

Visit five feminist bookstores across the south east that are creating community building and political organizing space as well as curating feminist literature written by authors from different backgrounds holding often marginalized identities.

meagan November 7, 2019 10 Comments
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Toni Morrison Has Died at 88; When I Was 27, She Saved My Life

Maybe that’s why black women love Toni Morrison. She laid bare the kind of secrets that we barely even whispered to each other, the shames that we buried underneath our quick tongues and sisterhood hugs and fashion slays. She wrote for us, and for that she is ours.

Carmen Phillips August 6, 2019 16 Comments
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Are You the Heroine of a Tamora Pierce Novel?

Are you a regular adult human queer person, or have you been the fictional tomboy heroine of a beloved fantasy series this whole time? Only one way to find out.

Rachel July 15, 2019 47 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: For Facing Our Enemies

We stay open, even when our minds are swayed by bitterness and despair, because our queer lives depend on knowing that we don’t have to live like this. We turn in the direction of the sun and keep walking.

Natalie June 24, 2019 4 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: For When it Doesn’t Matter if You Want to Be Her or F*ck Her

H.D. sometimes had a fraught relationship with her own bisexuality, feeling pulled towards either lesbianism or heterosexuality rather than feeling her queerness as an integrated whole. Reconciling her bisexuality was a creative project for her.

Natalie June 17, 2019 2 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: When You Need to Find Your Body

A gut feeling is intuition, sure, but it’s also something that announces HERE is the body, NOW is the body, RIGHT NOW.

Natalie June 10, 2019 7 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: When You Don’t Feel The Need to Explain Anything to the Straights

It’s June, it’s June, we’re living, it’s June. Do you feel our powers rising with the heat, our stares lengthening with the daylight, our desires coming on like freak lightening?

Natalie June 3, 2019 6 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: For Defining Your Boundaries

The line breaks are hard to take. They make the poem feel like a fight: not knowing when to stop, talking over one another, losing your thread, gasping for air through tears.

Natalie May 27, 2019 7 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: For Making an Altar

“Corpse Flower” gathers those petals, each one placed on the altar as every word is placed in the poem. The sweetness of a petal curling up to touch itself.

Natalie May 20, 2019 2 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: For a Stone Sensibility

Bishop wrote seventeen drafts of this poem, so that’s one hundred and thirty six iterations of master and disaster. The losses pile up in a life, and each time you survive them, you have proven to yourself you can withstand more.

Natalie May 13, 2019 14 Comments
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The Perfect Queer Poem: When You Need to Break Up With Your Lover Who Is Also Your Best Friend

So much of what we might think of as queer lyric poetry comes is set by Sappho’s example: her attempts to speak her desire so emphatically that it wills love into existence.

Natalie May 6, 2019 8 Comments
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How I Let Queer Literature Come Out to my Middle School Students for Me

Middle school is weird. It was awkward as hell when I was a hormonal, monstrous, uncertain twelve-year-old, and only slightly less so when I went back to teach English. So when I found myself, a 23-year-old rookie teacher, standing in a cafeteria fielding a question about how lesbian sex works from a seventh grader, I can’t say I had any right to be surprised.

Samantha Panepinto April 17, 2019 29 Comments
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For Your Consideration: Revisiting The Books You Loved in Middle School

You’d be surprised the kind of memories that can be sparked by a simple phrase or even by the look and feel of a book.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 5, 2019 48 Comments
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Mary Oliver, Pulitzer Prize-Winning Lesbian Poet, Is Dead at 83

Mary Oliver, Pulitzer Prize-Winning poet and ardent devotee of the natural world throughout her life, has passed away from lymphoma at the age of 83.

Rachel January 17, 2019 25 Comments
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“They Want Trans Shit to Be a PSA”: A Trans Woman Writers’ Roundtable

“I was going to do a story about trans women arming themselves? And all the edits we got back were like, ‘Can your characters look directly at the reader and quote trans murder statistics from last year?'”

Annie Mok November 20, 2018 9 Comments
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Korean-American Bestselling Author R.O. Kwon Is Bisexual, Has Flawless Signature Eyeshadow

Bestselling author of The Incendiaries is out as bisexual, proud, and giving us big feelings about eyeshadow and representation.

KaeLyn November 9, 2018 10 Comments
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Megan Falley’s “Drive Here and Devastate Me” Is a Love Letter to the Queer Community

Drive Here and Devastate Me, queer femme author Megan Falley’s fourth collection of poetry, is a love letter to the queer community. We talked with Megan about her writing process, femme invisibility, body politics, and of course, love.

Vanessa September 11, 2018 7 Comments
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