Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: When You’re Ace and You Want to Be More Than Friends
What to do when you have a crush on your roommate and you’re both asexual and are definitely more than just friends and definitely don’t know what to do about it.
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You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary at Work
Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.
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You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
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You Need Help: Relearning Sex with Chronic Pain
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
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You Need Help: How Do I Make Out With My Friend?
“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing with her or anything.”
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Fool’s Journey: Where is My Path Leading?
“I’m entirely lost. Which direction should I be heading in right now? Where is my path leading? What should I be putting most of my energy into to one day become an independent and successful person with a flourishing career?” A tarot reading to explore possibilities.
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You Need Help: How Do I NOT Cause a Breakup with a Tough Talk?
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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You Need Help: Will Studying Abroad Break Us Up?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
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You Need Help: Old Sex Toys, New Partners
“So I’ve met someone new. And I’m wondering about my toys. I’ve heard it’s taboo to use the same toys on a new partner.”
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You Need Help: You Want the Job, But Don’t Feel Qualified
I’ve been on both sides of the hiring table. I’ve been the one applying for a job and the one interviewing job applicants. Here’s what I’ve learned.
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You Need Help: Is She “The One”?
HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?
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How to Stop Biting Your F*cking Nails
There is a world in which your nails do not bleed onto paper and you don’t want to cry from how much it hurts to do anything with your hands (which is a lot of things), and it is a world you could most definitely come to live in in time.
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You Need Help: People Are Nosy About Your Binder
What to do if your friends and family start asking about that new binder you’re wearing.
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You Need Help: When a Yeast Infection is Cramping Your Sex Style
Let’s get down to business. The business of getting down to business with an itchy vag.
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You Need Help: Will You Grow Together or Grow Apart?
“When my boyfriend came out to me as trans, he was worried what that would mean for me and us. It’s a few months later and I should be really happy for him. And I am! But I’m starting to feel kind of lost and scared and I don’t know if it has to do with the fact, that he is, of course, changing.”
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You Need Help: You Want Different Things
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
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You Need Help: What’s My Label?
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Says Offensive Stuff and You Aren’t Sure How to Deal
Sometimes we love people who don’t share our same value systems or knowledge sets. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love them, but it can mean we need to work hard to make sure we aren’t compromising our own values just to placate them.
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”