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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, when she was 22-years-old. Her hair is dark and down, and she's wearing a black backpack and a teal sleeveless buttondown. There's pink glitter on the lower left and upper right corners of the image.
Playlists

Playlist: I’m Turning 30 Tomorrow — Here Are 20 Songs From My Twenties

Every gay person has told me your thirties rule, and I BELIEVE it!!!!!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya May 29, 2022 6 Comments
Hayley Kiyoko is wearing sparkles and laying in a bed of roses, singing into the camera in the For The Girls music video
Music

Lesbian Jesus Is Back! Hayley Kiyoko Is the Gay Bachelor in New Music Video, Starring Becca Tilley

Hayley Kiyoko drops new single “For The Girls” and a video that more-or-less seems to acknowledge her relationship with former Bachelor contestant Becca Tilley.

Em Win May 20, 2022 4 Comments
The musician Fabi Reyna has her hair slicked back and is leaning against an outdoor wall. They are wearing a brown bomber jacket that is open, wide legged brown trousers, a thick white belt, and white boots.
Music

Celebrating Ten Years of She Shreds Magazine: An Interview with Fabi Reyna

“In my opinion, music is the tool for distributing change through culture, through messaging, through community and collective vision.”

danijanae May 19, 2022 2 Comments
A makeshift recording studio with a laptop and a beats machine
Music

Black Queers Look For Accountability in Kendrick Lamar’s “Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers”

It’s not hard to listen to Black queer & trans folks and get this shit correct.

Amari Gaiter and shea wesley martin
May 18, 2022 7 Comments
The album cover for Kehlani's "blue water road" features Kehlani on a stone-lined beach wearing a white buttondown, and their hair is blowing in the wind.
Music

Kehlani’s New Album “Blue Water Road” Is a Sensual Exploration of Self

Sensuality is the overarching theme of the album, even in songs that are not explicitly about romantic entanglements. You can find it in bass lines, or just the overall vibe.

Sa'iyda Shabazz May 13, 2022 2 Comments
In a still from "Get Me Outta Here," Chrishell Stause and G Flip are making out. Chrishell Stause is wearing jeans and a dark tank. G Flip is wearing jeans and a black mesh tank and a hat.
Music

7 Minutes in 7-Eleven: Chrishell and G Flip Take Big Gulps of Each Other

Sometimes you just gotta make out with and choke out someone in a convenience store, you know?

Anya Richkind May 12, 2022 22 Comments
Photo 1: The album Not So Brave by Gully Boys. Photo 2: A Fire On Venus by Brittney Chantele. Photo 3: in defense of my own happiness by Joy Oladokun. Photo 4: Moments In Between by Mini Trees. Photo 5: COLORWAY by DESTIN CONRAD. Photo 6: AFTER DINNER WE TALK DREAMS by MICHELLE. Photo 7: Thicker Than Water by rum.gold. Photo 8: Not So Brave by Gully Boys
Music Quizzes

Quiz: Which Album by a Queer Artist/Band Should You Stream Next?

You should listen to every one of these albums, but there’s one out there that’s just right for you.

danijanae May 8, 2022 20 Comments
The album cover of You Can't Fuck The Internet features Amelia Jackie in red lipstick being spoonfed liquid
Music

You Can’t Fuck the Internet but You Can Try: An Interview With Queer Folk Singer-Songwriter Amelia Jackie

As I listen through Amelia Jackie’s queer folk album, again and again, I feel a fullness that is not unlike eating your favorite comfort food.

danijanae April 25, 2022 6 Comments
The following albums are featured: Baduizm by Erykah Badu, Love Deluxe by Sade, Brown Sugar by D’Angelo, Janet by Janet Jackson, I’m Your Baby Tonight by Whitney Houston, Toni Braxton by Toni Braxton, and The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill by Lauryn Hill
Music Quizzes

Quiz: Which 90s R&B Album Are You?

