Love & Canada: Whatever Happens, This Wedding Is Happening

Oh my gosh you guys it's almost here, oh my gosh.

I should probably write about being excited, and I am, but if I'm being totally honest at least 30% of it is about not having to think about planning a wedding any more. I've always been more excited to marry Shannon then to get married to Shannon, which I believe is how it should be, but I'm especially looking forward to my brain and free time back. It seems ironic to have to ignore a partner you love so you can get stuff done related to a partner you love, but normally Shannon and I go out often and get or make dinner and see friends or don't or go for walks or drives or explore and generally spend a lot of time intentionally immersed in each other, and it seems ridiculous that planning a wedding together has cut down that time. And this wedding isn't even especially big or complicated — the life things around it sure are, and Saturday at sunset is standing tall and bright and not just because everything needs to have been long don...

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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

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