NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Welcomes You to Reverse Cuffing Season

The feature image of Daddy Ashley and Ava The Gimp and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

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Madame Futch

Madame Futch from Mondo Fetiche

Are we probably entering a reverse cuffing season (i.e., a cuffing season in summer instead of winter, not a break-up season, which is how I personally read that initially)?:

“I suspect that people are horny, but they’re also awkward after months of sheltering in place and not dating. For many people, the pandemic has also solidified the boundaries of social circles, as people have dropped socializing that doesn’t feel totally necessary in the thick of the pandemic (bye, co-worker you only chatted with while waiting for the microwave). Trust and the importance of disclosures has never felt more important, as people have shared their movements and covid precautions in the same way you might disclose your sexual history to a potential partner. The idea of keeping things simple and pursuing one relationship seriously might seem appealing to people who’ve already had to juggle the whereabouts and vaccination status of family and friends.”

lesbian soccer lust part 2

Lesbian Soccer Lust part 2 from Mondo Fetiche

Breaking up in the pandemic, which we are still in? Here’s how to make it suck less:

“Breakups, generally speaking, are shit. Not simply painful on their own, they can often make everything else hurt, too. From random triggers like finding a piece of popcorn in your teeth (true story), to being brought to tears by the physical experience of laughing again (also, sadly, true), breaking up can make every day feel like a minefield of emotional tender spots. Tending to this tenderness takes time and persistence. It can prove difficult — even when we’re not in the midst of a global pandemic. Typical suggestions for coping include getting out there again, meeting new people, reconnecting with old friends. But typical solutions don’t apply so well to atypical situations like our present moment.”

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Daddy Ashley and Ava The Gimp

Daddy Ashley and Ava The Gimp from Mondo Fetiche

Queer sex ed could save lives, experts say:

“Grecia Magdaleno, policy and advocacy manager at LGBTQ+ youth organization Illinois Safe Schools Alliance, has been pushing for queer-inclusive sex education in Illinois […] Queer-inclusive sex ed would help all students, they argue.

‘If it’s trans inclusive, that means that all students, whether they’re trans or not, are going to get information and learn about the community, and learn about that identity and the world that comes with it. And that in turn builds camaraderie,’ they said. ‘It lowers disproportionate rates of violence, discrimination and harassment against, trans and gender expansive students, especially those who are people of color.'”

Leatherboy Glovefuck

Leatherboy Glovefuck from Mondo Fetiche

On dating apps, a lot of people are ghostwriting for each other. Sometimes that can help you do a better job of conveying what you want to say or take a risk, but sometimes it can get in the way of making a connection as yourself:

“The occasional edit or assist is welcome, but there may be some downsides to asking for too much input in your messages, says Damona Hoffman, a dating coach and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast. Some people may want a ghostwriter because they’re insecure about their likeability, or they want a safety net if they get rejected — so it’s not all on them if someone doesn’t reply to a message. But if someone is doing all of your messaging, whether it’s a friend or a professional, your match may not get as authentic of a read on you, Hoffman says. That could lead to a disconnect down the road, when you meet in person. That said, this can happen anytime you message someone for too long before meeting them — which many of us are doing, a consequence of the pandemic. ‘Sometimes people don’t seem as clever or quippy in person as they did when they had time to write a message, whether someone was helping them or not,’ Hoffman says. ‘Ultimately, messaging is not a real gauge of compatibility.'”

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1099 articles for us.

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