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Betty Blac and Kitty Stryker in Crash Pad Series episode 132

You can practice queer sex witchcraft alone or with a partner, writes Tracey Duncan at Broadly. Here’s how:

“The purpose of sex magic is to harness the energy created during sexual exchanges and focusing it toward a desired result or intention. Those can be whatever you like: Some witches I spoke with used sex magic to alter their appearances, get jobs, and cut cords with negative people. ‘There is an amplified intensity to sexual interaction that is sacred and primal,’ says AJ Durand, a New Orleans–based esoterica teacher. ‘Ritual sex magic can be an open forum of intention and a tool of enlightenment.'”

Odile and Daisy Ducati in Crash Pad Series episode 160

Gestalta is a shibari performance artist. At Broadly, she writes about the different ways to be tied and what it’s like to go from model to rigger:

“Being tied, as opposed to being the one doing the tying, is a very different mentality. What people often don’t realize is that as the person being tied, you have a huge amount of control over the situation. You’ve aware of everything. Whereas the person who’s tying can sometimes feel a little powerless, because you’re having to guess what’s going on in the other person’s body. You have to really listen to the other person and read their reactions and empathize with how they’re feeling, but as you’re not in their body, a lot of it can be guesswork. So the initial, really scary part was guessing what was going on in the other person’s head.”

Chocolate Chip and Nikki Darling in Crash Pad Series episode 152

Nudism can be one way to learn body positivity.

Fuck getting married.

It’s probably fine to sleep with your ex, says science.

Here’s how to get rid of ingrown hairs.

Here are some dating apps that aren’t Tinder.

Not all breakups are romantic. Here’s how to break up with a friend.

Kimberly Kills and Sparky Sin Claire in Crash Pad episode 101

That feeling when you’re dating and you’re really into someone but she’s just not into you? That’s called an asymmetrically committed relationship, according to researchers:

“According to their findings, people with increased odds of being just not that into you, scientifically speaking, tend to perceive themselves as having more potential alternative partners, or a sort of “plenty of fish” mentality. They are also likely to be attachment avoidant, with a higher number of prior relationship partners and a history of cheating in their current relationship. (So, a lot of the traits you’d probably expect.) Additionally, people with divorced parents aren’t any more likely to be less committed, but people whose parents never married are.”

Cosmic and Miss Yum in Crash Pad Series episode 246

Eventually, you’ll get over your ex. Build a support system, journal, remember that feelings aren’t facts, take a Tylenol, give it three months, and focus on how you’re growing:

“The story of your relationship is over, so you can’t rewrite it. Instead, try to focus on the fact that you will grow from this experience. Just because it’s over for your relationship doesn’t mean it was a waste of time. ‘Grief does shape us in big ways, says Lodro Rinzler.”

And if you find yourself fixated, try to consciously redirect your thoughts.

Bhuma Belle and Tinder in Crash Pad episode 170

Here’s why people in relationships sometimes have their own private languages:

“Regardless of the form they take, these languages help build intimacy in relationships. It seems people intuitively understand this: When a friend of mine met my partner, she told me he seemed like a keeper, in part because of our shared language. “Couples create ‘rituals of connection’ to keep their ‘culture of two’ strong, private language being one type of those rituals,” says Carol Bruess, director of family studies at the University of St. Thomas in Minnesota. “When couples have their own language rituals … they feel like they know one another in a way that others don’t, and that they have a strong connection or bond to each other. They have their own little private world.” A 1993 study by Bruess and her colleague Judy C. Pearson in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that couples in happier marriages used more private language.”

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