Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?
I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to have so many areas in your life where coming out simply isn’t an option.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.
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The 8 Most Asked You Need Help Questions, Answered
Love and sex and internalized homophobia and, yes, straight girls.
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You Need Help: How Do I Spice Up My Relationship?
So you’re not looking for anything new… but something has got to change for you to feel more fulfilled in this relationship.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How to Approach Safer Sex with Multiple Partners
Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.
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Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious
The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
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You Need Help: Post-Divorce Feelings
“It’s so important to learn lessons from past loves without them negatively affecting or preventing us from being able to give our all to future loves. How to do that, though, is so difficult, and I guess is the work of being human.”
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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You Need Help: You Don’t Know What To Do With Your Clit
Every body has a history; yours doesn’t preclude you from pleasure. Go forth and jam!
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You Need Help: You Want to Have Sex But Also Sex Is a Lot Wow So Complicated
You and your girlfriend don’t have to have sex unless you both want to have sex, no matter how long you’ve been dating. But also if you DO wanna have sex while respecting your history of trauma, here are some tips!
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You Need Help: You’re in Love with a Straight Girl and You Want It to Stop
Take a deep breath. You can get through this.
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You Need Help: When You’re Ace and You Want to Be More Than Friends
What to do when you have a crush on your roommate and you’re both asexual and are definitely more than just friends and definitely don’t know what to do about it.
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You Need Help: When Strap-On Sex Leaves (Accidental) Bruises
Strap-on sex shouldn’t leave any bruises unless you want it to.
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You Need Help: Relearning Sex with Chronic Pain
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
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You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary at Work
Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.