I find myself turning to 90s R&B when I’m really in my feelings. Like deep in my feelings.

danijanae April 24, 2022 18 Comments
Mal Blum's new EP Ain't It Nice
Music

Mal Blum on Their New EP “Ain’t It Nice,” Queer Americana, and Finding Humor in Sorrow

“Who cares that I don’t usually release country, or that it’s not on brand? None of this stuff matters. It’s like, if you want to share your art, then do it, because you don’t know how long you have.”

Yashwina April 15, 2022 5 Comments
The album cover for Syd's Broken Hearts Club features a flower arch with the words Broken Hearts Club on it and a claymation person standing next to a shattered heart.
Music

Syd’s Album “Broken Hearts Club” Beautifully Captures the Highs and Lows of Queer Love

Syd’s new album is a musically beautiful illustration of the excitement, joy, sensuality, passion, and pain that accompany love.

Amari Gaiter April 15, 2022 2 Comments
Photo 1: King Princess performs onstage with a guitar. Photo 2: Amandla Stenberg stares at the camera in black and white. There's a broken heart between them.
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff) Music

Charting Celesbian Breakup Albums: “Cheap Queen” and “Valentine”

Queer celebrity breakup albums are just the next phase of evolution from reading into celebrity post-breakup tweets. Because after all, what is a breakup album if not just a really long subtweet? 

Analyssa March 21, 2022 11 Comments
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya at age 13 wears a green bejeweled dress for her 8th grade dance. A piece of notebook paper reads: Will you go to the dance with me? Yes, no, maybe.
Playlists

Playlist: Let’s Have a Middle School Dance Party

I asked queer adults to choose songs with the most middle school dance vibes, and the results smell like Axe bodyspray and taste like gum. Plus, read the real, true story of me kind of rudely rejecting a boy before my own 8th grade dance!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 10, 2022 11 Comments
The singer Lucy Dacus sitting in an empty movie theater
Music

Slow Takes: Lucy Dacus’ “Home Video” and the Representation of Specificity

Home Video isn’t universal. It’s not even universally queer. It’s solely and specifically Lucy Dacus.

Drew Burnett Gregory March 3, 2022 5 Comments
A white person with light skin and long brown hair wears a black blazer and is conducting, with their arms in motion.
First Person Music

The Double Lives of Queer Church Musicians

Many of my colleagues and I have left church music leadership entirely.

Cat Dean February 15, 2022 23 Comments
A young Asian woman reclines on a couch listening to music on her smartphone. She is wearing a red dress.
Playlists Valentine's Day

Playlist: Love Songs Gifted By Exes

I asked some of my friends whether they had any love songs that they still love today, originally given to them by exes.

Analyssa February 13, 2022 7 Comments
Jasmin wearing all black and playing guitar on either side of her are pole dancers also wearing all black, the set is lit with pink and blue light.
Music Pop Culture Fix

Five Things to do While Listening to Jasmin Savoy Brown’s “Orange Wine”

This song is well-suited for so many licentious scenarios.

danijanae February 11, 2022 5 Comments
the album cover of tegan and sara's "so jealous" and the album cover of tegan and sara's still jealous
Music

Every Song on Tegan and Sara’s “So Jealous,” Ranked

The melodrama of So Jealous is hard to resist. It’s emotionally indulgent heartbreak music, whether your heart is breaking or not. And now, it’s back.

phoenix February 11, 2022 14 Comments
Artwork for "We Found Love" by Rihanna, "Challengers" by New Pornographers, "Day Dreaming" by Aretha Franklin, "With You" by Jessica Simpson, "Make You Feel My Love" by Adele, "Slow Show" by The National, "The Only Exception" by Paramore, and "Body" by Syd
Playlists

Playlist: I Asked My Friends What the Most Romantic Song of All Time Is, And Now They’re All Mad At Me

A crowdsourced Valentine’s Day-ish playlist presents a broad spectrum of definitions of “romantic.” In other words: Here’s some romantic chaos.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 6, 2022 39 Comments
A collage of the divas featured in the quiz
Music Quizzes

Quiz: Which 70s Soul/Disco Diva Are You?

We often romanticize the 70s for the music and the fashion — the two best parts about the decade. But could you really hack it as a badass babe in that era?

danijanae January 23, 2022 20 Comments
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