Madonna Says It Gets Better on Ellen, Also More From the Skins USA Lesbian


Madonna knows she is too big to be contained by webcam so she kicked it up a notch and made a special Ellen appearance to add her voice to the It Gets Better Project.

“I wouldn’t have a career if it weren’t for the gay community. I feel like it would be incredibly remiss of me to not say something.”

She also attributes the support of her gay ballet teacher to making her feel more comfortable in her own skin as a teen:

“It wasn’t until my ballet teacher, who was also gay, took me under his wing and introduced me to a community of artists of other unique individuals who told me it was good and okay to be different and brought me to my first gay disco and ironically made me feel I was part of the world and it was okay to be different. There was no group that I felt apart of — I just felt like a weirdo. Everyone should have someone in their life that they can feel encouragement from.”

Coincidentally, Sandra Bernhard brought Madge’s name up on The Wendy Williams Show just yesterday where she mentions she and Madonna are no longer tight but “were a really good example of two women being friends.”  Wendy probes asking “did she mess it up for you guys?” and Sandra doesn’t get into it but I think we all know the dyke drama that went down back in ’88 when Madonna stole Sandra’s then-girlfriend Ingrid Casares, right?

Madonna Ingrid Casares

If you’re still with me and haven’t seen this infamous ’88 Letterman appearance, drop everything and watch immediately.


Sofia Black-D’Elia, who plays Tea (THE LESBIAN) (replacing the gay boy from the original Skins UK) in Skins USA has a video where she talks about her character, but there’s no mention of lesbian sex. YET. Episode #2 will be Tea’s, so you can look forward to heaps of girl-on-girl action, FINGERS CROSSED.

In this video, she holds a talking stick:

To be honest, I’m excited for Skins USA. Why? because I loved Skins (original) SO FUCKING MUCH that I would, literally, if asked, sit through a word-for-word re-enactment of Skins UK by the Skins USA cast without one single difference. Sometimes, when I can’t sleep at night, I look at Skins-themed tumblrs or search “Skins” on weheartit and look at pictures of people from Skins.


Didn’t think it was possible but Glee manages to out-gay itself each week and last night was no exception. Darren Criss made his smokin’ hot debut last night as Kurt’s maybe/probably/likely future boyfriend. Facebook Like!.

Elsewhere, Sue Sylvester is apparently getting married – to a woman? Como say what now? The cast is dropping hints to the affirmative all over the place.  I’m going to have many weird feelings if she winds up marrying Coach Beiste – how about you? (@eonline)


A pretty critical look at GLAAD: Is GLAAD Hollywood’s Latest Bully? The usage of the term “bullying” is almost ironically in poor taste, but the article makes some valid points. It has seemed lately like GLAAD has been screaming so loudly, so persistently, that it’s only a matter of time before it falls on deaf ears. Thoughts.

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  1. Glee just finished airing here and OH MY GOD. GAYEST THING EVER. I think my uber Christian friend is going to complain about being banned from watching it.

    Did anyone else want to give Kurt and Coach Beiste a box of kittens?

  2. The whole It Gets Better thing – as I said before, I don’t think IT gets better, I think you get better at dealing with it. But to have straight people jumping on this bandwagon, talking about how it gets better, when they haven’t lived it themselves for two seconds . . . I question it. Offer support, fine. But to tell people what their lives are going to be like when you don’t know shit about it – let’s call this bullshit for what it is.

    “I wouldn’t have a career if it weren’t for the gay community.”
    Yeah, and that has fuck all to do with how gay kids feel.


    • I feel the same way about “It Gets Better.” I want to believe that a lot of the privileged straight people that do it have good intentions, but at the end of the day, telling people it gets better is pretty vague. I feel like we should be telling kids “You can make your situation better if and when you leave that awful school system you’re in” or “It gets better, because by your senior year, you couldn’t care less.” “It gets better” is what I was told in high school and it always frustrated me, because it really doesn’t give much direction. Sorry, it always makes me a little uncomfortable.

      • “I want to believe that a lot of the privileged straight people that do it have good intentions, but at the end of the day, telling people it gets better is pretty vague.”

        Correct. What isn’t vague, however, is wanting to make money/gain publicity off this thing. Madonna has been doing this with the gay community for years, and Lady Gaga is doing it now. Interestingly, they mostly get bucks from the gay MALE community, who couldn’t care less about those two people making money off of them, because Madonna and Lady Gaga are women, and therefore inconsequential.

        “I feel like we should be telling kids “You can make your situation better if and when you leave that awful school system you’re in . . .”


  3. I’m waiting for Lady’s GaGa’s contribution to the IGB Project…I’m surprised she hasn’t done anything, yet.

    • In my opinion “she hasn’t done anything” really isnt’ fair. Sure, she hasn’t made a video yet, but she launched huge political things in support of the gay community which is WAY more important and pertinent for gays. :)

      • That’s true, but because issues in the gay community are so close to her heart, you’d think that she’d be all over this campaign with rainbow-striped bells on.

        I’d like to see something low-key and quiet from her. I don’t want to see her do an IGB music video or stage show. I’d just like to see her in front of a webcam, no make-up, just honest and open, nothing scripted.

  4. I gotta say, while I think GLAAD is quick to jump on people, the way that the word “tranny” keeps popping up in the popular media is really getting on my nerves. Yeah, it’s true, Glee is gay-friendly, but that doesn’t mean Glee is trans-friendly. :/

  5. There have been articles already stating that the article on GLAAD was a hit piece. In other words, an article designed to attack an organization that has been attacking a hollywood studio film. Check for more specifics. It is chilling stuff.

  6. fer reals:re:glaad hit piece. i just read through all of the links above and that piece on glaad is just crapola to me. i’s not OK to be queer or transphobic..ever! who cares if they tell you 30million times in one month. that means theyre doing their job and you’re (hollywood/media) not. duhs.
    and the IGB project-tots mainstream..i’m not so into it, or the pro-dadt stuff. the fashionable hag-run WHITE mainstream gay thing is just kinda nasty to me.

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